"Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose"
Kris Kristofferson (Me and Bobby McGee)
Once there is nothing left to fight about or fight for, you are free. Once you give up all the drama, all the resentment, anger and nonsense, you are free. AND once you stop living someone else's life ... THEN you are free.
There is nothing left to lose because it is not that important... only YOU are. You don't really begin to live until you have lost everything.
Once all the things that you once considered SO important are gone, you can really begin to feel calm, content and at peace. All that 'stuff' that you were fighting so hard to keep a tight grip on, so afraid to lose; only loses its significance.
When you are wound up so tight, trying to hold everything together, EVERYTHING becomes of the utmost importance. When the job, another person, material possessions, anyone or anything is too critical to your survival, you lose. The only thing critical to your survival is YOU.
This is what this journey is all about, coming to the conclusion that nothing is that crucial ... all the things you were so concerned about, just decrease in value as you evolve into the person that you are meant to be.
You don't have to literally lose anything, just your attachment to it. Let go of expectations, attachments and live your own life, for you, nothing else is as important.
Steve Jobs was quoted as saying "remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life."