#574

Stop going back and forth
on your ideas because of fear.

You're confusing the Universe.

Decide what you want and stick with it. You'll notice things starting to shift in your favour.

We all do that, don't we, jump in and out of our resolve? We REALLY want to win the lottery, start our own business, commit to someone or something, have a baby.... it doesn't matter what it is that's on the agenda at the moment, it's a big deal and it's very scary. So, we think we want it and in the next second, we think maybe we don't and on and on it goes. 

You would think that winning the lottery would be the greatest adventure ever, but would it? Really? There are so many variables to such an extreme financial gain that the average person simply would not have the consciousness to accept the radical changes. It seems like it would be all lollipops and rainbows, but a sudden windfall of that magnitude can throw your life into a tailspin. Sometimes it is a blessing that you don't get what you want. 

There is always a reason why things don't happen the way you want them to and hesitating, waffling, or being scared to death are signals that you are not ready to go down that road. The decision is up to you, you can have whatever you want.... the trick is to decide what you want and be persistent in your resolve. 

#573

People have trained you

to care about how they think,

because it's important to

most people who are

living conditionally

for you to

create conditions they

can live with.

Abraham-Hicks

You know who these people are, the ones that you are always trying to impress, the ones that trained you to keep their needs in the forefront at all times. They may be a parent, a partner, a sibling, your children, your best friend, your boss, it doesn't matter who they are, they have a firm grasp on your emotions. 

There is something about you that makes people choose you to mold -  you may be cooperative or fun, a people pleaser or maybe you just have something they want - they see a trait in you that they admire and they want to have it too. Whatever the reason, you have been chosen..... your job now is to care about how they think and to support their opinions, at all times.

Some people will only love you as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop. You have been chosen ONLY for what you can do for him/her. It usually takes a simple dispute to see the relationship slowly dissolve. Spend your time on those that love you unconditionally, don't waste it on those that only love you when the conditions are right for them.

You only need to care about what YOU think, don't waste your time trying to create conditions for someone else's thoughts.

#572 

Live in the moment, it's all there is.  

This is not easy to do, I have found. Your mind is always projecting the things that need to be done, or the event you have to plan, or any number of things that distract you from whatever is in the NOW. 

But even though it isn't easy, it is necessary, because you are missing your life. You are missing what is happening right now in the present. When you are waiting for the week-end, waiting for Christmas, or simply waiting for something more exciting, you miss what is.  

You are wishing your life away.. BE PRESENT.

Always say yes to the present moment... Surrender to what is. Say yes to life... and see how life starts working for you rather than against you. Eckhart Tolle

How do you think you go about living for today and only today? First, you need to silence your mind. So tune in.... this requires sitting still, meditating or contrarily, jogging, or walking. You can do anything that fits into your routine, anything that gives you free head space, and body awareness. Meditation is perfect for freeing up the mind, but if you aren't into meditation, or you just can't sit still then; go for a nature walk, nothing is more freeing... look around, use all of your senses and be aware of all that is. The flora and fauna, the wildlife, the scents, feel the wind and the sunshine. There is so much to explore, and before you know it you are PRESENT in the experience. TA DA! 

You can recreate this experience in meditation or simply in your mind, each time you need to bring yourself back to the present moment. Your life is NOW, be present and enjoy every minute. 

#571

You are the creator of your own reality, and so you are not in jeopardy. You do not need to control the behaviour of others in order for you to thrive.

Your attention to things that you think they do that keeps you from your thriving is, in fact, what keeps you from thriving...

It is not what they do to you; it's what you do to you in fear of what you think that they will do to you.

Abraham-Hicks

Does this make sense? My take on what Abraham is saying is that too much time is spent worrying about other people - what they think, what they are doing, why they didn't do something you wished they had, why they said what they did etc. 

You have no control over what anyone is doing, saying, or thinking.

The point is - it is none of your business what anyone else is doing, thinking or saying, even if it is about you.... it is their opinion, that's it, not truth.  It is most definitely not your business what they think of you. Furthermore, worrying is wasted energy, and control is an illusion. 

You worrying about their actions, whatever you think they may or may not do, is keeping you from moving forward. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing, it is your journey and your vibration. You are in charge, you are the creator of your experience. You may think that whatever they are doing to you is slowing your progress, but YOU putting all your attention on what you think they do or being afraid of what they may do is what keeps you from moving forward.  

You are creating stress in your life when you allow others to be the center of your attention. You need to concentrate on you, your life, what you are doing and leave the others to handle their own experience. 

#570

You are never in the wrong place.

But sometimes you are in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.

Abraham-Hicks

We often think that maybe we did something wrong, that we're being punished, or maybe we didn't think it through  because there must be some reason that we are standing here doing this, this was so not on the agenda....We must just be in the wrong place.

You are never in the wrong place or at the wrong time. You never stay too long, there are no mistakes. You are exactly where you need to be at all times. You always stay precisely as long as you need to. Everything is perfectly orchestrated and will happen as it is meant to happen.

If something is happening in your life that shocks you, makes you feel that you shouldn't be where you are, makes you ask 'what did I do to deserve this?' then it is a lesson. There is something that you need to see that will aid you on your journey. Open your mind and accept that you are directed and always heading in the right direction.

There is a reason for everything, nothing is random.... even when things appear random, there is a reason. It's simply how you look at things. 

"Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change."

Dr. Wayne Dyer

 "Your observation of the conditions that exist now is the reason that you keep repeating a pattern that holds away the things you want. It's really that simple."  Abraham-Hicks

#569


Many of us were taught to put
ourselves last and as a 
consequence we attracted 
feelings of being unworthy and
undeserving. As those feelings 
lodged within us, we continued
to attract more life situations
that had us feel more unworthy
and not enough. You must
change that thinking.

Easier said than done, right? 

We all know that when you have been told often enough you tend to believe whatever is dished out. And if you never put yourself first, it is never even on your radar to do so. In fact, it makes you feel selfish if you do.

Therefore, if you began with these issues firmly established, of course, you will be feeling devalued. What you can do is recognize that this is the problem, the one that causes you to morph in more of the same type of people that will take advantage, that perpetuate your feelings of inadequacy. Once recognized, you are back in charge of yourself. You can decide not to allow anyone to have power over you ever again.  

You teach people how to treat you, and if you always put others first, you are teaching them that you come second.

Think about the fact that if you are not happy, no one around you is happy. You need to take care of yourself first so that you are able to take care of others. When you feel loved and cared for, you will make others feel the same.

Love yourself first, so you know what you are worth.

#568

Why is it so impossible to get
where I need to be?

Because I am already where I 
need to be.

Byron Katie

We are always exactly where we NEED to be, not always where we WANT to be. And we have always and will continue to always get what we NEED, not necessarily what we WANT. 

You are here for a reason. The Universe is working to make the reason clear to you and aid you in accomplishing what you are here to do. When you decide, during your journey, that you want something, if it will aid you in your quest, you will receive it. If it is not coming to you, it is, no doubt, not what you need. The fact that it is not coming to you, is a way of showing you that something is not aligned correctly.

There will be times when you look back at a major pivotal point in your life and realize that if you had been given what you had ranted, raved, begged, pleaded and prayed for, you would not be where you are today. You will realize that if you HAD manifested the longed-for item, person, position or experience it would not have put you in the desired position.

"Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck." Dalai Lama

You are where you need to be right now. There is something you are learning or teaching and you are occupied. You will progress when the time is right. There are no mistakes, you never stay too long and you are never in wrong place at the wrong time. YOU ARE EXACTLY WHERE YOU NEED TO BE.

#567

The reason adults are 
so grumpy is because
they're taking life
too seriously. Abraham

That's why the
little ones are
happier than you
are, they still
Believe. You haven't
convinced them that

life sucks" AH

It is a well-known fact that it becomes harder to keep the fun alive in your life once your reach adulthood. All the responsibilities that come with that position can knock the fun right out of you, and yes, make you grumpy. That is, of course, if you let it. As with everything, it's all about your attitude. Life really doesn't suck, but it certainly will if you think it does. You decide how everything is in your world. You are what you think.  Think about that for awhile, really think about it. 

We all have exactly the life we want. If you think life is great, that you can have anything you want, then that is the way it will be. Of course, if you are motivated by fear, your life will reflect that as well. 

When I said that we all have the life we want, I meant that. So why is that you don't have it all, that's what you want, isn't it? You are possibly sending conflicting messages to the Universe. You are stating what you want, but at the same time, you are denying that wish because of a fear of failure, success, unworthiness etc. 

To get what you want, you need to find happiness within, release happy, contented, grateful energy to the Universe and be prepared to receive. It is really that simple. Eliminate negativity in your life, you can't afford one moment of negativity..... think happy thoughts.

#566 If you met your exact self as another person, would you like them?

Reflect on this, I mean, really take a look at it. Would you like this person that is you? 

Think about how you are with your friends. Are you fun to be around, helpful, kind, compassionate, and loving? Do you consider yourself funny? Are you available, and willing to try new things? What about loyal? 

If you were to really think about what you bring to the table, how would you rate yourself as a friend? Everyone is looking for the perfect friend and/or the perfect mate. That is a bit of a fantasy, isn't it. Are you perfect? No one is perfect. 

You want people around you that are 'there' for you when times are tough, that support you, no matter what. Are you that person? 

This is the crux of the matter... if you want to surround yourself with people with admirable qualities, that fulfill the above qualifications, you too, must be that person. You can't expect anyone to put up with anything less, it would be a superficial friendship at best. 

So be that person, be the person you want in your life. It all comes back to you, and the original question.... if you met your exact self as another person, would you like them? 

Be a good friend to yourself, be a good person, be the kind of person you wish you had in your life, because who you are is exactly who you've got.

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#565

"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music." Friedrich Nietzche

This is the way it is, anything different, anything out of your realm of possibility or normalcy is dismissed as being outlandish, insane or even certifiable. It is just too far out to even be considered as something a sane person would contemplate, and therefore not worth your attention.

This is true of many things.... if someone ventures too far from the conventional path, dancing to their own drum, it seems to evoke criticism and judgment from the masses. Why is that? What is so scary about someone doing something different or being a free-thinking individual? We are not sheep.

We each have different feelings, attitudes, talents, experiences, and social/ethnic backgrounds.  We are each on our own path and the non-conformists have a reason for being, the same as everyone else. Perhaps their purpose is to show us enjoyment or fulfillment. When you are doing what you WANT to do, life flows more smoothly, stress is lessened and you will reap the benefits with your health and well-being.  

Also, it really isn't up to anyone else how you run your life. No rigid thinker has a firmer grasp on life than you do. Life is not about schedules and spreadsheets, you are here to experience, not stagnate. It takes courage to go against the grain, to be all that you can be when so many are against your self-expression. Stand firm and be yourself. 

If you are one of the lucky ones that can hear the music, I hope you dance.  

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#564

THERE COMES

A TIME WHEN YOU

HAVE TO STOP

CROSSING OCEANS

FOR PEOPLE WHO

WON'T EVEN JUMP

A PUDDLE FOR

YOU.

You know what I mean by this.... why are you doing everything for everyone... who is doing for you?

The sad part is, not even YOU are doing for YOU. It is always nice to be kind and considerate, it's nice to help others and it makes you feel good to be the one to be doing this, but you need to factor yourself into the equation. You cannot habitually be the one giving without ever being on the receiving end. Take a look at the situation..... is it totally one-sided? Are you jumping through hoops for someone that doesn't fit you into their schedule? Is it consistently about them, and never about you? Are you wondering how things got so far out of hand and why you are in this situation?  

Does this relationship have absolutely NOTHING to do with you? 

Is it all about them?

This is a case of trying too hard, and that IS the problem. Relationships are worth fighting for, but you can't be the only one fighting. So if you are trying to salvage a relationship, if you are not getting back what you are giving out; take the time to tune into yourself and find out why you are allowing yourself to be disrespected. Check your self-esteem levels, they may be a little low. Don't ever compromise yourself for any relationship, you deserve only the very best and all you have to do is realize that.

#563

Do you really need
to believe
what you believe?
Really?

This is a call to examine your beliefs. It's always a good time to take a look at what motivates you, what holds you back and at what causes you stress. Our beliefs can lead us in many directions and not always for our good.

It is said: 'stand up for what you believe in', but before you stand up, make sure it isn't some misbegotten theory that you have taken for truth. You may have many unquestioned core beliefs, carried since childhood that beg reconsideration. Take a good hard look at what you are fighting for.

Once you have examined your beliefs, you can decide what is valid for you today and what is just something you absorbed through living your life. Once examined, if you determine that the remaining beliefs absolutely define you, then by all means, stand up for what you believe in and delete the rest. 

But remember, "You are what you believe yourself to be" Paulo Coelho
Your belief system pertains to you and how you feel about yourself. If you feel that you can never have anything you want, you won't. If you believe you are not good enough, you won't be good enough. Trust and self-love are what is required. You have to be the leading lady in your own life and all it takes is believing in yourself.

"You do not become what you want, you become what you believe." Oprah  Winfrey

#562

DON'T WORRY ABOUT THIS WORLD

IT IS NOT BROKEN

And don't worry about others

You worry more about them than they do.

There are people waging war:

there are people on the battlefield who are

more alive than they've ever been before.

Don't try to protect people from life;

just let them have their experience while you focus upon your own experience.

Abraham

Just be yourself, that is what you are here for. You are not here to worry and fret, nor are you here to try and 'fix' everything and everybody. The only thing you can 'fix' is you. As you work on on your own happiness, you create happiness.

The thing is....we each have our own path. You have no idea exactly what people are thinking, what they want and/or where they are going. It is their path, they don't even know where they are going. You may think you know what they want or need, or what would make them feel better, but really you have no way of knowing. Each of us must stumble along and do our best, that's all we can do. 

We tend to think that everyone thinks the same way we do - this is a huge misconception. (I think this was proven in the recent US election) It's hard to believe that someone could think so entirely different from you, but there it is. So you don't actually know what the others want or need or even think, so therefore, it's best to just stay out of it. Don't interfere in other people lives, it just puts their journey on hold while they deal with you. Let them lead their own lives, and you can put all your energy into your own experience here on earth. 

#561 - Faced with inevitable change....

I am looking at change, in this case, as any type of movement. Formerly, if I felt stuck in any process that was not moving forward, for example: if I thought what I was doing was the right thing to do, or I felt something was my responsibility, I would fight until my spirit was weary, before I would finally give it up to the universe and try to let it go.

I don't know whether this was stubbornness, control issues, determination or tunnel vision. I would try to make it right, even to my own determent. But at the time when you are 'in' the circumstance, you don't realize that you are fighting a losing battle. You seem to think that you are fixing things and keep right on fighting. 

After some time, after some self-awareness, you begin to learn to stop beating your head against the wall and accept the fact that things will work out more advantageously if you get out of your own way. Stop resisting 'what is', and go with the flow. 

This was a hard fought lesson for me, I was the one to get things done, to fix things, to create harmony and when I hit a brick wall, it still didn't stop me. It had always worked, or so I thought until it no longer did. I had to start to consider myself and my stress level and surrender some of the difficulties and complications. I had to stop making mountains out of molehills, making such a big deal out of every little hiccup. Eventually, if you work on it, you reach the trust level... you trust that things will work out, that nothing is that big a deal, and that you can handle it no matter what the outcome. You end up being grateful, you realize that all the hurdles were just lessons, nudges, trying to get your attention. And the lessons were to accept, surrender, and trust.  You are okay, all is well.

"Learn the alchemy true human beings know, the moment you accept what troubles you've been given the door will open." Rumi

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#560

Vibrational discord is always the reason for negative emotion.....

and negative emotion is always guidance to help you redirect your thoughts to find vibrational alignment with your current desires and with who you really are.

Abraham

We all know how this little girl feels, sometimes things are so overwhelming, that all that you want to do is cry. We may be tired, hungry, lonely, or scared, one of these emotions usually produces a reaction like this. It means that at this moment you are finding it hard to control your reactions and need some method of decompressing.

Anytime you feel negative emotions is a good time to divert your attention to happier thoughts. This will reduce the impulse to cry or lash out and basically allow you to align with your higher vibration.

Everyone has moments where it is all too much and it's important to recognize the stress you are under and be kind to yourself. This is a learning experience, part of your journey, and everything will work out as it is meant to.

"Any time you feel good you've found vibrational alignment with who you really are." Abraham-Hicks

"The Universe does not know whether the vibration that you're offering is because of something you're observing or something you're remembering or something that you are imagining. It just receives the vibration and answers it with things that match it." Abraham-Hicks

#559

The very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love is to be unhappy, and then ask them to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy.

Abraham-Hicks

Many find this  difficult to understand... nobody can make you do or be anything!!! If you are not happy, no one can make you so. You make yourself happy or not, you are the only one with that power. Don't ever put yourself in the position that your happiness depends on someone or something outside of yourself. This creates all those negative reactions ...... jealousy, rage, obsession, addiction etc. 

"Peace comes from within. Do not seek without" Buddha

If you feel someone is 'making you unhappy', you have been given a gift. This gift  gets your attention and affords you the opportunity to take a look at things. There has been a button pushed, something needs some attention. Because of this person, you are able to figure out why you react as you do. 

It is about you, it's always about you. Everyone else is merely players on your stage, they are holding up mirrors so you can take a look at yourself.

Never expect anyone to change your mood for you. You feel what you feel and if it causes unhappiness, dig in and find out why. You are responsible for your feelings, reactions, moods and the energy you carry with you. 

Make yourself happy first and then you will emit the happy vibration to all the world. 

#558

Is there a difference between
happiness and inner peace?

YES.

Happiness depends on conditions
being perceived as positive;
inner peace does not.

Eckhart Tolle

When you do something you really enjoy, with people you really enjoy, it makes you happy. 

This is what you are trying to achieve in this life, to find happiness and inner peace. You want to just be happy, within yourself, no matter what is happening around you. To remain calm and in control, because you know that you are okay. In order to feel this way you need to eliminate fear from your life, once and for all. How do you do that? How do you learn to trust yourself, trust that you will okay, no matter what?

The way to do this is to live in the present, realize that this is all there is. Don't spend your life going over all your past hurts, or worrying about the future. You have no control over either. The past has already happened, you cannot change it. The future is a crapshoot, there are no guarantees. 

So take today for what it is, ACCEPT whatever may be happening. Don't try to twist and turn it into what you want it to be. This is your life, at this moment, this is what is happening, don't expand on it, just let it be. Savour the wonderful moments of your life, all of this will help you to attain inner peace. 

Remember, it's a process, nothing will happen overnight, but this is your true disposition - peace and happiness; they are in your DNA, your birthright, therefore, you will always be able to learn to trust yourself and find peace within. 

#557

Financial abundance does not occur in one's life because of hard work or good luck or favoritism.

Financial abundance is simply the Universe's response to consistent thoughts and feelings of abundance.

Abraham-Hicks

Most people my age were raised with the 'if you want to be successful, you must keep your nose to the grindstone' attitude.  We were under the delusion that success was heaps of money and that the harder you worked, the more hours you put in, the more hoops you jumped through, would eventually create the life you wanted. All the money and success, perhaps even power, would be yours. In some cases, this did really appear to be the case, but, of course, we have no idea of the personal life or the health issues of the people that had pulled off 'success.' 

The more you struggle, the more you keep pounding your head against the wall, the more struggle you create. You are the key player in your own show, all you need to do is set the scene. Get everything set up in the direction you want to go, then 'see' yourself in that position, until you manifest the position you wish to be in. 

Don't fight against the flow .... abundance is always 'there' and there is, and always will be, more than enough for you. You won't get rich by working harder and enjoying life less, you need to visualize yourself having abundance in all things. Be grateful for all that you have and you will create more. Count your blessings and pay close attention to the abundance received in all its many forms. 

#556 

Make peace with your problem by just letting it sit where it is and in doing so, the solution must show up.

But if you keep examining the problem, talking about the problem, measuring the problem, speaking of the problem - you hold yourself in defiance to the solution that would be there if you weren't doing that. A-H

If you have a problem, if things are pressing down on you and you don't see any way out of it, you need to just leave it alone to work itself out.

This is what is meant by "let go and let God." You don't have the answer, that is obvious because you are examining, talking, measuring etc. trying to figure out a solution. And now, all that is happening is that you are summoning more problems to examine and measure, because this is your main focus. 

This society expects you to be pro-active in your own life, by jumping right in and finding solutions at any cost. If the solution doesn't immediately present itself, then leaving it alone IS the solution. 

Life isn't meant to be a struggle, life flows. If you feel that you have to fight for everything, that nothing comes easily to you, you are simply creating more struggle. Try to turn that thinking around - Everything comes easily to me.

"Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force" Lao Tsu

"Life flows on within you and without you" George Harrison

#555

All of the programs that are focused on recovery seem to want to push against what was wrong in order to hold themselves in recovery.

This is a Universe that is based upon attraction, it's inclusion-based.

You cannot push against anything without continuing the vibration of it. Abraham-Hicks

Whatever is uppermost in your mind, whatever you are obsessing about,  is what you are drawing to you. 

So no matter what you are unhappy about, no matter what is dragging you down, causing you pain or anxiety or making you feel hopeless, is the vibration you are giving off. You are asking for more of the same. You cannot keep ranting and raving about whatever the problem is and expect it to go away. You have to let it go and allow the solution to come to you.

It may seem impossible when you are in the middle of the 'worry warp' to just let it go, but, in reality, you are not fixing it anyway. When you are obsessing about ANYTHING, you are accomplishing NOTHING. Therefore, all you are doing is worrying which creates stress and anxiety and doesn't solve anything. 

Never push against what is being presented, embrace it, and allow it to be what it is meant to be. Trust yourself, you have the power to attract whatever you want in your life, it is waiting for you, right now. All you have to do is relax and allow.

#554 - You had the power all along, my dear - Glinda-the good witch

We have always had the power, that is, until we gave it away bit by bit.

"As children, we were born loving ourselves.  We knew how to clearly ask for what we needed and it was important to us that our needs were met.  As toddlers, we had confidence that held no apologies or modesty.  We expressed what we thought in the moment without censorship.  If we felt it needed to be said, we said it, without judgement, but in a way that expressed our feelings. We celebrated ourselves and had appreciation for our physical form.  Having a negative self-image was impossible to us.  We were filled with courage and adored ourselves."  article - Learning to Love Yourself

This is the power... this is how we started out. All that and more is still within you. Everything you have ever needed or wanted is within your power to receive. You have the power to create miracles.

What happened to all that confidence and celebration? It is amazing how much of ourselves we give away for nothing throughout the course of our lives. But at the core, you are still you. All the love of yourself is within, it can be accessed. It is not just a desire to be like you used to be, it is attainable. 

Start by celebrating yourself, your accomplishments, achievements, and abilities. Be kind to yourself, find time for and honour yourself. You are important to everyone. Appreciate and love your body. Speak your mind, enjoy yourself, dance, sing, run, play and laugh. You are not here for a long time, you're here for a good time, so have a good time. Channel your younger self, all that confidence, and silliness, live your life and express yourself in any way that feels good. You are the master of your own universe, take charge!

"Everything you were looking for was right there with you all along"  The Wizard of Oz

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