Wednesday, 22 November 2017

#758

Stop going back and forth on your ideas because of fear.

You're confusing the Universe.

Decide what you want and stick with it. You'll notice things starting to shift in your favour.


We all do that, don't we, jump in and out of our resolve? We REALLY want to win the lottery, start our own business, commit to someone or something, have a baby.... it doesn't matter what it is that's on the agenda at the moment, it's a big deal and it's very scary. So, we think we want it and in the next second, we think maybe we don't and on and on it goes.

You would think that winning the lottery would be the greatest adventure ever, but would it? Really? There are so many variables to such an extreme financial gain that the average person simply would not have the consciousness to accept the radical changes. It seems like it would be all lollipops and rainbows, but a sudden windfall of that magnitude can throw your life into a tailspin. Sometimes it is a blessing that you don't get what you want. 
There is always a reason why things don't happen the way you want them to and hesitating, waffling, or being scared to death are signals that you are not ready to go down that long-anticipated road. The anticipation is all that you are actually ready for, at this time. The decision is up to you, you can have whatever you want.... the trick is to decide what you want and be persistent in your resolve. 

reprint of #574

Tuesday, 21 November 2017

#757

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. If you aren't being treated with love and respect, check your price tag. Maybe you've marked yourself down. It's YOU who tells people what your worth is. Get off of the clearance rack and get behind the glass where they keep the valuables.



Pain makes you stronger. Tears make you braver. And heartbreak makes you wiser. So thank the past for a better future.

You deserve the very best. You don't need to 'put up' with anyone that doesn't truly love and respect you. It isn't always easy to know who the people are that are going to break your heart. But, each heartbreak is a lesson. 

The problem is, projecting your expectations onto people you love.... 
You love them, you would do anything for them, you are trustworthy, loyal and true and you expect the same from them. This may be unrealistic. You are simply projecting your expectations on them. BUT.. They are who they are. They will do what they do.   And if you think about it, it is not a surprise. You just didn't want to believe that they weren't the person you wanted them to be. When someone tells you or shows you who they are, believe them, you cannot change them. 
The other problem is, self-esteem..... 
If you love yourself, you would never tolerate anything less from another. You need to believe in yourself and what you have to offer. If someone doesn't appreciate all you are, that is not your issue. They have come into your life to teach you something. It may be to help you to realize your value, and that you are deserving of all the happiness in the world. 

“A heart given freely is the most vulnerable and selfless thing one can offer another human being. It can be as fragile and needy as a newly born infant, or as solid and self-supporting as a granite pillar, yet it is the hands of the recipient that determines its ultimate fate.” ― 
Mark W Boyer

reprint of #260

Monday, 20 November 2017

#756


You hate when people see you cry because you want to be that strong girl.
At the same time, though, you hate how nobody notices how torn apart and broken you are.

I think most people, male or female can identify with this quote. We are often torn between how we actually feel and how best to present and protect ourselves. 

Of course, much depends on where you are and who you are with, whether or not you want to expose yourself as being weak or vulnerable. You don't trust anyone enough to be so unprotected and if you remove the mask you will be powerless, right? All the torn apart and broken pieces of you will be exposed for all the world to see. And you sure as hell aren't going to fall for that.

The thing is, you are human and life can get you down. Human beings have emotions and sometimes they leak out. It doesn't make you any less, it just makes you human. Keeping yourself closed off, building walls has been your protection for a very long time, hasn't it? It's the main form of self-preservation that's held you together so far and now the question is: is it still valid at this time in your life? Do you still need a defense system to function today? Do you still feel you need protection? Isn't it exhausting always being the strong girl? 

It may be time to revisit this particular reaction. If you ponder it .... the trauma you survived in your life erected the brick wall around you. Would that trauma have the same effect today? You are not the helpless child any longer, you are not powerless, you are an adult. Try taking down a few of the bricks and see what happens, you are in charge. Share your story, don't give up one more minute of your life.

"Being strong means rejoicing in who you are complete with imperfections." Margaret Woodhouse

Reprint of #371

Friday, 17 November 2017

#755

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was greater than the risk it took to bloom"... Anais Nin

I remember seeing this quote when I was just beginning my quest and profoundly identified with it. I thought it was the most deeply brilliant comment ever. Obviously, I was very excited to be starting the inner work. 

This is exactly what was happening to me... you hold on to all the neurosis until you don't ... until you finally let go. At the beginning, you tentatively let go of a minute bit of yourself, but the shift begins.... then the most amazing things happen.  You have achieved awareness, you really SEE, there are miracles all around. When you are no longer "so tight in a bud," no longer afraid; when you actually start to open, you see the world through new eyes. This is the beginning. 

Up to this point..... 

"We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are" Anais Nin

We have only seen the world the way we were at the point of our shift. All our past attachments, issues, fears, and beliefs are running our lives, and making decisions for us. But once our eyes are opened, we have freedom and choice. This is an entirely different world we are now living in. We can see clearly now. Everything makes sense. 

Of course, this is not spontaneous, but gradually. as we continue to do the work, it becomes clearer. Everything will show up, as you need it. When you are ready, the teacher will come. You are on the path and can finally see where you are going. You can see that the lessons and how they pertain to you, you have a greater understanding. The lessons will continue, we are here to learn, but, each lesson learned is a beacon on the path ahead.  

You are ready to "bloom."
reprint of #532

Thursday, 16 November 2017

#754


"Don't worry about how slowly you feel you're heading to your dreams, or how many roadblocks you find, or detours you need to take, you're still cruising far ahead of everyone who's too afraid to even try."Karen Salmansohn

Have you ever noticed how the people that think they know what is best for you, the ones that give their unwanted advice so freely, are the very people that have never put themselves 'out there' at all? 

And yet, there they are telling you the ins and outs of YOUR dreams. Hopefully, you can turn a deaf ear to the 'Doubting Thomas' and continue on your journey. They have fear attached to the direction you are going - it is NOT about you. You will never convince them to join you, that's a fact, so you need to be strong enough to go it alone. And that is okay.

No two journeys are the same, we all have specific lessons. We have all had unique experiences that dictate our reactions. We don't know anyone else's direction, nor do they know ours. This is why you need to turn a deaf ear, no one really knows your destiny. You will go where you need to go and do what you need to do regardless. As for whether someone is trying or they aren't, we don't really know that either. We really don't know where others ARE in their lives. It's just another reminder to do your own thing, mind your business, no judgments and no assumptions. Simply live your own life, at your own pace.

"No one can build you the bridge on which you, and only you must cross the river of life. There may be countless trails and bridges and demigods who would gladly carry you across, but only at the price of pawning and forgoing yourself. There is one path in the world that none can walk but you. Where does it lead? Don’t ask, walk!" - Nietzsche

Reprint of #320

Wednesday, 15 November 2017

#753

The biggest lesson I've learned is:
IT'S OKAY
Everything is OKAY. You are OKAY.

You are perfect, just as you are. You have a mission in life and you have been chosen to be the person to fulfill this mission. 

No matter how often you fall or falter, you will complete what you have come to do. You may wander off your path or lose yourself in a relationship and feel as though you missed or delayed your next step. There are no mistakes.. you are right where you need to be. 

This is not some whimsical little idea you conjured up, this is the Universal plan for YOU. With that in mind, you need to know, there is nothing you could possibly do that will cause you to 'fall from grace'. You are loved, we all are. You are doing the best you can in your circumstances. Your job is solely to love yourself and others... that is what it is all about. 

It's OKAY to be exactly who you are, who else is more qualified? 
You change lives, just being YOU. 

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde.

IT'S OKAY TO BE HAPPY... IT'S OKAY TO MOVE ON

reprint of #285

Tuesday, 14 November 2017

#752


Don't let past relationships and old mistakes ruin your future. Don't let someone or something that didn't make it in your life continue to hurt you. If you do, you're still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists... it's like letting your happiness slip into a black hole. Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on. Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed.

Your issues have been accumulating for years and years.  You have picked up 'stuff' from various sources throughout your journey, in fact, everyone that has touched your life has left their mark. They may have taught you something that will never leave you, they may have caused heartache, or they may have loved you. No matter what the reason, there is always some residue left from significant people in your life. If they hurt you, it is something that will continue to show up in future relationships until you deal with it. You don't want it to ruin every relationship from here on, so don't ignore the hurt, release it.

Learn the lesson, release the pain and move on. 

Remember that healing, releasing, and forgiving doesn't happen overnight so be patient with yourself.  Hanging on to the past will only drag you down and the main reason for existence is to enjoy your life. Just because it didn't work out with one person does NOT mean you are unlovable, quite the contrary, you have learned a few things, you know what you want now and what you need. This is about you loving yourself and choosing someone that loves you too. Don't settle. 

reprint of #479