Friday, 20 October 2017


I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.

True. I find it is the same with most subjects unless you hit upon a subject that the person you are with is passionate about, it doesn't take long for their eyes to glaze over. Idle chit-chat seems to be acceptable, preferably short chit-chat, is best. The long intimate discussions are saved only for the closest of friends, or maybe family, that are obligated to listen, at least for a little while. 

Everyone sees things in their own way, derived from their life experiences. You may feel that you have the answer to life, but people only hear what they want to, or are ready to hear. So, something of great importance to you may come across as trivial nonsense to someone else. 

Don't worry if their level of perception isn't at the same level as yours. The fact is, it is only your perception, and although it may be truth to you, it is your understanding, not theirs. So explaining yourself to anyone, really, is a waste of time. It is perceived as a demand to understand your way of thinking and they may have no interest in that. No one likes to be told what to do or how to think.

You have your ideas, and you can do what you will with them, but you don't need to feel obliged to justify yourself to anyone. You don't need any validation; it is your life and you will live it to the best of your ability. No one really understands anyone else anyhow, and you are ahead of the game if you understand yourself.  

"There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words and still not understand you. And there are others who will understand without you speaking a word."  Unknown 

reprint of #238

Thursday, 19 October 2017


You are never in the wrong place.
But sometimes you are in the right place looking at things in the wrong way. 

We often think that maybe we did something wrong, that we're being punished, or maybe we didn't think it through because there must be some reason that we are standing here doing this, this was so not on the agenda....We must just be in the wrong place.

You are never in the wrong place or at the wrong time. You never stay too long, there are no mistakes. You are exactly where you need to be at all times. You always stay precisely as long as you need to. Everything is perfectly orchestrated and will happen as it is meant to happen.

If something is happening in your life that shocks you, makes you feel that you shouldn't be where you are, makes you ask 'what did I do to deserve this?' then it is a lesson. There is something that you need to see that will aid you on your journey. Open your mind and accept that you are directed and always heading in the right direction.

There is a reason for everything, nothing is random.... even when things appear random, there is a reason. It's simply how you look at things. 

"Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change."
Dr. Wayne Dyer

"Your observation of the conditions that exist now is the reason that you keep repeating a pattern that holds away from the things you want. It's really that simple."  Abraham-Hicks

reprint of #570

Wednesday, 18 October 2017


Make no mistake about it.... enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It's seeing through the facade of pretense. It's the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.


People accumulate baggage as they walk their path, some new ideas, antiquated beliefs, and plenty of programming. At some point on your journey, you realize that you're not happy, things aren't working out as you planned. From the outside looking in, your life may look perfect, and yet you don't feel fulfilled. You are challenged in some way, your beliefs are questioned,  and you finally open a crack.

This is the beginning.... you start searching, trying to find yourself. This quest is not for the faint of heart. At first, you have no idea what you're doing, simply that you are searching for something to make your life complete. You are on an expedition, investigating feelings, actions, and reactions. You are analyzing situations, people, and the prior programming. Every move you make, you scrutinize, in an effort to find what makes you tick and why. You are questioning everything and by doing all this, you will start to see through the facade of pretense. 

Everyone has parts of themselves that never see the light of day. The deeply hidden portions of one's humanity that are never exposed to the light of day. They are usually built of shame, embarrassment, anger etc. and you've long-since learned that it's too risky to reveal them to the world you live in. Allowing yourself to be exposed, if only to yourself, it will change the way you see life because it's the complete eradication of everything you imagined to be true.

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Dr. Wayne Dyer

reprint of #433

Monday, 16 October 2017

One of the big differences between sad people and happy people is that sad people become 'negative evidence collectors,' dutifully looking for AWFUL things, people, events to put into a mental folder labeled "PROOF LIFE IS AWFUL."
Happy people are 'positive evidence collectors,' constantly looking for AWESOME things, people, events to put into a mental folder labeled "PROOF LIFE IS AWESOME." Because happy people collect AWESOME not AWFUL stuff they notice and attract more AWESOME stuff, thereby filling up their mental folders with lots of happy evidence that LIFE IS INDEED AWESOME.

How true! Have you noticed that fearful, negative people do just that? They have a list as long as your arm filled with reasons why not to do something. Their collection of don't do is totally awe-inspiring, they have obviously spent considerable time researching and accumulating all this information to prove their point. LIFE IS AWFUL! I feel that if they want to live in Negativeville it is their choice, but really, imagine making a list entitled anti-everything. That's commitment, AND it releases them from any obligation to do that particular thing or anything different or new. Amazing!

Now the happy people.... I'm of the opinion that you are basically happy or you are not. I know people can act happy, or try to be happy, or look on the bright side etc., but to actually BE happy, you need to FEEL it at the source. Happy people would naturally be drawn to inspirational things, people and events that perpetuate their happiness. They LIVE there, they have done their inner work and emulate peace, love, and happiness

If you think that the world is an AWFUL place, it WILL be. AND if you think the world is an AWESOME place it also WILL be. You are in charge, you can change your destiny. You decide how you want to live. 

(reprint of #322)

we judge in
others is
ourselves we
don't want
to face."

We attract people into our lives to mirror the 'less than perfect' fragments of ourselves back at us. This way we can learn to see ourselves, in the reflection of those with whom we interact.

If we choose not to look at what is being shown to us, it will continue to 'show up' in our lives; because the purpose is to reveal the issues within ourselves that we don't want to face. 

So when you get angry, hurt or take offense to what is happening, when someone's actions cause a reaction for you, there is an issue still buried within. There is something you need to look at. Once recognized, this person may have completed his mission with you, this being the sole purpose, or it may be an ongoing awakening. 

It is up to you whether or not you take it any further, work on it, release it, or ignore it. If ignored, it will show up later with this person or someone else, until you 'get it.' This person can be your partner, friend, work colleague, your boss, a parent or anyone you have contact with. Often the person that you have the hardest time with will contribute the most to your growth. In the end...
You WILL be grateful.

When you are judging something about someone, you are actually judging yourself.

reprint of #433

Friday, 13 October 2017


If there must be madness and time crunches and chaos in your life, then let there be chaos.

But find the strength and stillness to be the eye inside the storm.

These things are happening around you; nothing is happening to you.

Nothing is happening TO you, everything happens FOR you. It is happening as a part of the lessons you are here to learn. Your only job is to 
accept what happens and move forward. 

F.Y.I. You don't have to attend every argument that you are invited to. 

Sometimes you need to disregard what is going on around you. Work on finding peace within, and the outside influences become less compelling. You will find you are able to keep your peace no matter what is going on around you. Leave everyone to sort out their own messes, and remain focused on your own life. 

Stay in the eye of the storm.

“Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.” Epictetus 

You are in charge of your own life and you can live it however you wish. If you want peace, have peace. You don't need to seek it anywhere. You don't need to climb to the top of a mountain and meditate. It is already within you. 

reprint of #318

Thursday, 12 October 2017


You've got to say no to the things that don't honour you. 

No to the things that don't bring you joy. 

And you don't have to explain your no. -Iyanla Vanzant

How often do you say YES to things that you really do not want to do? Things that you feel you HAVE to do, that you think are your responsibility or maybe you think it's just the right thing to do.

Someone asks you to do something and you feel a  'that feeling' in the pit of your don't want to do it. BUT how do you say no?  After some deliberation, you decide it wouldn't hurt you to do this one thing for this person. 

The fact is, it would hurt you because it's a lie. It's a lie because you don't want to do it. 

How can you do someone a favour when you don't want to do what they asked? That is not an act of charity, charity comes from the heart. This is an obligation and being obliged often leads to resentment. If you don't don't feel comfortable about it, if it just doesn't feel right, if you have too much on your plate, or this person has overstepped, then don't do it.

You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, if you don't want to, you don't want to; and NO means NO. 

Just say NO, without explanation, just NO.

reprint of #523