Tuesday, 15 August 2017


You have permission to rest.

You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken.

You do not have to try and make everyone happy.

For now, take time for you.

It's time to replenish.


It is always hard to find the time to do all that you need to do and it's as often as not that you, yourself, don't make the short list. This becomes a habit, a way of life.... you get the short end of the stick and barely have the time to even notice. You have your job, your parents, your children, your home, pets etc. etc. etc. and these are simply the basics. If the kids have to be chauffeured somewhere, it's a safe bet that you will miss out on gym time, your run or coffee with a friend, whatever it may be that fulfills your needs. 

This scenario quickly becomes the norm .... taking care of everyone within a 10-mile radius, with little time left for you and your needs. 

You are NOT responsible for everything that happens in the world AND if you don't take care of yourself you will be no good to anyone else. You ARE responsible for YOU, that's it, Obviously, if you have small children or pets they must be attended to, but otherwise..... You are the main event! 

So if you are able to give your time and attention to the others, you can do the same for you. Make your needs known, replenish your soul, take time for you. You are important, act like it.

Monday, 14 August 2017


Choose your thoughts wisely for they are the energy that creates your life. Abraham

You didn't come to straighten people out that believe differently from you... you do not need them to think like you do in order to feel good. Abraham

Many time it is better not to say anything. Just rest in your knowing that all is well. Abraham

You can't be mad enough at everything to make it go away. AH

This simply means that 'stuff' will continue to happen, the world will spin on its axis, there will be war, natural disasters, famine, poverty, prejudice, racism, etc. and you will be a witness to many injustices in the world. You cannot fix these things, they, too, happen for the greater good.... there is always a reason, in the midst of adversity there is always a spark of goodness.  

"You cannot suffer those suffering into wellness. You can't get sick enough to help the sick become well, and you can't get poor enough to help the poor become prosperous. And you can't feel bad enough to help the bad feel good."  Abraham-Hicks

Your main concern has to be you. You are here for a reason, in the scheme of things, and you need to prevail in order to address that challenge. Therefore, your mental/physical health and well-being are of utmost importance. 

"Just rest in your knowing that all is well." Abraham

Thursday, 10 August 2017


The meaning of life is just to be ALIVE. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves ... Alan Watts

Being ALIVE, getting with the program, making life work for you, not following anyone's lead, but doing only what makes YOU feel ALIVE. 
Everyone needs to find something that gives them that feeling, whether it is nature, sports, dancing, or cooking... it doesn't matter what it is, it's just important to give yourself over to something that comes directly from the soul, that brings out your inner joyful child. (I must stress that I am not referring to any artificial means of refilling your empty joy tank)

Life is not meant to be a struggle, it is to be a celebration. On the whole, you are here to 'do' life, not make it a menial, frustrating chore. There are times when one has to manage life's traumas and dramas... these are the trials of life, meant to be growth related. They need to be dealt with, then dropped as soon as you feel able, so you can bring yourself back to life. Don't get lost in the negative, just breathe and carry on. That's it, it can be simple if you allow it, no complications, it's up to you.

You are in charge of your life, therefore your reactions to what life throws at you are your choice. There are no problems, unless you, yourself create them. You can choose to be devastated, scared to death, or calm and secure in the knowledge that you are OK. There is nothing beyond you, you are holding all the cards, you make your life exactly what you want it to be. Make your stumbling blocks into building blocks and construct the life you want.

"All problems are an illusion of the mind" Eckhart Tolle

reprint of #278

Wednesday, 9 August 2017



What someone thinks of you cannot affect you, it is your focus about what you imagine they are thinking that affects you.

When you're looking at someone else, and they are feeling disapproval of you, they are not reflecting to you their personal opinion of you... They are reflecting back to you, the image you hold of yourself-every single time. Abraham

Your thoughts change the behaviour of everyone and everything who has anything to do with you. Abraham

Isn't it amazing how 'far off' a person can be, especially concerning themselves?  

You thought/imagined you saw someone doing or saying something that you felt was disapproving and that was NOT what is going on. You were actually seeing yourself reflected right back to you. It is you that is disapproving. 

You reflect your feelings to those around you. You literally change the way a person acts toward you. You are drawing people to you to reflect your attitude. 

Once you realize that getting what you put out is the basis of your existence, you will become more mindful of your thoughts. You can change your thoughts to benefit you always, in all ways. It is all about you, just as it always has been.

Tuesday, 8 August 2017


The Universe always says yes.

If you claim, "I'm broke, I don't have a dime!", the Universe says yes, you're right....

If you claim "I'm very prosperous, I always have a lot of money!" The Universe says yes, you're right...

And that's how it works....

Your situation will dictate the feelings you have around what you want or need. 

If you have just lost your job, you may be sending a message similar to this.... 'please help me, I don't have enough money to pay the rent, the mortgage, the bills etc. and I need more money, there is never enough.' If this is what you are asking and/or obsessing about, this is exactly what you will get..... MORE LACK!

If everything is going great and you're just flowing with the current, it's quite likely that nothing is being said at all. When life is easy we are content, perhaps even happy and so many of us just wait for the other shoe to drop. We don't want to acknowledge how blessed we are for fear of losing everything. That is the complete opposite of how the Universe works. 

This is the time to connect with the feeling of abundance, ease, happiness, and love. Just say THANK YOU!

Friday, 4 August 2017


You're here for the thrill of the ride.  Abraham-Hicks

So what do you think about that?

You are here to be YOU, to do what you do. You are filling a very necessary slot in the scheme of things. You are also here to be happy, to enjoy your time and transmit your joy to those around you.

You are NOT here to try harder or do better... no one is keeping score. It is NOT necessary to try harder to be loved, to be accepted, to be smarter, slimmer, more accomplished, or whatever it may be that you feel you are lacking.... you are not lacking. You are perfect just as you are to do what you are here to do. If fact, you are the ONLY one that can do what you do. 
You are unique.

So, then, why are you so hard on yourself? What makes you think that someone doesn't like you or that you must be doing something wrong? All those negative feelings serve no purpose. You don't want them or need them, you simply cannot afford one single negative moment. Kick them to the curb. You are too important to waste your time feeling 'less than.'

"If we were talking to you on your first day here, we would say....
Welcome to Planet Earth!
There is nothing you cannot be, do or have.
And your work here, your life time career.... is to seek JOY." AH

Thursday, 3 August 2017


 "I am convinced that the only people worthy of consideration in this world are the unusual ones. For the common folks are like the leaves of a tree, and live and die unnoticed"-The Scarecrow -Wizard of Oz

Who are these people? The unusual ones... the artists, the actors, the rebels, the explorers, the daring, bold, adventurous, courageous ones. These are the people that are usually 'out there', the movers and shakers of society. They are willing to take a risk, put their face on display and fight for a cause. They get things done. They make sure that they are noticed; they will not die with their music still in them. 

"Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out." Oliver Wendell Holmes
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."  Henry D. Thoreau

Don't put your life on hold. Don't wait for next month, next year or the culmination of your five-year plan. Do what you want to do NOW. Now is all you have, this is the time to live. Do whatever you have been dreaming of doing. If it is important, you will find a way. Take the road less traveled. 

What is stopping you from doing what you want to do? Is it talent, money, degrees, confidence, handicap, ability, laziness, insecurity or FEAR?  Most people are not living their dreams because they are living their fears. You will not be happy until you address the fear.  Hesitation, procrastination, excuses are all pointing to the fact that you are afraid. That is nothing to be ashamed of, everyone is afraid of something, but you are the only one that can feel the fear and do it anyway. 

Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue. Dreams that you dare to dream, really do come true. Do not live and die unnoticed. 

Reprint of #456 

Wednesday, 2 August 2017


Stop setting yourself
on fire for someone who
stays to watch you burn.

Haiku on Perspective
(Haiku is a Japanese verse in 3 lines. Line one has 5 syllables, line 2 has 7 syllables and line three has 5 syllables. Haiku is a mood poem and it doesn't use any metaphors or similes.)

The message is enduring... Stop trying so hard, especially if the other person involved is not trying at all.
Stop trying so hard when trying so hard is the problem!

Have you been in a relationship where unhappiness is the key ingredient? You may be wanting to work on the issues while your partner seems ambivalent or actually refuses to do anything. Nothing changes, nothing happens at all. You want the relationship to continue, and you're doing everything in your power to make that happen. To what end? You cannot have a relationship all by yourself, and why would you want to? This is about you. What do you want? Really want? If there is no cooperation, consideration and you're not working together for the greater good, there isn't much point, is there? You can't force someone to care.

If there is any form of abuse or even lying and cheating, then there is no point whatsoever. Do not put your life in someone else's hands. If you are unhappy, only you can fix it. If someone is giving you a hard time, or ignoring your needs, disrespecting you, or simply doesn't care, you need to decide what is in your best interests. You deserve at least what you are giving out. 

Check your self-esteem levels, they may be a little low. Stop turning yourself inside out for someone that would not do the same for you. You are worth so much more than that. 

reprint of #408

Tuesday, 1 August 2017


Do not leave your longings unattended.....  

Where did your longings go, what happened to your dreams? What have you given up to continue in the life you are leading? Was there something you always wanted to do that has been put on hold permanently? 

Do you know that self-denial of your longings can lead to depression, anger, and illness?  You could say you just need to follow your dreams, for your own health. But I  understand that life steps in and responsibilities add up, and you just can't go running off into the Himalayas for a hike. If this is your dream, there is always a way, it may not be possible today, but it can be done. If this is what you really want to do, you can certainly attain it.

People seem to give up far too easily on their dreams and self-fulfillment. It's a matter of priorities BUT I am not saying your dream of hiking is more important than your children, or anything of the sort; I am just saying .... don't ever forget that you and your longings are important as well.

"It's your thing, do what you want to do." The Isley Brothers

When someone asks you what you always wanted to do, or what is your fondest desire; what is your answer? If there is some way that you can actually do it, then do it... In the meantime start planning it, set it up on a mood board or something where you can actually see it. Picture yourself doing it, and eventually, you will manifest exactly what you want ... where there is a will there's a way.

Do not leave your longings unattended

Reprint of #455

Monday, 31 July 2017


The mind that perceives the limitation IS the limitation. Buddha

The only thing holding you back is YOU. You have the capacity to do anything you want to do, anything you dream of doing. There is no one keeping score, no one is out to get you. If you feel that the only luck you have is bad luck, you are the one creating it.

"You get what you think about. It's not tricky at all."  Abraham-Hicks

Each time you jump back in time to all the hurts received, or worry about your bank account, or your kids, your parents, your boss or your partner, you are manifesting more of the same. The past is gone, you cannot change anything that happened, so work on letting it go. The future hasn't arrived you can't predict it, let it take care of itself. You want to be in the here and now,  in your happy place. If you want something you've never had, you'll have to do something you've never done.

Life was never meant to be a struggle, stop making it one.

Friday, 28 July 2017

Trying to change ourselves doesn't work in the long run because we're resisting our own energy. Self-improvement can have temporary results, but lasting transformation occurs only when we honour ourselves as the source of wisdom and compassion. Pema Chodron

You are who you are, you were made to be this person, you are the only one that can fulfill your position here on this planet. You were not meant to be built like someone you admire and you were not meant to have anything other than what you were given. You are perfect as you are for being YOU.

"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde

I am in no way saying that you shouldn't improve your diet, exercise more, work on overcoming addiction, all the self-destructive 'stuff' that inhibits your true self from emerging, but, mainly you are here to honour who you are. 

You are enough, you are loved and you have all you need to become the best YOU. Don't try to change yourself for anyone or any cause. You are who you are for a reason and you are the only one that fits the profile. 

You are capable of amazing things. Celebrate YOU, wonderful YOU, and don't end your life as a copy. Remember... You don't have to justify your existence to anyone, it was made for you. 

"This above all, to thine own self be true" Shakespeare

reprint of #467

Thursday, 27 July 2017


The very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love is to be unhappy, and then ask them to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy.


Many find it difficult to understand that... nobody can make you do or be anything!!! If you are not happy, no one can make you so. You make yourself happy or not, you are the only one with that power. Don't ever put yourself in the position that your happiness depends on someone or something outside of yourself. This creates all those negative reactions ...... jealousy, rage, obsession, addiction etc. 

"Peace comes from within. Do not seek without" Buddha

If you feel someone is 'making you unhappy', you have been given a gift. This gift gets your attention and affords you the opportunity to take a look at things. There has been a button pushed, something needs some attention. Because of this person, you are able to figure out why you react as you do. 

It is about you, it's always about you. Everyone else is merely players on your stage, they are holding up mirrors so you can take a look at yourself.

Never expect anyone to change your mood for you. You feel what you feel and if it causes unhappiness, dig in and find out why. You are responsible for your feelings, reactions, moods and the energy you carry with you. 

Make yourself happy first and then you will emit the happy vibration to all the world.  

reprint of #559

Tuesday, 25 July 2017


If you didn't hear it with your own ears or see it with your own eyes, don't invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouth.

This quote is very direct, brief and to the point, good advice. You never really know what is going on in someone else's story. It doesn't matter what it sounds like, it doesn't matter what you think .... it simply doesn't matter. You really have no idea, unless it happened to you.

We can surmise what went on, we can listen to witnesses, we can form an opinion based on what they said, but we still don't know. Witnesses see what they see, hear what they hear and no two of them have the same story. When someone is accused of something you can look at their background, their recent pertinent actions etc. and form your opinion, but that is what it is .... your opinion. 

We need to remember that no matter how justified we feel in our belief, that does not necessarily make it true.

Everyone sees something from their own perspective - (particular attitude toward or way of reading something; a point of view) Just as no two people are alike, neither are their points of view, similar maybe, but not the same. We all see things differently.

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as WE are." Anais Nin

With that being said, don't invent a story around whatever you see or believe you have seen. Accept that you really don't know. You may have an opinion on what took place, but you do not know for sure. So hold your tongue and let the situation unfold as it should. If someone of importance to you is involved, be supportive, that is all you can do. Keep your opinions to yourself, it'll make your life much easier.

reprint of #396
"You get what you think about whether you want it or not" Abraham

"If you want something to dissipate, don't talk about it. Don't discuss it. Don't bring it up. Don't think about it."

You are what you think, definitely not what you eat, but that's another blog.

The thoughts that keep you up at night, robbing you of your beauty sleep, they are exactly what you are drawing to you. 

The disagreement with your brother, the critical performance review, the entire family dynamics of the moment, anything that you are constantly mulling over, obsessing about, and talking about is manifesting into the life you are living.

"You want to begin to pay attention to what you're saying yes to and say it more often, and what you're saying no to and say it less often because you get what you think about whether you want to or not." Abraham-Hicks

Don't allow your stressful thoughts to dominate your life, it is a waste of time to worry or stress and it will manifest into illness. Concentrate, instead, on whatever makes you happy, fills you with joy, and delete the thoughts that don't.

"Find something that makes you happy and think about that." AH

Monday, 24 July 2017


All of your power is in your ability to see things in a way that keeps you feeling good. Abraham

Don't try to convince anybody of anything. This debating over conditions and the rightness and wrongness of things is such a waste of Your Life Experience. Abraham

You've got to get past caring what anybody else is thinking about you. AH

There is no need to prove anything to anyone with your words. Let that which you are, that which you are living by your clear example to uplift others. Abraham-Hicks

More good advice from Abraham-Hicks (www.abraham-hicks.com) about letting others be who they are, you being yourself, and learning not to care how others perceive you...very important life lessons.

"What other people think of you is none of your business." Regina Brett

Most of us tend to take on 'stuff' that is none of our concern and obsess about it ad nauseam.

'Other people' are just that... other people. They are not you, they don't look like you, they don't act like you and they don't think like you.  They will say what they say and do what they do... They speak their opinion from their experience, it doesn't mean it is true... it is an opinion... People talk - that' it. You can't let it bother you, your opinion of you is the only one that counts. 

YOU can't tell anybody anything either. No one really wants your opinion, unless solicited, and usually even then, so don't waste your time. Be an example. Mind your own business and live your own life.

Friday, 21 July 2017


Imagine if we obsessed about the things we LOVED about ourselves.

What a novel idea!

We all spend a lot of time complaining about certain parts of ourselves, how they don't quite measure up to the norm, or to our expectations. We are our own worst critics. Not only are we displeased with our appearance, but we also put ourselves down concerning our personality, disposition, mentality, or anything at all. Are we just trying to beat everyone to it, making sure that no one gets to us first? It's very strange that we allow ourselves to beat ourselves up. If we don't love ourselves, how do we expect other to love us?

We have put ourselves down for long enough, what if we become our own cheerleaders? I'm not talking narcissistic, simply some self-love. Wouldn't you like to have the time you spent worrying about your fat thighs back and use it to compliment yourself on your lovely feet, your prowess at crosswords, your skill in the kitchen, or maybe even in the bedroom? 

You know you have many, many great qualities. You know people seek you out, just to be there when you laugh, you are amazing. I am not just saying that... take a look around you, how many people are there for you, love to be around you, seek you out? You are someone to love, so why don't you try it?

Try obsessing about everything you love about yourself, everything you are proud of until it becomes a habit. Then you can start to work on those things you find less than perfect. Eventually, all of you, mentally, physically and emotionally will be receiving love. Just imagine the difference it will make in your life when you obsess about the things you love about yourself instead of hating them.

reprint of #419

Thursday, 20 July 2017


"It's not reality that people struggle with. It's the beliefs and values they set up as a preferred substitute to reality that causes grief."

Most things are not what they seem..... 

When you perceive something as overwhelming, something that you simply cannot comprehend, your beliefs system will dispatch the standard response to the forefront, and you'll react to accordingly. You have been indoctrinated since birth with beliefs that may not be valid in your life today. You are automatically reacting to stimuli as you have been programmed, with no forethought whatsoever. You are accepting a preferred substitute to reality to avoid what is.

Also, there are times when it's not what is actually happening at this moment that you are avoiding, but, it's what you think should be happening or what you wish was happening. Either way, life is happening NOW, and whatever is happening IS, you can't change it because by the time you react you are in a new NOW.... acceptance is the only way.

Wednesday, 19 July 2017


If you wake up every morning and think the thoughts you want to think then nothing can keep you from anything.  Abraham

You can choose the thought that makes you worry or the thought that makes you happy; the things that thrill you, or things that worry you. You have the choice. A.H.

Joy is The Ultimate Trophy Abraham

I know I keep on pounding this drum... but from the feedback I receive, many of you don't REALLY believe what is written here. It seems that a great number of you do not believe that you are in charge of your own lives, that you are really making things happen by your thoughts alone.

"You're picky about the car you drive
You're picky about what you wear
You're picky about what you put in your mouth
Be pickier about what you think."

If you are unsatisfied with your life, you might want to try monitoring the thoughts in your head. Most notions that consume you are just nonsense, unimportant, stress-causing invaders. Choose a happy thought to take their place and see if you don't find life a little easier!

"Choose your thoughts wisely for they are the energy that creates your life." Abraham-Hicks

Tuesday, 18 July 2017


Aren't you willing to let go of the pettiness of physical life that has been bogging you down and holding you back?  Abraham

The best service that you could be to anyone is to "get in there and love life". Abraham

When you understand that you control the events of your personal experience by the power of your thought, then your focused attention to that which you want will always bring forth excited emotions. Abraham

Love is your Natural State of being if you are not pushing against something unwanted. Abraham

"When you understand that YOU control the events of your personal experience...." Isn't that a fabulous statement? You are in charge, not all those authority figures that you assumed had control, but YOU. 

If you don't like the life you have.... CHANGE IT. 

You can have whatever life you want. You don't have to live the life that was chosen for you. You don't have to do what is expected of you, AND you don't have to live someone else's life. You are here for a reason, and in order to fulfill your mission, you need to be yourself. This is your only chance to be YOU and there is no one more qualified for the job. 

"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


Sunday, 16 July 2017


"Love is not possessiveness; many people think that's what love is" you possess somebody totally. To possess somebody is to destroy all possibility of love."


You don't own your husband or wife, they are not your property. Just because you marry someone does not obligate them to do whatever you want. This is a choice each person makes, to delight and/or please the other, it is not an expectation or obligation. You are not in charge of them, they are a partner in your life, you work through life together. 

Usually, there is a mutual love and respect with the other person in the union, but they are still a separate entity. Marriage may make you a family, but it does not make one person out of the two of you. It's quite presumptuous, isn't it, to think you can control or possess another adult?

If you think of your spouse as a possession, you may be surprised when you have a rebellion on your hands. No person can be considered as property, a chattel, owned or YOURS. This person has chosen to spend their life with you in a harmonious, loving way, and you will surely ruin it if you think of them as your property. This is not love.

Love is unconditional, there are no other requirements, it's freely given from the heart. Love is a gift.

Love is a Rose - Linda Ronstadt
"Love is a rose but you better not pick it
Only grows when it's on the vine
Handful of thorns and you'll know you've missed it
Lose your love when you say the word MINE."

Reprint of #474

Friday, 14 July 2017


You Did Not Come To Face Reality, You Came to Create Reality.....

"In optimism there is magic! Trust in the Well-Being. In optimism, there is magic, in pessimism there is Nothing." Abraham

"Be as Happy as you want to be.... Be as safe as you want to be... Be as healthy as you want to be... Don't let the statistics that someone else has created affect you. You get to choose." Abraham

"Anything that you give your attention to will be your 'truth.' Abraham

"Worrying is using your imagination to create something you didn't want."  Abraham

So, that about sums it up... it's all you ever needed to know. Most humans have no idea how powerful they are or that they have the control of their lives, their bodies, their thoughts, everything. You ARE the boss of you.

You are capable of creating whatever life you want. Anything in your wildest dreams can be yours. All it takes is a mindset, just believe it to be and it will be.

"If you want it and expect it, it will be yours very soon." Abraham

"Your work is to relax and allow. To relax and allow. No matter what." Abraham

Thursday, 13 July 2017

Since the past is unreal and the future is unreal, ALL YOUR THOUGHTS ARE ABOUT NOTHING

When you are preoccupied, and your mind is wandering, what's it about? Where is your mind at these times? Is it worrying about something that you hope will never happen or about something that happened last week, last year or in your childhood? 

Look around you, everything is okay right now, isn't it? In this moment, you are safe, sitting at your computer, tablet, or phone, you are fine. Right?

And then, out of nowhere, the mind starts looking for something to 'think' about....it starts digging in all the cavities of the past, dredging up all the wrongs that you have suffered, all the people that inflicted pain, the liars, the cheaters, the betrayals, the resentment, the anger and you're off to the races! You can feel your stomach churning and your face burning. 

And if it isn't the past, there is always a trip to the future. You can start worrying about your parents, children, grandchildren, siblings etc. What will happen "if?" You can worry about so many things and so many people, it can keep you revved up for hours.

There is no story, it is only your thoughts about what took place that keeps it going. The past has already happened, you can't change it. The future hasn't happened yet, you can't foresee it. It is all unreal, all thoughts of either the past or the future are about nothing.  Your thoughts are what is causing you pain, don't listen to them.

"A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It's not our thoughts but our attachment to our thoughts that causes suffering." Byron Katie

reprint of #373

Wednesday, 12 July 2017


It is natural for you to be absolutely well
It is natural for you to be abundant
It is natural for you to feel good.
It is natural for you to feel clarity


There is no reason for you to have anything 'wrong' with you and no reason you shouldn't have everything you have ever wanted. Absolutely!

Everything that is malfunctioning in your life, whether it is your health, your wealth, or your happiness, can be traced to your inner well-being. If you are carrying anger, resentment, or anything that contributes to stress, it will affect your health.

If you don't feel good, if you don't have enough money, nothing is going your way, and you're not exactly clear as to what the problem is or what you are to do about it, then.....

"You don't even have to know specifically what you are wanting. You can be so general you can say, 'I want magnificent success! I want abundance to flow unto me, and I want the process to come.' And if you will say that enthusiastically, and mean it, you cannot miss." 

"It's as easy to create a castle as a button. It's just a matter of whether you're focused on a castle ...... or a button." Abraham-Hicks

Go back to your natural state, be well, be abundant, feel good and feel clarity!

reprint of #526