Friday, 20 October 2017

#736


I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.

True. I find it is the same with most subjects unless you hit upon a subject that the person you are with is passionate about, it doesn't take long for their eyes to glaze over. Idle chit-chat seems to be acceptable, preferably short chit-chat, is best. The long intimate discussions are saved only for the closest of friends, or maybe family, that are obligated to listen, at least for a little while. 

Everyone sees things in their own way, derived from their life experiences. You may feel that you have the answer to life, but people only hear what they want to, or are ready to hear. So, something of great importance to you may come across as trivial nonsense to someone else. 

Don't worry if their level of perception isn't at the same level as yours. The fact is, it is only your perception, and although it may be truth to you, it is your understanding, not theirs. So explaining yourself to anyone, really, is a waste of time. It is perceived as a demand to understand your way of thinking and they may have no interest in that. No one likes to be told what to do or how to think.

You have your ideas, and you can do what you will with them, but you don't need to feel obliged to justify yourself to anyone. You don't need any validation; it is your life and you will live it to the best of your ability. No one really understands anyone else anyhow, and you are ahead of the game if you understand yourself.  

"There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words and still not understand you. And there are others who will understand without you speaking a word."  Unknown 

reprint of #238

Thursday, 19 October 2017

#735

You are never in the wrong place.
But sometimes you are in the right place looking at things in the wrong way. 
Abraham-Hicks

We often think that maybe we did something wrong, that we're being punished, or maybe we didn't think it through because there must be some reason that we are standing here doing this, this was so not on the agenda....We must just be in the wrong place.

You are never in the wrong place or at the wrong time. You never stay too long, there are no mistakes. You are exactly where you need to be at all times. You always stay precisely as long as you need to. Everything is perfectly orchestrated and will happen as it is meant to happen.

If something is happening in your life that shocks you, makes you feel that you shouldn't be where you are, makes you ask 'what did I do to deserve this?' then it is a lesson. There is something that you need to see that will aid you on your journey. Open your mind and accept that you are directed and always heading in the right direction.

There is a reason for everything, nothing is random.... even when things appear random, there is a reason. It's simply how you look at things. 

"Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change."
Dr. Wayne Dyer

"Your observation of the conditions that exist now is the reason that you keep repeating a pattern that holds away from the things you want. It's really that simple."  Abraham-Hicks

reprint of #570

Wednesday, 18 October 2017

#734


Make no mistake about it.... enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It's seeing through the facade of pretense. It's the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.

--Adyashanti

People accumulate baggage as they walk their path, some new ideas, antiquated beliefs, and plenty of programming. At some point on your journey, you realize that you're not happy, things aren't working out as you planned. From the outside looking in, your life may look perfect, and yet you don't feel fulfilled. You are challenged in some way, your beliefs are questioned,  and you finally open a crack.

This is the beginning.... you start searching, trying to find yourself. This quest is not for the faint of heart. At first, you have no idea what you're doing, simply that you are searching for something to make your life complete. You are on an expedition, investigating feelings, actions, and reactions. You are analyzing situations, people, and the prior programming. Every move you make, you scrutinize, in an effort to find what makes you tick and why. You are questioning everything and by doing all this, you will start to see through the facade of pretense. 

Everyone has parts of themselves that never see the light of day. The deeply hidden portions of one's humanity that are never exposed to the light of day. They are usually built of shame, embarrassment, anger etc. and you've long-since learned that it's too risky to reveal them to the world you live in. Allowing yourself to be exposed, if only to yourself, it will change the way you see life because it's the complete eradication of everything you imagined to be true.

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Dr. Wayne Dyer

reprint of #433

Monday, 16 October 2017

#733
One of the big differences between sad people and happy people is that sad people become 'negative evidence collectors,' dutifully looking for AWFUL things, people, events to put into a mental folder labeled "PROOF LIFE IS AWFUL."
Happy people are 'positive evidence collectors,' constantly looking for AWESOME things, people, events to put into a mental folder labeled "PROOF LIFE IS AWESOME." Because happy people collect AWESOME not AWFUL stuff they notice and attract more AWESOME stuff, thereby filling up their mental folders with lots of happy evidence that LIFE IS INDEED AWESOME.

How true! Have you noticed that fearful, negative people do just that? They have a list as long as your arm filled with reasons why not to do something. Their collection of don't do is totally awe-inspiring, they have obviously spent considerable time researching and accumulating all this information to prove their point. LIFE IS AWFUL! I feel that if they want to live in Negativeville it is their choice, but really, imagine making a list entitled anti-everything. That's commitment, AND it releases them from any obligation to do that particular thing or anything different or new. Amazing!

Now the happy people.... I'm of the opinion that you are basically happy or you are not. I know people can act happy, or try to be happy, or look on the bright side etc., but to actually BE happy, you need to FEEL it at the source. Happy people would naturally be drawn to inspirational things, people and events that perpetuate their happiness. They LIVE there, they have done their inner work and emulate peace, love, and happiness

If you think that the world is an AWFUL place, it WILL be. AND if you think the world is an AWESOME place it also WILL be. You are in charge, you can change your destiny. You decide how you want to live. 

(reprint of #322)
#732

"Everything
we judge in
others is
something
within
ourselves we
don't want
to face."


We attract people into our lives to mirror the 'less than perfect' fragments of ourselves back at us. This way we can learn to see ourselves, in the reflection of those with whom we interact.

If we choose not to look at what is being shown to us, it will continue to 'show up' in our lives; because the purpose is to reveal the issues within ourselves that we don't want to face. 

So when you get angry, hurt or take offense to what is happening, when someone's actions cause a reaction for you, there is an issue still buried within. There is something you need to look at. Once recognized, this person may have completed his mission with you, this being the sole purpose, or it may be an ongoing awakening. 

It is up to you whether or not you take it any further, work on it, release it, or ignore it. If ignored, it will show up later with this person or someone else, until you 'get it.' This person can be your partner, friend, work colleague, your boss, a parent or anyone you have contact with. Often the person that you have the hardest time with will contribute the most to your growth. In the end...
You WILL be grateful.

When you are judging something about someone, you are actually judging yourself.

reprint of #433

Friday, 13 October 2017

#731


If there must be madness and time crunches and chaos in your life, then let there be chaos.

But find the strength and stillness to be the eye inside the storm.

These things are happening around you; nothing is happening to you.

Nothing is happening TO you, everything happens FOR you. It is happening as a part of the lessons you are here to learn. Your only job is to 
accept what happens and move forward. 

F.Y.I. You don't have to attend every argument that you are invited to. 

Sometimes you need to disregard what is going on around you. Work on finding peace within, and the outside influences become less compelling. You will find you are able to keep your peace no matter what is going on around you. Leave everyone to sort out their own messes, and remain focused on your own life. 

Stay in the eye of the storm.

“Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.” Epictetus 

You are in charge of your own life and you can live it however you wish. If you want peace, have peace. You don't need to seek it anywhere. You don't need to climb to the top of a mountain and meditate. It is already within you. 

reprint of #318

Thursday, 12 October 2017


#730


You've got to say no to the things that don't honour you. 

No to the things that don't bring you joy. 

And you don't have to explain your no. -Iyanla Vanzant

How often do you say YES to things that you really do not want to do? Things that you feel you HAVE to do, that you think are your responsibility or maybe you think it's just the right thing to do.

Someone asks you to do something and you feel a  'that feeling' in the pit of your stomach....you don't want to do it. BUT how do you say no?  After some deliberation, you decide it wouldn't hurt you to do this one thing for this person. 

The fact is, it would hurt you because it's a lie. It's a lie because you don't want to do it. 

How can you do someone a favour when you don't want to do what they asked? That is not an act of charity, charity comes from the heart. This is an obligation and being obliged often leads to resentment. If you don't don't feel comfortable about it, if it just doesn't feel right, if you have too much on your plate, or this person has overstepped, then don't do it.

You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, if you don't want to, you don't want to; and NO means NO. 

Just say NO, without explanation, just NO.

reprint of #523

Wednesday, 11 October 2017

#729

No matter what's happening
CHOOSE HAPPY.

Don't focus on what's Wrong. 
Find something Positive in your
LIFE.

Joel Osteen


You can actually change your life with your thoughts. 

You are in charge and you have the ability to have a positive experience every second of every day if that is what you want. You can also have ANYTHING YOU WANT just by focusing your thoughts in that direction. Your main attainment in this lifetime is just to be happy. You are not here to work harder or smarter, you are here to have fun, to play and love and laugh. 

BE HAPPY!

"You were given life, it is your duty (and also your entitlement as a human being) to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight."  Elizabeth Gilbert

Once you have found something beautiful in life, focus on it, let the feeling permeate your entire being, and you'll never want to let it go.  Don't let it go, instead, let go of everything that makes you sad.

Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections. Unknown

HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE, NOT A RESULT.

Reprint of #543

Tuesday, 10 October 2017

#728


If you keep blaming something or someone else for your problems, you will never learn why problems come your way. Kushandwizdom.tumblr

You all know the 'blamers'... nothing is ever their fault... it may be the kid's fault, the spouses, that guy at work, the government, parents, it really doesn't matter. Everyone else is responsible for their troubles. Everyone, that is, except them. 

Problems or obstacles are sent your way for a reason, there is something you need to work on, something that you don't understand or refuse to look at. There is always a way to get your attention. It would be wise of you to be aware of the little nudges and signs that show up during your day. It is important to be mindful, as these little nudges are signals that something needs attention. You don't want to wait for a serious accident or illness to take notice. 

Any problems you are experiencing originate with you, they cannot be blamed on outside forces, you have created them. 

Take a look at your attitude or your reaction to people and circumstances. It is the choices you make that result in the situation you find yourself in. You are 100% responsible for your life, whether it is good or bad is up to you.

Nothing you do, nothing you say and nothing you think is anyone else's fault. It can't be, it came from you. No one except you can control any of those things. The onus is on you, you are responsible. 

reprint of #414

Friday, 6 October 2017

#727
No one can drive us crazy unless we give them the keys.

Nobody can make you mad, no one can make you anything. YOU CHOOSE to react however you react to what is coming at you. 

Everyone has said, "'they' made me so mad" but 'they' simply do not have that power. 'They' may have memorized the buttons, or installed them for that matter, and "'they' definitely know how to push them. But you chose to get mad. 
You are in the driver's seat, you hold the keys. 

'They' may have struck a nerve, from some past hidden hurt that you have buried, but it still is a choice. You may have gotten mad because that's what you do; you stand up for yourself, you 'don't take nothing from nobody'. but it's still a choice. The point is... it is up to you. It is your life and your reaction will determine your peace of mind.

And on the same subject: watch what you say. Do you want to be crazy? Statements like "you are driving me crazy" is telling the universe that you want/need to lose your mind. The universe will do everything to grant your wish. All the self-depreciating statements made throughout your day, are sending the wrong message. 

Consider monitoring your thinking and verbalizing. Saying or thinking things like 'you broke my heart, you'll be the death of me, or that really pisses me off,' even a more positive feeling such as; 'my heart is bursting with joy,' is giving the wrong message. You are practically begging some health issue to come and invade your body, you are telling your body that your heart is meant to burst or be broken. Stop it.
The moral of the story is: This is your life, you are in the driver's seat... do not give your keys to anyone else.

reprint of #539

Thursday, 5 October 2017

#726


When people make you feel unwanted, don't leave to make them feel sad or guilty, they won't. Sometimes you have to be strong for yourself. What's meant to be will end up good and what's not - won't. Love is worth fighting for, but sometimes you can't be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you. If they don't you just have to move on and realize what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you and more than they deserve.

So there you are! 
Again, it is about you loving yourself, AND accepting what is. 

If you love yourself, you will not put up with disrespect from anyone. If someone is making you feel bad about yourself, the only thing you can do is move on. You cannot change them! They will continue to make you feel bad as long as YOU allow it. (Read that again and think about itYou also can't be the only one that is trying to make things work. You have done your best, and you deserve someone that is giving their best right back to you.

As for accepting what is...accept the things you cannot change. Otherwise, you are simply fretting about something you can do nothing about. Letting go is difficult, but eventually, you have to save yourself. You did just fine before this person came into your life and you will do just fine without them. Don't settle. 

Don't break for someone who won't bend for you.
"The minute you settle for less than you deserve you get even less than you settle for." Maureen Dowd

reprint of #321

Wednesday, 4 October 2017

#725

Why? Because some people are just terrible human beings, and terrible people do terrible things. If you're racking your brain trying to understand it, it just means you're not on of those terrible people.

If you have ever been involved with someone that is rude, aggressive or even abusive; it is always a brain drain trying to reason it out. When you are attacked verbally or emotionally, you spend a great deal of time trying to figure out how someone could talk to you in like that. They do it because they do. The fact is no one has the right to talk to anyone like that. Nor do they have the right to abuse any living thing. It is unacceptable. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen, it just means that you don't have to put up with it.

You are worth more than that. There is no need to figure out why they are like they are, you only need to stay away from them. As it states above, if you are trying to understand it, it just means you're not one of those terrible people. 

This is a self-esteem issue for both parties. The one dishing out the abuse as well as the one accepting it. If you really cared about yourself you would never tolerate someone who did not. You deserve someone that loves and respects you, don't settle, don't make room for people that cause you pain or make you feel small.

reprint of #316

Tuesday, 3 October 2017

#724

"You alone are the judge of your worth and your goal is to discover infinite worth in yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks."

Deepak Chopra

We all have 'stuff' to overcome, everyone has their own 'dragons' to slay and 'armies' to defeat. Often when engaged in our battles, we can accumulate feelings of unworthiness, and this, then, becomes the battle. Many of life's experiences, as well as the people you surround yourself with, can contribute to these feelings. Eventually, you may question your own worth.

Your worth never changes. Whether you are 'sitting on top of the world', or 'down in the dumps', you are always valuable. You may not feel the same, but this doesn't change the fact. 

If you have a $100.00 bill, it is worth - $100.00. If you take that same bill and crumple it up and throw it to the ground, step on it, and grind it into the dirt, it is still worth $100.00 The same is true for you, if you have been thrown down, stepped on and feel crumpled and dirty, you still have the same value. You are of infinite worth.

Your worth does not change according to what happens to you.

Don't worry about what anyone else says, that is their issue. The mere fact that you are here on earth proves that you are valuable. You have a mission and only YOU can complete it. You are important, remember that. You know who you are.

"Above all else, to thine own self be true." Shakespeare
reprint of #540

Sunday, 1 October 2017

#723
Hate is self-inflicted torture,
It hungers for revenge,
damage, division, and
violence, but it is never satiated.
Hate is a psychological hell to
which we condemn ourselves
and endeavor to burn others.
--Steve Maraboli


Hate is defined as an intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury. 

We are the creators of our emotions and fully responsible for how we feel and how we react. 

Most people will take a look at things when they find themselves severely reacting to a situation. They question their current emotional state and endeavor to identify what button was pushed so they can work on it. They want to know what caused them to react in an unacceptable manner. These people are accepting responsibility for their emotions.

On the other hand, there are people that have no interest whatsoever in figuring out why they do anything. They react however the spirit moves them, with absolutely no regard for others. They have no concern about how they are perceived and will always find someone else to blame. They think they are entitled to take out their rage on whoever is in their path. The pent-up anger appears to be too great to control.

Hate is unfamiliar emotion for most.... there may be something that makes you angry or upsets you, but to retaliate with hate is not normally the go-to response. If someone has feelings of such intensity, looking for revenge for any real or imagined snub seems a difficult way to live a life. Taking ownership and responsibility for yourself, and your emotions is the first step, don't let the anger fester until it manifests into illness. Give yourself some peace. 

You can choose to free yourself from anything.
reprint of #591

Friday, 29 September 2017

#722 It's Time for this one again.


"Every single day, we need to choose hope over fear, diversity over division. 

Fear has never created a single job or fed a single family.

And those who exploit it will never solve the problems that have created such anxiety."

Canadian Prime Minister
Justin Trudeau

Every single day.... anyone that has lived in a position of fear, real or imagined, realizes how disruptive and stressful it can be. Fear has held back many people from any joy, happiness or adventure. It is an insidious, potential robbing, life-sucking force that can stop you in your tracks. Those that exploit or promote fear are cowards merely feeding their egos. You don't have to be involved, move past it, don't believe everything you hear or see. Listen to your inner voice and know that you are okay. Living in fear is not living at all. 

Fear has no real power, don't give it any. 

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” ― John Lennon

“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free." Jim Morrison 

reprint of #612

Thursday, 28 September 2017

#721


You either get bitter or you get better. It's that simple. 

You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down.

The choice does not belong to fate.
It belongs to you.
Josh Shipp

So... your worst case scenario has actually happened. The one thing you have spent your life making sure would never happen to you.... happened. NOW WHAT?  You have always been hyper-vigilant in your quest to keep this particular scenario at bay, not once did you think of how you would handle it if it DID happen. It was always just the fear and dread of it happening that took precedence.  It doesn't really matter, you can't prepare for something as devastating as your worst-case scenario. You don't know how you will react until it happens. 

As always there is a reason why these things happen, this is a message - you need to take a look at your life - something needs to be re-examined. You now have the opportunity to take a look at your beliefs and actions to see what needs some fine tuning.  

The key word here is 'happened', it has already taken place, you can't change it. In fact, it probably happened because you worried about it so intently. What you think about you create. You will find that it is a relief now that it has actually happened, you can stop worrying about it. You manifested this for your own growth. There is no room here for bitterness, or self-recrimination, no one is out to 'get you' - quite the opposite, this is to help you become a better person and believe me, you will. 

Your worst-case scenario is a blessing in disguise 

reprint of #428

Wednesday, 27 September 2017

#720


Just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right.


This simple statement really hit home for me today. It's one of those things that you know, probably figured someone else should know, but just never really thought about it. Of course, you believe you are right if you are offended.

I find a lot of the expressions, the over -indulgence in explicit sexual language and/or interaction, violence, as well as the vulgar speech that is acceptable today, to be offensive.

Now, I suppose that a lot of it has to do with my age; and I do know that this is no longer the world of my youth, BUT.....

I am not a delicate little flower, nor (entirely), old school, I have laughed uproariously at many an off-colour joke, but somehow the foul mouths of some of the general population, showing no care or consideration for those within earshot, I find, disrespectful and rude. 

Why is this? WE knew how we were to talk when there were adults anywhere around. There was a special attempt to 'mind our manners' around the elderly, our parents, or any authority figure. Is it just that the modern world needs to express themselves and we were riddled with rules? Is it television, video games, movies? Is it the fact that more mothers are working (out of the home) mothers? Is it that children have rights pertaining to discipline? What has happened to respect and consideration for others?

I am not saying I'm right, but I am entitled to feel offended. I also realize that this is no longer MY world, it now belongs to the next generation, and they will make it what they want. Maybe the previous behaviours get voted off the island as each generation passes the torch, but acceptance, tolerance, and respect for others shouldn't be the first to go, should they? 

reprint of #484

Tuesday, 26 September 2017

#719
How something ends up NEVER depends on how much you worry about it.

Worry really does NOT contribute in any way to a beneficial finale. It's a waste of your time and energy fretting about the outcome. You can only do your best and then let it go.

In the first place, most of the things you worry about never happen. If you are living for today, in the here and now, there is nothing to worry about.

Worry is thinking of the future - anxiety from living in the past. 

In the second place, there are things you cannot change. For example, you cannot change weather systems: tornadoes, floods, and earthquakes, or wars and government activities. You cannot change what others are doing, that is up to them. There is nothing that you can do about it, they will do what they do, it is their journey. AND things that happened in the past have already taken place, you can't change them. As for the future, don't waste time worrying about it either, you are not there yet. 

You can always prepare yourself for any eventuality, but it ends there. You are responsible for your own well being but beyond that, you need to trust that you are okay. Worry doesn't change anything and gives you wrinkles.

Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere.

reprint of #251

Monday, 25 September 2017

#718

"Who sees all beings in his own self and his own self in all beings, loses all fear."
Upanishads


The Law of Divine Oneness - everything is connected to everything else. What we think, say, do and believe will have a corresponding effect on others and the universe around us.

There is a connectivity in all of us. From the wildlife to the trees, to the stars, everything IS us. We are all one.

What you do to others, you do to yourself. You affect the world just by being yourself. Any encounter you have makes a difference, and you are here to make that difference. It is not necessarily something you have planned, like helping at a soup kitchen, but ordinary everyday encounters, as well. It's how you treat everyone and everything. It all begins, of course, with how you treat yourself. If you love yourself, love for everything is the result.

If you truly love yourself, you could never hurt another - Buddha

"Remember, we are all affecting the world every moment, whether we mean to or not. Our actions and states of mind matter, because we're so deeply inner connected with one another. Working on our own consciousness is the most important thing that we are doing at any moment, and being love is the supreme creative act." 
-Ram Dass

reprint of #287