This is the best day, the day when you take your life back. The day that you, finally, become the most important person....to YOU.
This 'giving our lives, our power away', seems to be a women's issue for the main part. We are the nurturers and habitually devote much of our lives to others. That is, until this day, when we awaken to the fact that it is our turn. I would say that it is an age thing, that it takes a certain amount of years to get to this point, but it isn't true. It is different for all of us. For me, I had to wait for divorce, and my children to be grown before I could think clearly enough to notice that I, too, was part of the picture. But, I have found since that time, that many much younger women seem to have been born with this info. Whenever it hits you, whenever you realize that you have not been in charge of your own life, the journey will begin. It is very uplifting to take the reins and drive your own carriage.
You are responsible for your own life. You are the only one responsible. You can’t continue to blame your parents, the government, your friends or some unknown factor, for all your self-inflicted sorrow. At some point you have get up, get over it, put your big girl/boy pants on and strut your stuff.
No one can do it for you, and it is such a relief when you only have yourself to worry about. What everyone else is doing is none of your business. How freeing is that statement? After looking after a family, it may come as a shock to realize it is only about you, it's always only been about you. Obviously, the children are dependant on you while they are young, but it has to end. You will always be supportive of their endeavors, but they can look after themselves now. You, definitely will continue to be kind and loving, and be much happier now that your life is your own.
So enjoy 'the best day of your life,' whenever it arrives, it will be worth the wait.