"You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate." Elizabeth Gilbert
Random thoughts enter your mind constantly throughout the day. You can pick and choose what to hear, and what to disregard. You don't have to take ownership of every stray notion that enters your head.
Most of the thoughts we have on any given day, are supposition, untrue, fear driven, fictitious mind chatter. They will, however, reek havoc on your emotional well being over time, if you believe them.
Learning to select your thoughts starts with awareness; paying attention to each notion, considering it, deciding if it is true, if it serves you, and if it is worthy of your time. This will take some practice, but if you keep propelling forward with selection process, you'll be amazed with the results. It is exceedingly stressful to accept whatever pops into your head. Relieving yourself of this burden, even a small amount, will prove to be profoundly beneficial for your emotional health.
Once mastered, you will have the power to manage the direction of your life. There is no advantage to negative messaging, it only instills fear and stress. Whereas, affirming contemplation will move you steadily toward your intentions.
"The only difference between heaven and hell is believing a thought." —Byron Katie