Friday, 29 April 2016



Worrying is a waste of time. It will get you nowhere. All you can do is your best, no one can expect more, not even you. 

Something you tried to do didn't work out and you consider it a 'failure', it is actually something to help you, something to learn from. Failure is your teacher

We always think that if something doesn't succeed, that we, somehow are less. Don't take on the label.  You are not a 'failure', the project didn't work.... that's all. There is another project or another way to manage the one you were working on.  "Failure is success in progress" Albert Einstein

Failure is not the opposite of success, it's part of success. Sometimes, it's the greatest gift you can ever receive. No one ever learns anything when everything is going well, it's the little hiccups that enlighten you. There is a reason why everything happens, and you will grow from it. Eventually, you will say THANK YOU and mean it.

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm" Winston Churchill

Thursday, 28 April 2016


You can't calm the storm, so stop trying. 
What you can do is calm yourself.
The storm will pass.

This is the long and the short of it ... when your whole world comes crashing down, what is important is how you react to it.

Whatever has happened, has already taken place. It is a choice how you react to 'bad' news. Yes, it is devastating, but it is a fact. Most people try to deny things that are overwhelming disasters in  their lives. But that too is a choice. Some  people need fantasy in order to survive reality.

It is different if it is an emergency and you are running to help someone in need, your adrenaline pumping, your heart pounding. You will automatically try to calm yourself down, so as to help the individual. It is amazing how calm, cool and collected we can be when we are jumping into the storm to aid someone else. In this situation we can be calm and we can help soothe them.

But during a personal crisis, the same technique doesn't seem to work as effectively. The bottom falls out of your world and where is that self-assured attitude? This situation is happening to YOU, and fear steps in when it is personal. 

There is a separate 'tool' required. You have to dredge up some faith, confidence, trust, and conviction that assures you that you are okay, no matter what the outcome. If you truly believe that you are alright, it really doesn't matter what storms occur in your world. 

Although it is admirable to run to the aid of someone in need, remember, you are important too and deserve the same consideration.  Working on your 'stuff' will give you the faith and trust you need to weather any storm.

Wednesday, 27 April 2016



You don't inspire others by being perfect.

You inspire them by how you deal with your imperfections.

You don't have to spend your life pretending that you are something/someone you're not. You are here at this time and place because you are YOU. No one else is better qualified to play your part. 

You may not have any idea why you would be needed on this planet or what purpose you could possibly serve, but I am here to tell you that you are important. You are unique, you have a way about you, you are wanted, needed and loved. There is nothing you can do or say that will take away from that love. We all have a position to fill and each one of us is essential. 

I know that you may not see yourself as anything, but I guarantee that to someone you are everything.

We are all connected, here for each other. To fulfill our personal mission, we just need to be ourselves. That is how it is orchestrated, you are a significant piece of the puzzle and only YOU are the right shape and size to fill that slot.

So all the real or imagined imperfections you are holding on to, are of no consequence in the scheme of things, because you, just as you are is what is needed in the world at this time. You are here for a reason and you inspire people every day just doing what you do and being who you are. Don't ever let anything stand it your way. 

I have avoided saying that 'nobody's perfect' because I truly believe we all are. We are perfect at being ourselves, just as we were meant to be.

Tuesday, 26 April 2016


Remember to ask


Don't die unfinished

Question it, question everything. Don't just go along with whatever you are told. It seems many earthlings go through life in a bubble, systematically navigating their life, without forethought or intention.

Belief: is the state of mind in which a person thinks something to be the case, with or without there being empirical evidence to prove that something is the case with factual certainty. 

You believe what you believe, you have been indoctrinated since birth. When you don't question the information that you are presented with, the belief system appears to be so strong that nothing will ever alter it. Actually, it could be just the opposite ... your belief system is not necessarily strong, it just hasn't been challenged. You have had no reason to change or even question anything. You are comfortable the way things stand and until someone or something tests you, you remain a believer.

There is so much to know, so many unexplored options, but it requires you to get out of your comfort zone and take a look at the world outside your bubble. It requires you to listen when people are talking, take in the facts, ruminate on them and decide to either look into it further, simply accept the differences, or reject the idea entirely.

You don't have to embrace your beliefs as the only acceptable options available to you. You can question all of it and decide for yourself if they make sense for you in this time and place. You are an adult, investigate and make an informed decision.  Don't die unfinished.

Monday, 25 April 2016


Whether you pushed me or pulled me, drained me or fueled me, loved me or left me, hurt me or helped me, you are a part of my growth & no kidding, I "thank you"!

And you do, amazing as it sounds, you always end up being grateful to these people for their part in your life. They helped to wake you up in some way. 

As you continue down the road, your mind and heart expand, and you begin to see what these people had to teach you. So even if your time with them was less than perfect, you do realize what they have done for you, and what a blessing it was to have them on your journey.

It may also seem a blessing that they are gone, but nonetheless, they left you with some grasp of what their purpose was in being with you, and you with them. It may take awhile to assimilate it all and ascertain what you have gained, but it all counts. It all contributes to your growth. There are no accidents, you were meant to be with each person, whether you consider it a benefit or otherwise at the time.

We each wrote our own script for this lifetime on earth, we chose all of the people that have come or will come into our lives. Each of them came to us with a purpose, to aid us on our journey and teach us a relevant lesson. So, your parents, friends, lovers, enemies and even your children are chosen by you and each will have something to teach you. It is all orchestrated for your growth, you, in turn, are doing your part for these people and others, as well. 

And, eventually, you will be thankful to each one of them for your new-found contentment and peace of mind. Thank you to all that have sustained, assisted and comforted me in my lifetime. Thank you.

Friday, 22 April 2016


Do not get upset with people or situations, both are powerless without your reaction.

No matter what is thrown at you, no matter what you witness, your reaction is what starts the domino effect that could be the determining factor in the outcome. You have a choice of what takes place ... it all depends on how you handle any given situation.

Frustration and stress come from the way you react, not the way things are. Ask yourself if you'd rather always be right or be happy. If being right wins, then you are one that needs to stop, look and listen before you jump in the middle of anything that is going on. Nothing can or will happen without your reaction. 

There will be no drama, unless there is participation.  Every situation does not require a response. What if there was a war and no one showed up? 

You don't have to attend every argument to which you are invited.

When you challenge every situation it doesn't do you or anyone else any good. Mind your own business and let people handle their own 'stuff.' It is not up to you, you cannot control or save the whole world. Just walk away and watch what happens. The situation may just dissolve or it may explode, but at least you're not in the middle of it and don't have to answer for it.

"Life is 10% what happens and 90% how you react to it." Charles Swindall

Thursday, 21 April 2016


Imagine if we obsessed about the things we LOVED about ourselves.

What a novel idea!

We all spend a lot of time complaining about certain parts of ourselves, how they don't quite measure up to the norm, or to our expectations. We are our own worst critics. Not only are we displeased with our appearance, but we also put ourselves down concerning our personality, disposition, mentality, or anything at all. Are we just trying to beat everyone to it, making sure that no one gets to us first? It's very strange that we allow ourselves to beat ourselves up. If we don't love ourselves, how do we expect other to love us?

We have put ourselves down for long enough, what if we become our own cheerleaders? I'm not talking narcissistic, simply some self-love. Wouldn't you like to have the time you spent worrying about your fat thighs back and use it to compliment yourself on your lovely feet, your prowess at crosswords, your skill in the kitchen, or maybe even in the bedroom? 

You know you have many, many great qualities. You know people seek you out, just to be there when you laugh, you are amazing. I am not just saying that... take a look around you, how many people are there for you, love to be around you, seek you out? You are someone to love, so why don't you try it?

Try obsessing about everything you love about yourself, everything you are proud of, until it becomes a habit. Then you can start to work on those things you find less than perfect. Eventually, all of you, mentally, physically and emotionally will be receiving love. Just imagine the difference it will make in your life when you obsess about the things you love about yourself instead of hating them.

Wednesday, 20 April 2016


"When people walk away from you, let them go. 
Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you, and it doesn't mean they are bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over.

Julia Roberts

We all have aspirations of being so extremely cool, that when we go through a break-up, instead of accusations and grievances, we instead merely murmur 'thanks for the memories.' But, of course, in circumstances such as these, there is hurt, pain, and anger and it's not often that you have it 'together' enough to be so cool. The first reaction is to fight for what you want and not ever give up. Not that this gets you anywhere, once minds are made up, there isn't often a change.  You will wish you had handled it with a touch of class when the remorse sets in, but you are, after all, human.

This person wasn't meant for you, not permanently anyhow, they were just with you for the lessons. They wouldn't have left if it was a 'forever' thing. "Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you." They show up, you show each other what you need to know, and they move on. Their time is up, and you are ready for something or someone new. You may not feel fabulous when they leave, but you will feel gratitude before long, as soon as you realize the growth that has taken place because they were there.

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

Now you are ready for a new adventure, the door will open for another, either a lesson or the 'real thing.' This is life, a learning experience. You will touch many lives, and they you; and each time you will become a little wiser, more patient, more loving, more compassionate and much, much closer to the real you.

Tuesday, 19 April 2016


Don't let other people pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace.

How often have you felt yourself feeling angry as one of your friends is telling their story? The injustice of it all pulls at your heartstrings, but also your anger reservoir. Soon you are defending your friend's story, sticking up for them to right a wrong and then taking the story home with you to mull over and/or obsess about for days to come. 

You have fallen into someone else's business. Usually at times like these, you probably felt as though you were being compassionate and sensitive, when actually, you crossed the line ... right into the center of someone else's storm. 

It's a fine line that you have crossed. Of course, you are drawn to the story, you do have compassion for your friend, but expressing your support is enough. Your friend is in the situation for a reason, it is a lesson, there is something to learn and this story has been manifested in order to do that. If you take it on, you are interfering in the story and disrupting the flow. You are also adding to your own stress. The long and the short of it is, it is not your business. Don't let yourself be dragged in. You don't need to micro-manage anyone else's life, you have your own journey. In order to maintain your own peace, you need to stay in your own business.

"I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation." Byron Katie

Monday, 18 April 2016


If someone thinks that love and peace is a cliche that must have been left behind in the sixties, that 's his problem.

Love and peace are eternal.

John Lennon

The sixties were notorious for the peace sign, make love, not war, love is all there is, non-violence, as well as: protests, ban the bomb, anti-war demonstrations, sit-ins etc. Mainly it was the young people of the times expressing themselves and establishing their disillusionment with the establishment.

There were varying opinions on all that was taking place at the time, definite concern about the young people's actions and plenty of poo pooing about all the peace and love slogans and the shenanigans of the youngsters. The world was getting a 'shaking up' by the younger generation. 

When you are young and idealistic, you see things differently from the older more experienced members of society. You think you can save the world, that anything is possible and are willing to stand up with your peers and prove that to be so.

As you age, and life steps on you a few times, you may take on a far different attitude for some time. Life can be hard, there are obligations, bills, careers, illness, and distress. You make your way as best you can, foregoing the idea that you could save the world, wondering if you can save yourself. Once life settles down, the children are grown and you're more established, you might then realize that those ideals of your youth are still there, buried perhaps, but starting to make themselves known.

Well, there's no time like the present to start working on bringing those ideals back to life. After you spend some time on yourself, let the negativity go and get back to who you really are, you will remember that love and peace are what it's all about.... all there really is.

Friday, 15 April 2016


I can tell a lot about a person by
what they choose to see in me.

Very profound.....

I have to admit that it took me a long time, a lot of working on my 'stuff', to actually really get this. 

Everyone in your life is a mirror. What you see in them is also in you, good or bad. 

If you know a person that really bugs you, there's just something about him that really turns you off ... you also have the same traits. You are actually hating on yourself. The irritating people are simply reflecting parts of your own consciousness back to you, giving you the opportunity to really see yourself.  On the other side of the coin, the qualities you most admire in others are also your own.

Once you recognize that everyone is a mirror, and you understand that it is YOU being reflected back at you; then there is no need to blame anyone, judge anyone or become a victim due to someone else's words or actions.

Now, back to the one that bugs you so much ... what is he showing you about yourself? He has some trait that annoys you, but you also have that trait. Look into it, dig deep, and you can start doing the work to rid yourself of that annoying quality. This person has given you a gift. Now you have something to work with, the only person you can ever change is yourself, your attitude and reactions. This is a time for gratitude, not anger or hate.

"Everyone is a mirror of yourself, your own thinking is coming back to you." 
Byron Katie

People are seeing the same in you, something that they need to work on, or that they admire. We are all connected and we choose certain people to help us on our journey.

Thursday, 14 April 2016


If you keep blaming something or someone else for your problems, you will never learn why problems come your way. Kushandwizdom.tumblr

You all know the 'blamers'... nothing is ever their fault... it may be the kid's fault, the spouses, that guy at work, the government, parents, it really doesn't matter. Everyone else is responsible for their troubles. Everyone, that is, except them. 

Problems or obstacles are sent your way for a reason, there is something you need to work on, something that you don't understand or refuse to look at. There is always a way to get your attention. It would be wise of you to be aware of the little nudges and signs that show up during your day. It is important to be mindful, as these little nudges are signals that something needs attention. You don't want to wait for a serious accident or illness to take notice. 

Any problems you are experiencing originate with you, they cannot be blamed on outside forces, you have created them. 

It may be your attitude, or your reaction to someone or something, but either way, it is the choices you make that result in the situation you find yourself in. You are 100% responsibility for your life, whether it is good or bad is up to you.

Nothing you do, nothing you say and nothing you think is anyone else's fault. It can't be, it came from you. No one except you can control any of those things. The onus is on you, you are responsible.

Wednesday, 13 April 2016

Say to yourself....

"I am a wonderful Being. There is nothing that I cannot achieve. Everything always works out magnificently for me. I live a charmed life. Things are supposed to, and always do, go well for me. Seas part for me. I have the resources of the Universe at my disposal. Good things come to me.

"And if I am sick it is temporary because it is natural that I be well. And if I am not abundant of things that are important to me, it is temporary because it is natural that I be abundant. And there is nothing that I am supposed to do, but all kinds of things that I want to do."

Positive reinforcement! It never hurts to have a self-appreciating mantra that you repeat at least once a day, more if possible. You need to have a way to augment the messages that you are sending out to the Universe, with a positive slant that will further increase your vibration. 

The Law of Attraction states: what you focus on, you get, positive or negative. 

If you want your life to be magnificent, you have to believe that you are magnificent and that you deserve to have magnificence in your life. You have to realize that you are important, loved and that you can achieve anything. When you truly love and respect yourself, the Universe will do everything to ensure you have all you want.

We have come to this planet to awaken to the fact that love is all there is. You don't need to go searching for love, or waiting for your love to come to you. You simply need to focus on loving yourself, and love will radiate from you to the world. Then you will attract what you have been looking for.

Monday, 11 April 2016

"A lie doesn't become truth, wrong doesn't become right & evil doesn't become good, just because it's accepted by a majority."

Rick Warren

There are several sectors of society that never quite fit in the mold of majority expectations. They are NOT the lambs of the population and are usually in some kind of 'trouble', creating some kind of 'fuss.' They WILL be heard, they have something to say .... they do not just go along with everything, they don't seem to fit in. 

The majority may rule in most instances, but if you are being true to yourself, how does that work? If you are one of the lambs, all will be good, but in the case that you are a free-thinker or even have an inquiring mind, it is not that easy to be part of the majority.

If a group of people, such as: parents/extended family, religious affiliation, educational instruction, native culture etc., believe certain things and their opinions are introduced to you in childhood, eventually/usually it becomes your belief as well. Right or wrong these doctrines are instilled in you and you believe them to be true. Don't just follow the doctrine like sheep, question it, question everything, so that you are able to form your own opinions and establish a new belief system that is valid for you today.

This is what awakening is about. It's also why most awakenings happen when you are more mature. You have to live some life with your belief system to have the time or inclination to challenge those beliefs. 

Just because those beliefs have been accepted by the majority does not mean they are true, they are still only opinions.

Friday, 8 April 2016


At some point, 
you have to make a decision.
Boundaries don't keep other people out.
They fence you in.
Life is messy.
That's how we're made.
So, you can waste your lives drawing lines.
Or you can live your life 
crossing them.

You can make all the rules you like.... mandate how close someone can get to you, how often they're allowed and whatever other requirements you insist upon. You can draw lines in the sand, or you can erect giant fences if they make you feel safe. Don't allow anyone to cross those lines/boundaries, so you can feel protected and secure. And when you're impregnable, what do you have exactly? You have this big huge fortress all to yourself. You can live in this strongbox but, what kind of life is that?

"No man is an island."  John Donne

We are a sociable life form, we are all connected to each other and to the earth we inhabit. If you are feeling unsafe, boundaries are not the answer, you need to let people in. It is a waste of your wonderfulness to keep it all to yourself. There are countless numbers of people waiting to meet you and see what you will do next. There are countless others that need you to help facilitate their journey. You have a mission. Locking yourself behind closed doors is serving no one, least of all you. Life isn't just something to 'get through', there is no end of excitement and experiences destined for you and you alone. 

Cross the line you drew in the sand and see what's in store for you. You can start slowly, but hang on, you're in for a wild ride!

Thursday, 7 April 2016


The day we walk away from things that hurt our soul,

Our soul sprouts wings.

The walking away in this quote is leaving it all behind. Anything that crushes you, bad relationships, bad memories, bad relatives, anything at all that gives you grief.

Every negative thing that you carry causes harm. The suggested method of healing is to remember the lesson and let go of the hurt, anger and resentment. Now, is that possible? Can you actually let go of all your past negative realities? 

You don't want your issues from the past negatively affecting the rest of your life, but, at the same time, you do want to remember the hurt to ensure that you recognize it when the situation presents itself again. 

Letting go doesn't necessarily mean forgetting. It is a process to get past the past, it takes time, and deciding to walk away and let it go is the start.

Walk away from things and people that bring you down. You don't need it. Too many of us are adept at disrespecting ourselves, we don't need others doing it for us also. 

As you are walking away from destructive forces in your life, take the time to work on showing yourself some respect, as well. You can be just as harmful as anyone else with your negative messaging. Be kind to yourself, you are doing the best you can

The day we walk away from things that hurt our soul, our soul sprouts wings. Let today be that day!

Wednesday, 6 April 2016


yes, you, stop being unhappy with yourself, you are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality, your quirks, love them, without those things you wouldn't be you. And why would you want to be anyone else? Be confident with who you are. Smile, it'll draw people in. If anyone hates on you because you are happy with yourself then you stick your middle  finger in the air and say screw it, my happiness will not depend on others anymore. I'm happy because I love who I am. I love my flaws, I love my imperfections. They make me, me and 'me' is pretty amazing.

Absolutely! There is no one quite like you. All of us are unique and special and we have a reason for being here, at this time and place. 

You cannot move forward with your mission if you continue to be 'hung up' about your fat thighs. Seriously, in the big picture, what does the size of your thighs matter? You have the exact thighs your body requires to support you physically. You are blessed with the perfect thighs. Congratulations!

You received everything you need to enable you to participate in this life on earth. Be proud of all of it, it's all you are going to get. Acceptance is key. Anything that you have acquired since you arrived, such as your issues, phobias, complexes, and syndromes etc.are also dependent on your acceptance. If you don't allow them to run/ruin your life, they won't. Just accept that stuff happened, changed your life, and now you are able to let it go and move forward. There is no point in holding on to the past. It's done.

Life was never meant to be so serious, you were never meant to struggle through it. You came her to enjoy every moment, find pleasure and delight in all your blessings,  and savour the experience.  Go for it, use your superpowers, now is the time!

Tuesday, 5 April 2016


Stop setting yourself
on fire for someone who
stays to watch you burn.

Haiku on Perspective

(Haiku is a Japanese verse in 3 lines. Line one has 5 syllables, line 2 has 7 syllables and line three has 5 syllables. Haiku is a mood poem and it doesn't use any metaphors or similies.)

The message here is enduring. Stop trying so hard, especially if the other person involved is not trying at all.

Stop trying so hard when trying so hard is the problem!

Have you been in a relationship where unhappiness is the key ingredient? You may be wanting to work on the issues while your partner seems ambivalent or actually refuses to do anything. Nothing changes, nothing happens at all. You want the relationship to continue, and you're doing everything in your power to make that happen. To what end? You cannot have a relationship all by yourself, and why would you want to? This is about you. What do you want? Really want? If there is no cooperation, consideration and you're not working together for the greater good, there isn't much point, is there? You can't force someone to care.

If there is any form of abuse or even lying and cheating, then there is no point whatsoever. Do not put your life in someone else's hands. If you are unhappy, only you can fix it. If someone is giving you a hard time, or ignoring your needs, disrespecting you, or simply doesn't care, you need to decide what is in your best interests. You deserve at least what you are giving out. Check your self-esteem levels, they may be a little low.

Stop turning yourself inside out for someone that would not do the same for you. You are worth so much more than that. 

Monday, 4 April 2016


You don't have to work at being in the high vibration that is natural to you, because it is natural to you.

But you do have to stop holding the thoughts that cause you to lower your vibration.

It's a matter of no longer giving your attention to things that don't allow your cork to float or don't allow you to vibrate in harmony with who you really are.

Abraham Hicks

Did you see that? Your natural state is high.... it is negativity that lowers it. You are inherently high, vibrationally speaking. This is the best news ever! 

You don't have to work at it, you already have it in you. This is all the more reason to eliminate negativity from your life. Negative people and/or situations keep you from your natural emotions of joy and happiness. 

You know all the people you think you can fix by showing them the way? If they could only see how happy you are. Or if they would only take the time to notice how you 'fill them up' with attention, concern and love. They will surely follow your example, will they not? Probably not, they will be who they are. 

That is their job, it's everyone's job, to be who they are. By trying to fix others, you are just avoiding looking at your own stuff.  Use your energy for fixing yourself, rid yourself of negative forces and actually, truly be happy. Only then will you vibrate in harmony with who you really are.