#564

THERE COMES

A TIME WHEN YOU

HAVE TO STOP

CROSSING OCEANS

FOR PEOPLE WHO

WON'T EVEN JUMP

A PUDDLE FOR

YOU.

You know what I mean by this.... why are you doing everything for everyone... who is doing for you?

The sad part is, not even YOU are doing for YOU. It is always nice to be kind and considerate, it's nice to help others and it makes you feel good to be the one to be doing this, but you need to factor yourself into the equation. You cannot habitually be the one giving without ever being on the receiving end. Take a look at the situation..... is it totally one-sided? Are you jumping through hoops for someone that doesn't fit you into their schedule? Is it consistently about them, and never about you? Are you wondering how things got so far out of hand and why you are in this situation?  

Does this relationship have absolutely NOTHING to do with you? 

Is it all about them?

This is a case of trying too hard, and that IS the problem. Relationships are worth fighting for, but you can't be the only one fighting. So if you are trying to salvage a relationship, if you are not getting back what you are giving out; take the time to tune into yourself and find out why you are allowing yourself to be disrespected. Check your self-esteem levels, they may be a little low. Don't ever compromise yourself for any relationship, you deserve only the very best and all you have to do is realize that.

#563

Do you really need
to believe
what you believe?
Really?

This is a call to examine your beliefs. It's always a good time to take a look at what motivates you, what holds you back and at what causes you stress. Our beliefs can lead us in many directions and not always for our good.

It is said: 'stand up for what you believe in', but before you stand up, make sure it isn't some misbegotten theory that you have taken for truth. You may have many unquestioned core beliefs, carried since childhood that beg reconsideration. Take a good hard look at what you are fighting for.

Once you have examined your beliefs, you can decide what is valid for you today and what is just something you absorbed through living your life. Once examined, if you determine that the remaining beliefs absolutely define you, then by all means, stand up for what you believe in and delete the rest. 

But remember, "You are what you believe yourself to be" Paulo Coelho
Your belief system pertains to you and how you feel about yourself. If you feel that you can never have anything you want, you won't. If you believe you are not good enough, you won't be good enough. Trust and self-love are what is required. You have to be the leading lady in your own life and all it takes is believing in yourself.

"You do not become what you want, you become what you believe." Oprah  Winfrey

#562

DON'T WORRY ABOUT THIS WORLD

IT IS NOT BROKEN

And don't worry about others

You worry more about them than they do.

There are people waging war:

there are people on the battlefield who are

more alive than they've ever been before.

Don't try to protect people from life;

just let them have their experience while you focus upon your own experience.

Abraham

Just be yourself, that is what you are here for. You are not here to worry and fret, nor are you here to try and 'fix' everything and everybody. The only thing you can 'fix' is you. As you work on on your own happiness, you create happiness.

The thing is....we each have our own path. You have no idea exactly what people are thinking, what they want and/or where they are going. It is their path, they don't even know where they are going. You may think you know what they want or need, or what would make them feel better, but really you have no way of knowing. Each of us must stumble along and do our best, that's all we can do. 

We tend to think that everyone thinks the same way we do - this is a huge misconception. (I think this was proven in the recent US election) It's hard to believe that someone could think so entirely different from you, but there it is. So you don't actually know what the others want or need or even think, so therefore, it's best to just stay out of it. Don't interfere in other people lives, it just puts their journey on hold while they deal with you. Let them lead their own lives, and you can put all your energy into your own experience here on earth. 

#561 - Faced with inevitable change....

I am looking at change, in this case, as any type of movement. Formerly, if I felt stuck in any process that was not moving forward, for example: if I thought what I was doing was the right thing to do, or I felt something was my responsibility, I would fight until my spirit was weary, before I would finally give it up to the universe and try to let it go.

I don't know whether this was stubbornness, control issues, determination or tunnel vision. I would try to make it right, even to my own determent. But at the time when you are 'in' the circumstance, you don't realize that you are fighting a losing battle. You seem to think that you are fixing things and keep right on fighting. 

After some time, after some self-awareness, you begin to learn to stop beating your head against the wall and accept the fact that things will work out more advantageously if you get out of your own way. Stop resisting 'what is', and go with the flow. 

This was a hard fought lesson for me, I was the one to get things done, to fix things, to create harmony and when I hit a brick wall, it still didn't stop me. It had always worked, or so I thought until it no longer did. I had to start to consider myself and my stress level and surrender some of the difficulties and complications. I had to stop making mountains out of molehills, making such a big deal out of every little hiccup. Eventually, if you work on it, you reach the trust level... you trust that things will work out, that nothing is that big a deal, and that you can handle it no matter what the outcome. You end up being grateful, you realize that all the hurdles were just lessons, nudges, trying to get your attention. And the lessons were to accept, surrender, and trust.  You are okay, all is well.

"Learn the alchemy true human beings know, the moment you accept what troubles you've been given the door will open." Rumi

re-print of #133

#560

Vibrational discord is always the reason for negative emotion.....

and negative emotion is always guidance to help you redirect your thoughts to find vibrational alignment with your current desires and with who you really are.

Abraham

We all know how this little girl feels, sometimes things are so overwhelming, that all that you want to do is cry. We may be tired, hungry, lonely, or scared, one of these emotions usually produces a reaction like this. It means that at this moment you are finding it hard to control your reactions and need some method of decompressing.

Anytime you feel negative emotions is a good time to divert your attention to happier thoughts. This will reduce the impulse to cry or lash out and basically allow you to align with your higher vibration.

Everyone has moments where it is all too much and it's important to recognize the stress you are under and be kind to yourself. This is a learning experience, part of your journey, and everything will work out as it is meant to.

"Any time you feel good you've found vibrational alignment with who you really are." Abraham-Hicks

"The Universe does not know whether the vibration that you're offering is because of something you're observing or something you're remembering or something that you are imagining. It just receives the vibration and answers it with things that match it." Abraham-Hicks

#559

The very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love is to be unhappy, and then ask them to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy.

Abraham-Hicks

Many find this  difficult to understand... nobody can make you do or be anything!!! If you are not happy, no one can make you so. You make yourself happy or not, you are the only one with that power. Don't ever put yourself in the position that your happiness depends on someone or something outside of yourself. This creates all those negative reactions ...... jealousy, rage, obsession, addiction etc. 

"Peace comes from within. Do not seek without" Buddha

If you feel someone is 'making you unhappy', you have been given a gift. This gift  gets your attention and affords you the opportunity to take a look at things. There has been a button pushed, something needs some attention. Because of this person, you are able to figure out why you react as you do. 

It is about you, it's always about you. Everyone else is merely players on your stage, they are holding up mirrors so you can take a look at yourself.

Never expect anyone to change your mood for you. You feel what you feel and if it causes unhappiness, dig in and find out why. You are responsible for your feelings, reactions, moods and the energy you carry with you. 

Make yourself happy first and then you will emit the happy vibration to all the world. 

#558

Is there a difference between
happiness and inner peace?

YES.

Happiness depends on conditions
being perceived as positive;
inner peace does not.

Eckhart Tolle

When you do something you really enjoy, with people you really enjoy, it makes you happy. 

This is what you are trying to achieve in this life, to find happiness and inner peace. You want to just be happy, within yourself, no matter what is happening around you. To remain calm and in control, because you know that you are okay. In order to feel this way you need to eliminate fear from your life, once and for all. How do you do that? How do you learn to trust yourself, trust that you will okay, no matter what?

The way to do this is to live in the present, realize that this is all there is. Don't spend your life going over all your past hurts, or worrying about the future. You have no control over either. The past has already happened, you cannot change it. The future is a crapshoot, there are no guarantees. 

So take today for what it is, ACCEPT whatever may be happening. Don't try to twist and turn it into what you want it to be. This is your life, at this moment, this is what is happening, don't expand on it, just let it be. Savour the wonderful moments of your life, all of this will help you to attain inner peace. 

Remember, it's a process, nothing will happen overnight, but this is your true disposition - peace and happiness; they are in your DNA, your birthright, therefore, you will always be able to learn to trust yourself and find peace within. 

#557

Financial abundance does not occur in one's life because of hard work or good luck or favoritism.

Financial abundance is simply the Universe's response to consistent thoughts and feelings of abundance.

Abraham-Hicks

Most people my age were raised with the 'if you want to be successful, you must keep your nose to the grindstone' attitude.  We were under the delusion that success was heaps of money and that the harder you worked, the more hours you put in, the more hoops you jumped through, would eventually create the life you wanted. All the money and success, perhaps even power, would be yours. In some cases, this did really appear to be the case, but, of course, we have no idea of the personal life or the health issues of the people that had pulled off 'success.' 

The more you struggle, the more you keep pounding your head against the wall, the more struggle you create. You are the key player in your own show, all you need to do is set the scene. Get everything set up in the direction you want to go, then 'see' yourself in that position, until you manifest the position you wish to be in. 

Don't fight against the flow .... abundance is always 'there' and there is, and always will be, more than enough for you. You won't get rich by working harder and enjoying life less, you need to visualize yourself having abundance in all things. Be grateful for all that you have and you will create more. Count your blessings and pay close attention to the abundance received in all its many forms. 

#556 

Make peace with your problem by just letting it sit where it is and in doing so, the solution must show up.

But if you keep examining the problem, talking about the problem, measuring the problem, speaking of the problem - you hold yourself in defiance to the solution that would be there if you weren't doing that. A-H

If you have a problem, if things are pressing down on you and you don't see any way out of it, you need to just leave it alone to work itself out.

This is what is meant by "let go and let God." You don't have the answer, that is obvious because you are examining, talking, measuring etc. trying to figure out a solution. And now, all that is happening is that you are summoning more problems to examine and measure, because this is your main focus. 

This society expects you to be pro-active in your own life, by jumping right in and finding solutions at any cost. If the solution doesn't immediately present itself, then leaving it alone IS the solution. 

Life isn't meant to be a struggle, life flows. If you feel that you have to fight for everything, that nothing comes easily to you, you are simply creating more struggle. Try to turn that thinking around - Everything comes easily to me.

"Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force" Lao Tsu

"Life flows on within you and without you" George Harrison

#555

All of the programs that are focused on recovery seem to want to push against what was wrong in order to hold themselves in recovery.

This is a Universe that is based upon attraction, it's inclusion-based.

You cannot push against anything without continuing the vibration of it. Abraham-Hicks

Whatever is uppermost in your mind, whatever you are obsessing about,  is what you are drawing to you. 

So no matter what you are unhappy about, no matter what is dragging you down, causing you pain or anxiety or making you feel hopeless, is the vibration you are giving off. You are asking for more of the same. You cannot keep ranting and raving about whatever the problem is and expect it to go away. You have to let it go and allow the solution to come to you.

It may seem impossible when you are in the middle of the 'worry warp' to just let it go, but, in reality, you are not fixing it anyway. When you are obsessing about ANYTHING, you are accomplishing NOTHING. Therefore, all you are doing is worrying which creates stress and anxiety and doesn't solve anything. 

Never push against what is being presented, embrace it, and allow it to be what it is meant to be. Trust yourself, you have the power to attract whatever you want in your life, it is waiting for you, right now. All you have to do is relax and allow.

#554 - You had the power all along, my dear - Glinda-the good witch

We have always had the power, that is, until we gave it away bit by bit.

"As children, we were born loving ourselves.  We knew how to clearly ask for what we needed and it was important to us that our needs were met.  As toddlers, we had confidence that held no apologies or modesty.  We expressed what we thought in the moment without censorship.  If we felt it needed to be said, we said it, without judgement, but in a way that expressed our feelings. We celebrated ourselves and had appreciation for our physical form.  Having a negative self-image was impossible to us.  We were filled with courage and adored ourselves."  article - Learning to Love Yourself

This is the power... this is how we started out. All that and more is still within you. Everything you have ever needed or wanted is within your power to receive. You have the power to create miracles.

What happened to all that confidence and celebration? It is amazing how much of ourselves we give away for nothing throughout the course of our lives. But at the core, you are still you. All the love of yourself is within, it can be accessed. It is not just a desire to be like you used to be, it is attainable. 

Start by celebrating yourself, your accomplishments, achievements, and abilities. Be kind to yourself, find time for and honour yourself. You are important to everyone. Appreciate and love your body. Speak your mind, enjoy yourself, dance, sing, run, play and laugh. You are not here for a long time, you're here for a good time, so have a good time. Channel your younger self, all that confidence, and silliness, live your life and express yourself in any way that feels good. You are the master of your own universe, take charge!

"Everything you were looking for was right there with you all along"  The Wizard of Oz

re-play of #119

#553 

As long as you make an identity for yourself out of pain, you cannot be free of it. Eckhart Tolle

Once you start saying 'my', using the possessive pronoun, you are accepting it as yours. Therefore, if you say 'my migraines' or 'my cancer', you are embracing the disease. 

Disease is an intruder in your body and in your life,  do not accept it. You were born perfect and are perfect, disease is self created. Since you created it, you can heal it. Disease does not just happen to you, there is a reason, usually a message, connected to it. It is not the luck of the draw or DNA. Even though your family has a history of migraines, that doesn't mean you have to have them. 

As with everything, it is your attitude/reaction to a diagnosis that decides the true significance of it. It is a choice. You can choose to be 'scared to death' or see the situation for what it is, a lesson. Eliminate the fear; if you can choose to be scared you can choose not to be. Without the fear, you will realize that you will be OK no matter what takes place. Accept things as they are

You may want to further monitor your thinking and speaking. Saying things like 'you broke my heart, you'll be the death of me, you drive me crazy or that pisses me off',even positive feelings such as; 'my heart is bursting with joy,' is giving the wrong message. You are practically begging some health issue to come and invade your body, you are telling your body that your heart is meant to burst or break. Stop it. And in the same vein; if you worry about a disease, if you are afraid that you might get it, you are attracting it. Anything that you think about, obsess about is what you attract.

Remember, you are perfect, just as you are. LIVE your life, don't anticipate problems. Look for the good in all situations. Find the lesson in every scenario and stay in the here and now, that is all that is real. Right now, this instant, you are OK....go with that.

This is a re-print of #242

#552.

SERENITY is not freedom
from the storm,

it is PEACE within the storm.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can

And the wisdom to know the difference.

Serenity will be yours when you are able to accept things as they are, not how you want them to be. 

Accept the things that you cannot change: There are so many things that crop up in day to day life that we are unable to do anything about. So many things that we just have to accept, we cannot fix them. Things, such as traffic jams, taxes, line-ups, floods, hurricanes or anything that takes place in the past or the future. We can prepare for some things, but we cannot change them. We can't let these things upset us, just as we can't worry about things that have previously happened, haven't happened yet, or are out of our control.

Courage to change the things I can: The things you CAN change are anything to do with you. Your weight, your health, your mind. If you owe someone an apology, or you need to correct an error that you made; you can do that. If you want to help at the soup kitchen, climb a mountain, or do something that makes you feel good. Do it.

Wisdom to know the difference: Knowing what you can do something about and what is none of your concern is not always easy... it's a fight your own battles thing. If it doesn't concern you, leave it alone. And once you master the art of leaving it alone, you also have to master the art of letting it go. Don't obsess about what the government is doing, or whether or not it will snow in December. Once you discern what you can change and let the rest go, you will be on your way to a serene, calm, happy life.

#551
You get what you expect, have you noticed that?

You expect to survive, and so you do.

You expect to have a roof over your head, and so you do.

You expect to live alright, and so you do. But you don't expect extraordinary things, so they don't come.

You don't expect magnificent money to flow into your experience, and so it cannot get in.

The only thing that comes to you is what you are expecting to come. Abraham-Hicks

What you 'get' depends on how you feel

If you are UP, your vibration is UP and all will flow to you . 

The problem, if you are having trouble with getting the vibration up, is the issues, beliefs and day to day tensions that you are dragging around with you - your sack of rocks. If your issues are proving to you on a daily basis that you don't deserve 'all the world has to offer', you will not trust that you deserve anything. Furthermore, if your belief system states that you must keep your 'nose to the grindstone', then you may find it impossible to think of an a alternative for simplifying your life. 

All of your issues and beliefs have made you who you are, they have helped to form you into the human we see today. AND they have done a great job, they made sure that you survived. But now is the time for you to do more than just survive, now is the time to live the life you deserve. 

In order to live your best life, you need to raise your vibration and begin receiving all the extraordianary things, and magnificent money that are just waiting for you. In order to do this, you need to let go of all the outdated issues and beliefs that you have been clinging to; and open yourself up to receive. Everything is waiting, with your name on it. Expect only the very best.
Breathe, Believe, Recieve

#550

Everyone you
encounter is
playing the role
you need them 
to play for you.

We create a plan, a blueprint before we returned to this planet. Souls get together and set up the life we will experience. Each person plays a part.

'As one soul was planning their new life on earth, the other souls willing to participate were gathered around accepting their positions for that lifetime. Certain souls would be asked to portray less than kind, sometimes despicable characters. It is a sign of their unconditional love that they accepted this assignment. The soul that was orchestrating his life was grateful for the acceptance and compassion shown by the souls that had agreed to be the 'villains' in his life. When all was said and done, one of the 'villains' approached the soul and stated: “do not forget who I am"'.

What this little story is saying is that each person that plays a part in your life has agreed to do this for your growth; this is your movie. So in this particular lifetime, they signed up to be the abuser, the controller, the addict, or the loving, kind, supportive one; whatever you need to experience in that chapter of your life. You, too, have made the same agreement with other souls. You are playing the role of someone that will give them the lessons that they require. It’s a WIN/WIN situation.

Everyone that has anything to do with you, you have chosen. You set this up, for you, to learn what you needed to learn this time on earth. Therefore, if you recognize and/or accept this, the drama is lessened and you can handle anything. You are actually in charge, this is your life, and you are running the show. The situation no longer needs to be volatile, once you are 'know' that you are just playing a part that will, in the end, benefit you.  

#549

What I believe about me is my business: what you believe about me is your business. Byron Katie

"They love me, I say "Thank you." They hate me, I say "Thank you." It's their story. What do I have to do with it?" Byron Katie

So there you are, that's how it works... "What other people think of me is none of my business"

You can never depend on anyone else to tell you who to be, how to act or what to do. Everyone else has their own experiences and will project those on you, and that is not who you are meant to be. You are an original, and perfect just as you are.

Whose business are you in? AND/OR who are you allowing to run your business?
"There are only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God’s.

Whose business is it if an earthquake happens? God’s business. 

Whose business is it if your neighbour down the street has an ugly lawn? Your neighbour’s business.

Whose business is it if you are angry at your neighbour down the street because he has an ugly lawn? Your business."

Byron Katie

"The only opinion in all the Universe that is of true importance to you is your own. And your own opinion of you affects the entire Universe."

Abraham-Hicks

#548

You don't create
the things you want.

You create things
that you give
your attention to,
whether you
want it or not.

Abraham-Hicks

You create your life, you are in charge. You are what you think. Whatever you are obsessing or worrying about, whatever is uppermost in your mind... is what you are vibrating, the message you are giving to the Universe. 

So if what you want is to be rich and what you are obsessing about is not being able to pay what you owe, you are manifesting more debt.... the exact opposite of what you want. When you are giving your attention to lack, you are creating fear around the situation. Once fear has raised it's ugly head, then the worry and obsessing start, and everything will continue to go 'downhill'. If you are focused on problems, that is what will come to you.

So you are not creating what you want, but what you dread. 

It is not easy to break this cycle. When you are totally absorbed in financial fear it's hard to look on the bright side, there doesn't appear to be one. (I have used lack of funds in this blog, but it is the same with anything you are worried or obsessing about) Try to focus on the fact that at this very minute you are okay... just do it a minute at a time. This will help calm the panic, then you will be able to look for the good and focus on that. It is a process, it takes time to lose fear, but if you concentrate on what you love, what makes you happy, you WILL start to receive more of that.

"When you focus on how good the good is, the good gets better"

#547

You don't have to disrespect and insult others simply to hold your own ground. If you do, that shows how shaky your own position is. Red Haircrow 

You don't need to knock others down to build yourself up.

If you are feeling 'less than', the onus is on you, don't take it out on others. No one has to, or wants to, put up with temper tantrums, bad moods, excuses, name calling or belittling. That's what bullies are made of. There is something within that needs work.

If your main objective is to 'win' at all costs, if you would rather be right than be happy or if you are frequently creating an angry scene (with all that entails); it is a signal to take a look at these issues.

If you jump up and down trying to prove that you are right, or demand that everyone accept that you are right, or display angry, aggressive, or threatening behaviour to ensure that you are right, there is a problem.

So with all that on the table, how do you handle a crisis, a major incident or a simple situation? Take a deep breathe. This is about you, if you are still blaming someone else, you are the problem, not the solution. You need to buck up and be accountable for whatever 'stuff' you are hanging onto, whatever 'stuff' you are blaming and whatever disrespect and insults you are slinging.

Disrespect and insults are not OK, there is no justification for either. It is never the way to make yourself look or feel better. You have to love yourself, then you have no reason to 'look down' on other people. When you feel good about yourself, you will feel good about others.

Never look down on someone, unless you are helping them up.

This is a repeat of #264