If you are immersed in a situation that has hit a brick wall, or heading in that direction... you have 2 choices: If you don’t like it, whatever it may be, you can accept it and change your attitude, or quit/leave. That’s it. Don't complain, whine or wallow, just choose your option.
You may notice that I have one different option than the quote.... He says you can change the situation, I said, change your attitude.... He has three options and I have only two. But he is, after all, Eckhart Tolle, and I got my quote from my dad, so you choose.
My feeling on this discrepancy is: that all you can change is yourself and you are feeling between a rock and a hard place.... so all that is left to do is accept it and change your attitude or quit/leave....
So if this is your situation, and you cannot see a solution that would leave you happy, these are your choices.
“No one can take advantage of you without your permission”
Remember you can’t change anyone, don’t waste your time trying. Even if it appears as though they are following your lead, they will sabotage you and/or the situation if it is not what they want.
Everyone is just who they are, and when they are not treating you the way you want them to, it is up to you to speak up. Weigh the pros and cons and decide whether you can live with it or leave. But it is up to you. They are who they are, they are doing what they do. Listen to your inner voice, that knot in your stomach, it will make it perfectly clear what your next step should be.
But make no mistake....If you continue in the same situation, you have no right to complain about it, it is your decision.
You is Kind
You is Smart
You is Important
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