Wednesday 6 August 2014

How would your life be different? 
Does it really matter? 
Your life is as it is because of choices you made.
"We are our choices" J.P. Sartre 
The quote to the left says: "free yourself from the burdens of a past you cannot change." 
This is your life today, and you cannot change where it is right now.  Although from today onward you can go any direction you want.

The quote still gives us a message..... to learn to let go of things that have already let go of you. We all hang on so tightly, give it one more chance, give it the benefit of the doubt, don't want hurt feelings. We never want to take that first step into change. 

We can always justify our actions, in a multitude of ways, until things pile up and we  break. It is usually a very small moment that finally kicks us into overdrive, but actually it's the "build up" of everything that creates  the "final straw."  

So you end the relationship, the toxic friendships, let go of all the negative attachments, and then what? Now you have the regrets, the resentments and everything you should have done/said and didn't, to deal with. You will go over and over every situation that led to the break up and analyze it to death. STOP! You stayed exactly as long as you needed to. You were immersed in a lesson. This is the process,  you will hang on to all of it until you don't, until you are absolutely ready to let it go. 

You are not just floating around here with no anchor and no direction. Everything will happen when the time is right. If you haven't detached yourself from some relationship, then the time is not right. It is not over until it's over, and you will do what you need to do, when you are ready to do it. We keep thinking that we "should" do this or that, and you will, if that is what needs to be done.... when you are ready. No matter how a situation turns out, it is how it was meant to be, you learned something from it. You cannot force things to work out in a particular way. 

There is no point in thinking about how your life would be different, if you had done something else, because, you did NOT do something else.  There are no mistakes.... everything will happen as it is meant to. Go with the flow, let the current take you down stream instead of struggling to go upstream against the current.

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