Complaining about anything holds you in the place of refusing to receive the things you've been asking for.
Justifying about anything holds you in the place of refusing to let in the very things that you've been asking for.
Blaming someone holds you in the place of refusing to let in the things that you've been asking for. Feeling guilty, feeling angry, it doesn't matter what you call it; it is a refusal, not a conscious one.
You're asking; you can't help but ask. The Universe is yielding; it must yield. It's a big question, folks: why aren't you letting it in? Abraham-Hicks
Why do 'bad things' happen to good people, how come nothing ever goes my way? They is no need for things to happen that way, it's how you approach the asking that makes the difference. We are holding up the process by our lack of patience and trust that something good will happen for us.
We are entitled to everything the Universe has to offer, it is 'there' waiting for us. We only have to believe that we are worthy of receiving. So it all comes down to self-esteem, once again. It's how we feel about ourselves that determines the life we will have. Everything is within our reach, but we keep pushing it back, ignoring it, whining about how we never get what we want.
We are all living the life we truly want!
(Read that again, it's may be hard to assimilate.)
We ARE always being offered EVERYTHING we could ever want, need, desire, or have prayed for, and yet we don't feel like we have any of it. Start by being grateful for what we do have, work on being patient and become aware of the little gifts that come our way. Be open to receive and thankful when you do.