#507


Be kind and gentle with yourself. You're a beautiful cosmic child of light, precious as the stars in the sky. Keep peace in your heart during the chaos of life. - Chantelle Renee

It is so important that you know how important you are. You are a child of the Universe, on a mission. You have things to do, people to meet, you are a significant person in the world. And while you are running to and fro, filling your hours with loving care and attention for everyone on your list.... What about you? When is it your turn?

In today's world, you almost need to make an appointment with yourself for some pampering... it is rough out there. You need something just for you. This differs for each person. Some consider gardening to be relaxing, I call it work. It just depends on who you are. For 'ME' time, you require something that you love; perhaps a bubble bath, a good book, a designer coffee,  or just a quiet moment of reflection.

All of these suggestions may clear your head and give you a chance to think, but the most crucial thing you need to know is that you are essential to everything. You need to be kind and gentle to yourself, you need to love yourself because you most certainly won't be able to care for others if you are not on top of your game. As per the instructions on every airplane: "Put the oxygen mask on yourself first, and then, attend to your children." In the same vein, you are the most important person to you, as well as everyone else. Take care.

"You are a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should." Desiderata - Max Ehrmann

Repeat of #290

#506

YOU CAN"T GET IT WRONG.

It can't go wrong but you can perceive it as wrong if you want to.

But why would you want to?

Abraham

There is a reason behind everything that you experience. Things will work out, as they are meant to, not necessarily what you thought, but for your growth, the way that was needed. Usually, it is in a way that had never crossed your mind. 

You probably had looked at the 'problem' and maybe even come up with a couple of ways for it to be sorted out, but nothing seemed likely or viable to you. The solution often comes out of left field and rarely was it on your list. It is all one gigantic puzzle and the resolution is 'set to go' exactly when it will be of the most benefit to you. 

We often think that nothing is being done for us because the solution shows up as something so different from what we were thinking that we don't realize it is meant to help us. The synchronicity is so astounding at these times that it takes awhile to process, however, it WILL be the right answer for YOU.  

Breathe, Believe, Receive

All you need to do is get out of your own way and allow the Universe to do its job, then recognize and accept it when it arrives.

#505

Most people do not realize that as they continue to find things to complain about, they disallow their own physical well-being. Many do not realize that before they were complaining about an aching body or a chronic disease, they were complaining about many things first.

It does not matter if the object of your complaint is about someone you are angry with, behavior in others that you believe is wrong, or something wrong with your own physical body. 

Complaining is complaining, and it disallows improvement. Abraham

You are sending out negative vibrations each time you are complaining, whining or grumbling about anything and/or everything in your world. 

We are not always conscious of how much or how often we make a mental note of what is bugging us at the moment, to gnaw on later. Hanging on to these disappointments, resentments, anger, or any other negative action, is never a good idea, it does nothing for you or your health.

Each one of these little nigglings (slight but persistent annoyance, discomfort, or anxiety) is stored in our memory and creates a negative atmosphere for your existence. If you are constantly seeing only the dismal side of life, always expecting the worst, pessimistic and inflexible with your attitudes and beliefs, you are creating a hotbed for illness.

No matter what you are hanging on to or complaining about, let it go. You can't change anything that has been said or done, you can't change the weather, what is happening in the news, or the state of the world. so just live your life, try to remain positive, and be kind to yourself and others.

#504

Your light is seen, your heart is known, your soul is cherished by more people than you might imagine. If you knew how many others have been touched in wonderful ways by you, you would be astonished. if you knew how many people feel so much for you, you would be shocked. You are far more wonderful than you think you are. Rest with that. Rest easy with that. Breathe again. You are doing fine. More than fine. You're doin' great. So relax. And love yourself today.

Neale Donald Walsch is telling us, once again, how important we are in the scheme of things. We all play our part, with and for others as well as ourselves. We are not just wandering around here on earth, all alone, with no direction. He is making us aware of the fact that our light is seen, heart known and soul cherished by many people. We touch others in our daily lives that we didn't realize had even noticed us. We affect other by just being.

You, being you, that is all you have to do.. you are an inspiration to many, a warning to some and a force to be reckoned with. Quit worrying, life isn't meant to be a struggle. If you just relax and live your life: without worry, without plotting, planning and goal setting, without guilt, shame or resentment, without the need to be right over being happy, you will find that elusive joy, contentment, and peace.  

Many will read this message and think: "sure thing, I'm fabulous" but you have to believe it to make it a part of you. How do you make that happen? It is the process of letting go of all that is holding you hostage. All the negativity in your being. Let it all go, it is not doing anything for you. Have faith, believe that you are amazing, unique and beautiful. There is nothing more you need to be, do or have, to be happy. You are wonderful!

" We are all visitors to this time, this place. We are just passing through. Our purpose here is to observe, to learn, to grow, to love and then return home."  Australian Aboriginal Proverb.

#503

Sometimes the healing is in the aching....

When a life-changing event, such as a major illness, accident, job loss, financial crisis or a death, takes place, you tend to completely shut down. In these situations, it is just too much to process. It has been a shock and it is difficult to function for a period of time. 

You simply move around from place to place without awareness or all you want to do is sleep. You are not 'of' this world for awhile, until you finally feel able to return and function with some level of clarity. AND then the aching starts.

Aching is a process we all have to deal with at some time in our life. Some things seem to be just too much to bear. But, of course, you will bear them, but it takes time. You need to respect the process and be kind to yourself. If a death has occurred, don't assume that it will all be forgotten within a certain time period. Everyone grieves at their own rate and if this is your first time dealing with devastating news, you have no idea how it will affect you. Your greatest wish during this time is for things to go back to normal, but there is a loss to contend with and someone is missing from your life. 

If the situation is an illness or an accident, there is still a grieving period because things are not the same as they were before. This is life, but that doesn't make it any easier. The whole scenario is difficult to accept and there is still an ache in your heart for your loss. Job loss and financial problems are a blow to you and your family, and you also need time to recover from these setbacks. They are also a loss.

During the healing process, the aching is a reminder of your loss, and although it is painful, it reminds you that you are alive and you will carry on. Crisis happens, celebrations happen and we learn to deal with life. Once the process is complete you will be awed by the awareness you have achieved. Again, be kind to yourself, there is a delicate balance to be maintained. Don't try to push through the process, allow it to flow through you and finally heal the ache. 

Re-print of #135

#502

Some people have abusive, negative, controlling tendencies in their blood; they are wired for havoc, bickering, and deception. They know of no other way to interface with others except through their created chaos.

Chaos is their home-court advantage where they play their mind-games so they can have power over you; it's a rigged game you can never win.

Listen to your inner-voice.

Get out while you can!

Bryan McGill

That exclamation point denotes urgency, it requires your immediate attention. You do not want to associate with this type of person under any circumstances. If you are involved with ANYONE that displays these tendencies, it is time to move on, as fast as your little legs will carry you. 

Don't ever risk getting caught in the web of an abusive, controlling person, there is no good reason for taking that on. You are worth more, even if you don't feel that you are, YOU ARE. You need to be the most important person in your own life. Your first step is to remove yourself, then take a look at the reason you were attracted to them in the first place. 

No one has the right to abuse (mentally, emotionally or physically) another living thing, and the fact that this type of person thinks it's okay is a huge red flag. This is a destructive relationship, don't continue to allow them to 'beat' you up and don't waste time beating yourself up because you fell for it. You're not going to win, so don't play the game. Get out!

#501 

Don't look back....

Absolutely! All of the changes and hard times you have experienced, have given you the opportunity to grow. Your whole life will be different with your new knowledge and life lessons. You will find that you are more aware and fulfilled. 

Everyone has trials in their lives, some more than others, it seems, but nonetheless we all have heartache. As we age and grow into ourselves, we seem to react better to trying circumstances. We get much more comfortable with who we are, more accepting of everything, and able to handle whatever it may be with less drama and pain. All of this is, of course, because of everything we have gone through. 

We are who we are, because of where we have been

We end up being grateful for all the troubles we've seen. We discover the reasons for most of the problems, what our contribution was to the dysfunction of the situation, and why it had to happen as it did. We develop some wisdom about life and a knowing of how to handle anything.  We are composite of our lessons.

Use all you have learned to prepare a better life for yourself. Fill yourself with joy, do what you want to do.... you have earned it. You have weathered the storm and now the skies are clear and the sun is shining brightly. 

"You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space." Johnny Cash

Repeat of #153

#500 - Five Hundred Blogs - Wow!
You are galaxies

People are told early on a bogus story about who they really are. 

Before you were taught doubt & insecurity. Before you were taught fear & self-hate. 

You were absolutely Pure. 

You were One with Yourself. 

One with the Universe. 

One with All. 

You were the very Essence of Love & Joy & Wonder. 

This Who You Were. 

THIS IS WHO YOU ARE.

It has never left you.

It is within you. Abraham-Hicks

You were perfect when you were born, and you are still perfect. 

All you have to do it be YOU and you are the only person that can do that. 

By the time you reach adulthood, a false perception of who you are has been ingrained into your psyche. You have been told since birth who to be, how to act, what is and is not acceptable in your family, culture, religion, school, sports, everywhere you go there is a standard of behaviour that you are expected to conform to. In this process, it is common to loose sight of who you really are. 

Once you realize and acknowledge that you have been lost in the shuffle, it takes a majority, if not all of the rest, of your life, to come back to square one. You have never really lost that perfect person, but it has been buried beneath the baggage you have amassed in this lifetime. 

A spiritual journey is the returning to the perfection that is your birthright.... the perfect love and peace of the Universe. 

You are One with the Universe, One with yourself and One with All. 

#499

The Truth About Your Heart

Your heart will fix itself

It's your mind you need to worry about.

Your mind where you locked the memories, your mind where you have kept pieces of the ones that hurt you, that still cut through you like shards of glass.

Your mind will keep you up at night, make you cry, destroy you over and over again.

You need to convince your mind that it has to let go... because your heart already knows how to heal. Nikita Gill

Your mind (ego) again, running the show.

The mind hangs on to everything from the story of your life, it wants to keep you on the straight and narrow. "Look before you leap," "Always watch your back," "Don't talk to strangers." etc. Often these are lessons learned and the mind does not want you to make the same mistake again, but what it actually does is instill fear in you. You are not paying attention to how you really feel, but reacting to a fear. You become afraid to try anything new or step out of your comfort zone. If you never take a chance or learn to trust yourself and KNOW that you are okay, you don't really live this life you have been given, but simply exist in fear.

"Your heart, on the other hand, doesn't want you to play it safe. It doesn't approach life with rational logic. Your heart wants to move boldly into the unknown. It wants you to have the amazing, awe-inspiring enlivening life possible, and that means doing things that totally freak you out sometimes. Things that excite, thrill and empower you." mindbodygreen.com 

This is something we all fight, head and heart. Who do we listen to? Your head will always put on the brakes, advice against, and keep the fears alive. The heart, says "DO IT! The only advice I have to offer is: if there is something you feel strongly about, something that you really want to do, what are you waiting for? This is your life, do what you want to do. 

"Feel the fear and do it anyway" Susan Jeffers

#498

Life isn't as serious as the
mind makes it out to be.

Eckhart Tolle

Your mind tells you all kinds of things, doesn't it? It tells you all the terrible things that could happen to you or those you care about. It's there to nag at you with tales of all that might go wrong in any scenario. It works on guilt, shame, fear, and insecurity. 

You have constant chatter, a running commentary going on in your head, warning you. It tells you all the reasons that you shouldn't do all those things you've always wanted to do, what would happen if you left the safety of your home to go on that trip you've been planning for years? What about your obligations, your responsibilities, your debts? 

Seriously, life is not that serious. We make it appear so when we decide to accept the thoughts that ultimately scare us, creating anxiety, stress, and worry. If you find yourself listening to thoughts of doom and gloom, STOP LISTENING. 

It is not necessary to take heed, scrutinize or believe every thought that comes into your head. It is mostly nonsense and supposition, not truth. Nobody knows what will happen tomorrow nor anytime in the future, so worrying about it is a waste of time and energy.

You are not here to worry and fret, so appreciate what you have, where you are, and Don't Worry Be Happy!

#497

Don't make where you are to big a deal. Let it be what it is, it's a moment in time where you have the choice to feel good or feel bad. That's all that it ever is.

Abraham

Don't worry so much about where you are right now, whether or not you have accomplished everything you wanted to do. So many of us reach an age where we contemplate the situation and decide that we haven't lived up to our own expectations and/or the expectations of others. "I wanted to be a millionaire, CEO, olympian, seen Paris or be married with children, by the time I was 30 and I'm no closer to it than I was at 20." 

Don't put that kind of pressure on yourself. You are only creating stress and setting yourself up for disappointment. It's great to have goals, but you also need to add an 'It's okay if I don't achieve this right on schedule, I'm still a wonderful, kind and thoughtful person' clause into that contract you made with yourself. 

Don't beat yourself up for living your life. 'Stuff' happens, things need to get done, life takes over. You can't be everything to everybody.

"Life happens while you are busy making other plans." John Lennon

Allow life to be as it is, you don't have control of it anyway. Just accept things as they are, and carry on. What will be, will be!

#496

No matter how justified you are in your negative emotion, you are still messing up your future.

- Abraham

The fact that you are focusing your attention on your negative feelings means that you are inviting more negativity into your life, and it WILL mess up your future.

"What we think we become" Buddha

You may think that you have every right to be angry about things that have happened to you, and you are probably right. Yet, who is it hurting for you to continue nurturing all that negativity? You cannot change what has happened and you certainly can't change the way others think or what they do. The only person's mind you can or need to change is yours. 

Anything that you are holding on to, any anger, resentment, revenge, any negativity, is eating you up and creating stress that can manifest into illness. 

Don't spend the rest of your life harbouring defeatist feelings over things you cannot change. Give yourself the solace of deleting negativity from your thoughts completely and fill yourself up with joy and happiness instead.

"Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe." Oprah

#495

A state of worthiness is not earned but simply accepted - Abraham

"You don't have to justify the good that flows to you, it is a given." - Abraham

Allowing factor has to do with your Own Self-Love. When you're Really Liking You, it feels like there is no Limitation of what you can receive. Abraham 

Stop making others responsible for the way you feel. Abraham

I quote Abraham-Hicks often, here is an explanation of who 'they' are.

'Abraham' is a group consciousness of the non-physical dimension. They are 'channeled' or are an inspiration of Esther and Jerry Hicks. Esther herself calls Abraham "infinite intelligence," and to Jerry, they are "the purest form of love I've ever experienced." www.abraham-hicks.com

You deserve a happy and healthy life, the only thing stopping you is you. You are worthy because you are you, and you are here. Knowing that you are here for a reason and that no one can fill your shoes on this earth, should help you to recognize your worth. 

No one can make you feel 'less than', it is a choice you have made. NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL ANYTHING. No matter what is said or done to you by others, you still make the choice on how you feel. It is up to you to decide how you wish to navigate your life; hurt, angry and resentful or happy.

Things will remain as they are until you understand that the only limits on you are the limits you establish yourself. If you want to be happy, be happy. Just make the decision, find your happy place and stay there. 

The purpose of your life is JOY. Why not indulge in some? 

#494

"Finish each day and be done with it.. you have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense."
Emerson

Put yourself to bed, be grateful for your life, and have a sound sleep. 

Too many people spend sleepless nights, worrying about their day. 'Did they say the wrong thing?' 'Should they have chosen another route?' 'What will happen tomorrow?' etc. The things is: whatever you did or did not do, has already passed. You reacted to something, it's done. You can always make amends, but you cannot change what has already taken place. 

There is an inordinate amount of time spent on regrets, "could have, should have, would have'. The fact is you didn't. That's it. You did what you did, good or bad, and it's done. This is how it stands, regretting it will not make it go away. The only solution to regret is to atone for it and then let it go. Take responsibility for your words and actions, apologize, learn from it and move forward. We all screw up, we all say things that we wish we hadn't, we do things that don't make any sense, even to us. We are only human, after all, we all react to different situations and then wonder why we did. Don't be so hard on yourself, just carry on, and see what tomorrow brings.

“Isn't it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?” ― Anne of Green Gables - L M Montgomery

We need to forgive ourselves for our blunders and start each new day with a clean slate.  

“This new day has greeted us with no rules; unconditional opportunity. Do not dilute the power of this new day with the hardship of yesterday. Greet this day the way it has greeted you; with open arms and endless possibility.”  -Steve Maraboli

#493

'Breathe, my friend, you are not old, you are young, you are not a mess, you are normal.

Extraordinary, perhaps. In the blink of an eye, your life will change, and it will continue to change for decades to come. 

Enjoy it. Embrace it. 

Be grateful for the ride. 

You are not old, you are young, and faith will get you everywhere. Just you wait.'

Take it easy on yourself, you are doing the best you can. You are not shirking your duties, or falling behind in any way. You are perfect, just as you are, doing what you do, for being you. There is nothing lacking, or left out, all is exactly as it is meant to be. There will be lean times, there will be plentiful times, and you are equipped to handle anything that comes your way.

Believe in yourself, there are reasons that you are here. There are no mistakes. You may not be aware of your purpose on this planet, but you are working on it, nonetheless. You are necessary, you are a piece of the puzzle in the Universal plan.

You are perfect exactly as you are. With all your 'flaws' and problems, there is no need to change anything. All you need is to change the thought that you need to change. You are as you are, and that is enough. You have lessons to learn and sometimes the lessons are concerning those 'flaws.' The problems will teach you what you need to learn. It is an intricate plan and you are here to fulfill your part in it. 

Enjoy it. Embrace it. Be grateful for the ride.

#492

REMEMBER HER?

She is still there...inside you... 

WAITING

Let's go get her.

The child within... The scrawny  little runt filled to the brim with enthusiasm, laughter, anticipation, and excitement. She was always eager, delighted AND delightful, thrilled about any little thing that happened. She was HAPPY!

You do remember, when you actually stop and think about it, how it felt to be that little child, do you not? Why did you let her go so easily? You left her for the grumpy, tired, dissatisfied, frustrated woman that she turned into? Why are you so attached to this version of yourself? Why not trade yourself in for the child you once were?

Don't take life so seriously, you may have responsibilities and obligations galore, but there is always time to play. You can find time for anything that you make a priority. You need the down time, everything will wait until you are ready to jump back in. In the meantime, jump rope.

"Moms and dads worry about a lot of things. There are the big issues, like making sure your children are healthy and safe, paying all the bills, and ensuring that the kids are getting a good education. Then there are the everyday challenges of organizing a household, like getting everyone where they need to be on time, doing the laundry, and cooking dinner while helping with homework. All these responsibilities and chores often translate into chronically stressed parents.  It is possible for parents to put their “to do” list on the back burner and take some time for play." excerpts from www.astratoy.org

Play time with your kids is important for them, but don't forget to include play time for you. Laugh, run, skip, try hopscotch, do something with no ulterior motive, no reason or intent.   Have some fun.

#491

"Life is amazing. And then it's awful. And then it's amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful its ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing; hold on through the awful; and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That's just living heartbreaking, soul healing, amazing, ordinary, awful life. And it's breathtakingly beautiful."

- LR Knost

Life will be whatever you want it to be. 

There will always be times that are harder than others, as well as those joyful moments that we want to remember forever. The hard times are your instructional phases when you receive most of your enlightenment. When everything is going smoothly, you rarely have any major breakthroughs. 

It is during the 'hard times', the lessons, when you actually learn and grow. It may seem a bleak existence for a while, but just remember, the time will pass and there WILL be light at the end of the tunnel. 

When everything is coming up roses for you, take the time to enjoy it, and be thankful. This is your celebratory phase for a job well done. It would be a good idea to keep this vibration going as long as you possibly can, in order to keep receiving all you desire.

Life ebbs and flows, in cycles, similar to the seasons, 'there is a time to every purpose under heaven.' Good and 'bad' times, together constitute a complete life, an amazing one.

#490
Complaining about anything holds you in the place of refusing to receive the things you've been asking for.

Justifying about anything holds you in the place of refusing to let in the very things that you've been asking for. 

Blaming someone holds you in the place of refusing to let in the things that you've been asking for. Feeling guilty, feeling angry, it doesn't matter what you call it; it is a refusal, not a conscious one. 

You're asking; you can't help but ask. The Universe is yielding; it must yield. It's a big question, folks: why aren't you letting it in?  Abraham-Hicks 

Why do 'bad things' happen to good people, how come nothing ever goes my way? They is no need for things to happen that way, it's how you approach the asking that makes the difference. We are holding up the process by our lack of patience and trust that something good will happen for us.

We are entitled to everything the Universe has to offer, it is 'there' waiting for us. We only have to believe that we are worthy of receiving. So it all comes down to self-esteem, once again. It's how we feel about ourselves that determines the life we will have. Everything is within our reach, but we keep pushing it back, ignoring it, whining about how we never get what we want.

We are all living the life we truly want! 

(Read that again, it's may be hard to assimilate.)

We ARE always being offered EVERYTHING we could ever want, need, desire, or have prayed for, and yet we don't feel like we have any of it. Start by being grateful for what we do have, work on being patient and become aware of the little gifts that come our way. Be open to receive and thankful when you do.

#489

People have trained you to care about how they think because it's important to most people who are living conditionally for you to create conditions they can live with.  Abraham-Hicks

You have been trained to accept everything that you believe. The majority of your ideas and attitudes have come from someone else; your parents, teachers, religious doctrine, authority figures etc. 

Conditional thinking ... 'A state of mind where people act without fully knowing what they are doing. Similar to habits.' Urban Dictionary

What is happening is that you do things by rote. Simply stated, you were raised to put your socks on first, then your pants. You will continue to do so until or if you are given a reason, that you can justify, to do otherwise. This holds true for everything you do, there is often no thought process, it's just done automatically.

And then, one day, the light comes on, something was said, or you read something that strikes a cord with you, and you start looking into it. This can be life changing, and all it takes is questioning your ideas/beliefs. You will find that some are feasible, some outdated, and some just plain silly. You will be amazed at how much you do with no idea as to why you do it. Just be aware, find out what works for you today. Once you are an adult, you are not obligated to continue with beliefs that you didn't establish yourself.

"Our core being is frequently covered up by our ego and conditioned mind. When we peel away the layers of conditioning we get in touch with the fundamental state of existence which is pure awareness."

Deepak Chopra

#488 - Imagine yourself happy

Do you imagine that you can be or do anything you desire? Do you know that you are in charge of your life? You and only you can make yourself happy or sad.

You are running the show. This is your life. And the marvelous thing about it is... you choose how you want to start each day, how you want to interact with others, how you want to be... it is up to you. Isn't that fabulous? If you want to be happy then - be happy. The circumstances do not matter .. it is how you choose to react to them... If you are aware of how you react to different situations and pay close attention to each reaction, eventually you will be happy, no matter what is happening around you

Happiness is a state of mind. Most people feel that "when I win the lottery, I will be happy," "When I finally get the man I want, then I will be happy," 

"when I have children, then I can relax and be happy," etc. This is wishing your life away, it's nuts. 

The time to be happy is now, no matter what is happening. Being happy is a choice, it is up to each of us to decide, TODAY, that we are not going to waste one more day in the dark. Your smile/laugh will light up the world. All it takes is realizing that you are OK, you are safe, you can depend on yourself. It takes trusting that the universe is there for you, that it is open to you and wants to aid you on your journey. 

It also takes the realization that you are not accomplishing anything by pouting, whining, or having temper tantrums. That will get you nowhere. Take care of the problem, be responsible, but put a smile on your face while you do it. You will feel so much better and amazingly you will start enjoying your life more, you will be calmer, your future will look brighter and people will enjoy being around you more. 

So..... imagine yourself happy, and then just do it.