Tuesday, 19 April 2016

 #417


Don't let other people pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace.

How often have you felt yourself feeling angry as one of your friends is telling their story? The injustice of it all pulls at your heartstrings, but also your anger reservoir. Soon you are defending your friend's story, sticking up for them to right a wrong and then taking the story home with you to mull over and/or obsess about for days to come. 

You have fallen into someone else's business. Usually at times like these, you probably felt as though you were being compassionate and sensitive, when actually, you crossed the line ... right into the center of someone else's storm. 

It's a fine line that you have crossed. Of course, you are drawn to the story, you do have compassion for your friend, but expressing your support is enough. Your friend is in the situation for a reason, it is a lesson, there is something to learn and this story has been manifested in order to do that. If you take it on, you are interfering in the story and disrupting the flow. You are also adding to your own stress. The long and the short of it is, it is not your business. Don't let yourself be dragged in. You don't need to micro-manage anyone else's life, you have your own journey. In order to maintain your own peace, you need to stay in your own business.

"I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation." Byron Katie