Many of us were taught to put
ourselves last and as a
consequence we attracted
feelings of being unworthy and
undeserving. As those feelings
lodged within us, we continued
to attract more life situations
that had us feel more unworthy
and not enough. You must
change that thinking.
Easier said than done, right?
We all know that when you have been told often enough you tend to believe whatever is dished out. And if you never put yourself first, it is never even on your radar to do so. In fact, it makes you feel selfish if you do.
Therefore, if you began with these issues firmly established, of course, you will be feeling devalued. What you can do is recognize that this is the problem, the one that causes you to morph in more of the same type of people that will take advantage, that perpetuate your feelings of inadequacy. Once recognized, you are back in charge of yourself. You can decide not to allow anyone to have power over you ever again.
You teach people how to treat you, and if you always put others first, you are teaching them that you come second.
Think about the fact that if you are not happy, no one around you is happy. You need to take care of yourself first so that you are able to take care of others. When you feel loved and cared for, you will make others feel the same.
Love yourself first, so you know what you are worth.