Sometimes the healing is in the aching....
When a life changing event, such as a major illness, accident, job loss, financial crisis or a death, takes place, you tend to completely shut down. In these situations, it is just too much to process. It has been a shock and it is difficult to function for a period of time.
You simply move around from place to place without awareness or all you want to do is sleep. You are not 'of' this world for awhile, until you finally feel able to return and function with some level of clarity. AND then the aching starts.
Aching is a process we all have to deal with at some time in our life. Some things seem to be just too much to bear. But, of course, you will bear them, but it takes time. You need to respect the process and be kind to yourself. If a death has occurred, don't assume that it will all be forgotten within a certain time period. Everyone grieves at their own rate and if this is your first time dealing with devastating news, you have no idea how it will affect you. Your greatest wish during this time is for things to go back to normal, but there is a loss to contend with and someone is missing from your life.
If the situation is an illness or an accident, there is still a grieving period because things are not the same as they were before. This is life, but that doesn't make it any easier. The whole scenario is difficult to accept and there is still an ache in your heart for your loss. Job loss and financial problems are a blow to you and your family, and you also need time to recover from these setbacks. They are also a loss.
During the healing process, the aching is a reminder of your loss, and although it is painful, it reminds you that you are alive and you will carry on. Crisis happens, celebrations happen and we learn to deal with life. Once the process is complete you will be awed by the awareness you have achieved during it. Again, be kind to yourself, there is a delicate balance to be maintained. Don't try to push through the process, allow it to flow through you and finally heal the ache.