Change is inevitable. Your personal and spiritual evolution will always be seen as a betrayal by those whose values you abandon. You have a right to change your values, beliefs and ideas. The discomfort you feel when you attempt to change is just the social control that surrounds you becoming more obvious and bearing down on you.
THERE IS NOTHING MORE SPIRITUAL THAN FREEDOM AND IT IS VERY SPIRITUAL TO VIOLATE OLD BELIEFS FOR NEW VALUES.
As you travel your path, you encounter many challenges. Each time you overcome one of these, you change somewhat. Things no longer look exactly the same. This may encourage you to dig deeper on certain issues and, consequently, you change even more. Your ideas adjust, your mind expands, allowing other concepts to enter. Therefore, you start to navigate your life in a different fashion.
Not everyone will be happy about this, they liked you the way you were or maybe they just don't like the new attitude. You choose certain people at different stages in your life to fulfill some need in you, they do the same. When you change, this throws everything out of balance, they don't feel they can trust you to act as expected, and hence they are uncomfortable around you. You will have a lot of people step away, and you will eliminate even more that no longer fit your situation.
You will have moments of doubting yourself and your 'new' belief system. Usually at times like this, you will receive a confirmation in some form, helping you become aware that you are on the right path and all is well. It is a process, we are here to learn and grow, we will change our thinking, our address, our companions, our clothes and our minds. Life is change, and through change we become more mindful.
"There is nothing more spiritual than freedom and it is very spiritual to violate old beliefs for new values."