Thursday, 11 February 2016


Beware of destination addiction: The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or even the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.

"Happiness is within, do not seek without." Buddha

It's just geography, it won't solve anything. That's what's said when someone is dissatisfied with their life and decides to move to some foreign country. The fact is if you are dissatisfied, it's usually due to some inner issue as opposed to the place you are living. Obviously, sometimes it actually is the place you are living, or maybe you want to see the world and this is your chance. Both of those are reasonable , so move on. 

But if you think you are going to solve all or any of your problems by leaping into a new locale, a new job, or a new relationship, you are sorely mistaken. The issues go with you. Happiness is only available within you, you can't go somewhere else to find it. No one can give it to you. It may sound like a good idea if things aren't working out for you, to have a change of scenery, but really what needs to happen is inner research. Find out why things aren't working out, why the same things happen over and over and what makes your life unsatisfactory. Take some time with yourself to discover what's really going on.

Once you have released the demons, change is a great idea. But without checking out what is making you take this action, you'll find the same thing happening no matter where you land, what you do, or whom you are with.