Things are as they are,
we suffer because we
Most of our problems are self-created, by having expectations of events, people and even of ourselves.
We want what we want. We want things to work out the way we want them to. We plan, set goals, work hard and expect success in everything.
We don't pay all that much attention to what is actually going on because we are too focused on doing things our way; either running the show or totally robotic about getting it done. Either way, we have an idea in our head how things should look and that is the way they will look. This is the same recipe we apply to our job, our home, our significant other and all the others around us.
The most difficult part of 'handling life' is it causes suffering. This is not allowing life to flow, not living in the now. We are suffering because we thought things should be a certain way. We had a belief system playing in the background, running the show.... work hard, pay attention, work toward your goals, no pain, no gain and so on. This is a struggle, forcing things to go your way... life is not about struggle.
Anxiety happens when we think we have to figure everything out. You can't control everything, sometimes you just have to let go and have faith that things will work out. Let life flow.
"By letting go of what you thought was going to happen in your life, you can enjoy what's actually happening." Taylor Negron