The Universe in not punishing you or blessing you. The Universe is responding to the vibrational attitude you are emitting. Abraham Hicks
Law of Vibration: Everything in the Universe moves, vibrates and travels in circular patterns, the same principles of vibration in the physical world apply to our thoughts, feelings, desires and wills in the Etheric world. Each sound, thing and even thought has its own vibrational frequency unique unto itself.
Law of Cause and Effect: Nothing happens by chance or outside the Universal Laws. Every Action (including thought) has a reaction or consequence. "We reap what we sow."
So, the moral is... you are responsible for the vibrations you are emitting. YOU are in charge. If you are whining and crying about how very sad your life is, you are asking the Universe to send you more of the same. If you are happy, joyful and grateful, you receive more love. It seems simple enough. So what is the problem, why are we always fighting it, don't we know by now that we are creating our own reality?
Life gets in the way. Something monumental takes place, and you are in the middle of whatever feeling that evokes. If it is good, that's great, but if not you are in a low state. Feeling sad, feeling bad, for any length of time is causing you to experience a life devoid of joy. You have had a natural, appropriate human reaction, and it is OK to feel sad for a time, but not for a lifetime. Feel your pain, and then work on letting it go. Use the pain as a stepping stone to joy.
You want to attract joy back in your life. Therefore, send out good vibrations and allow the Universe to bring you the healing, love and abundance that is your birthright.