Friday, 19 September 2014

Friday, Sept. 19/14

"You will never feel free until you are free of trying to control the way others feel about you… which is uncontrollable… because there are too many moving parts in their life experience. You cannot control their perception of you because you cannot control their perception" Abraham Hicks

It can be emotionally draining for people that are concerned about how others feel about them. What other people think of you is none of your business. Your main concern is you. 

If someone is avoiding you, they seem uncomfortable around you, or something in this vein, and you want the connection to continue... then speak to them. Tell them you notice the signs, and how can we correct this rift? They will either tell you the problem and how they feel about it or they won't. That is all there is to it. You can't do anything else, you have already waved the white flag. As you grow and gain trust in yourself, you will loose the need for other people's approval. The way to begin to trust yourself is to let the negative people go, the ones with anger, resentment or jealousy toward you. They aren't giving you anything but heartache anyhow.

You cannot control how anyone thinks. They are who they are and you are who you are. You are not responsible for their thoughts. People react to and/or perceive situations in their own way. If they take offense to something, or take it in some way other than you meant them to, all you can do is apologize for the misunderstanding. Then the ball is in their court. You cannot please everyone, and you cannot make someone like you. 

As you eliminate the negativity from your circle, you will see how amazingly freeing it is. You don't have to be waiting for the other shoe to drop. There is no more drama. You do not need someone to constantly remind you of your shortcomings or to give you dog's lips if things aren't going their way. Keep the people that support you, love and cherish you, and let the rest walk right on out. You deserve the best, so keep them, and let the rest go. They have their own battles to fight and you really don't want to be invited to that war. You can do better. Love yourself and expect only the very best.