Forgiveness: is a process of giving up the old for something new. Old experiences and memories that we hold on to in anger, resentment, shame, or guilt cloud our spirit mind. The truth is, everything that has happened had to happen. it was a growth experience. There was something you needed to know or learn. If you stay angry, hurt, afraid, ashamed, or guilty, you miss the lesson. You will be stuck in a cloud of pain. Iyanla Vanzant
Forgiving someone is more for you than for them. Your life will not progress if you are locked up in resentment, fear and/or revenge. The thing to remember is that you are not forgiving the offense, nor condoning what they have done; you are preventing their behaviour from destroying you. The act of forgiveness will allow you to move forward. You cannot change what has happened but for your well being it is the best decision.
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." Buddha
"Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. You do not gloss over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses. Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or release them from legal accountability." greatergood.berkeley.edu
"The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person." Louise Hay