Monday, 14 September 2015


Accept the fact that some people didn't intend to let you down. Their best is just less than you expected. Thema Davis 

"Expectation is the root of all heartache" William Shakespeare

When you set expectations on those you are connected to, especially those you love, you may be seeing something that isn't there. You have certain beliefs that you feel are the right way to behave. You assume that those in your circles have the same ideals. You are seeing them as you want them to be, not as they are. 

When someone oversteps your bounds, you are disappointed and let down. You feel betrayed and hurt. You expected them to have your back and they didn't. They said they loved you, but didn't act like it. They embarrassed you in front of your peers. You thought you could trust them and they let you down.

If someone doesn't live up to your expectations, the onus is you. It has to be. You set up the expectation. A person can only be who they are, they will always be that person. Just because you want them to act in a certain manner, doesn't make it so. You are setting yourself up for disappointment if you are trying to change someone. 

In most cases, people do not set out to hurt you, they are just being themselves. You fantasized that they were something they were not. The only person you can change is YOU.  The expectations that you put on others are often unrealistic. You are projecting a want, need or desire on someone else to fulfill.  No one can fulfill these for you, no one can 'save' you, that you need to do for yourself. They are, after all, YOUR wants, needs and desires.

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket.