Friday, 18 September 2015


When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Byron Katie

This is manipulation. 

We know that a person has their own agenda when they resort to using some form of manipulation. There is a predetermined result in mind that will benefit the manipulator.

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or abusive tactics.

This person wants something from you, and they use different methods to get it. They may start out with flattery, move on to badgering and usually end up demanding and/or bullying you into submission. 

"We may appear to be mean, but we are really only frightened." 
Byron Katie

There is fear behind their actions, all the negative attitudes are fueled by fear, and they all result in pain. They approach you in this manner because they are frightened.  Someone with no agenda would just directly and politely state their intention. There would be no game playing, simply an honest exchange. 

"Life begins where fear ends" OSHO