#658

The mind that perceives the limitation IS the limitation. Buddha

The only thing holding you back is YOU. You have the capacity to do anything you want to do, anything you dream of doing. There is no one keeping score, no one is out to get you. If you feel that the only luck you have is bad luck, you are the one creating it.

"You get what you think about. It's not tricky at all."  Abraham-Hicks

Each time you jump back in time to all the hurts received, or worry about your bank account, or your kids, your parents, your boss or your partner, you are manifesting more of the same. The past is gone, you cannot change anything that happened, so work on letting it go. The future hasn't arrived you can't predict it, let it take care of itself. You want to be in the here and now,  in your happy place. If you want something you've never had, you'll have to do something you've never done.

Life was never meant to be a struggle, stop making it one.

#657

Trying to change ourselves doesn't work in the long run because we're resisting our own energy. Self-improvement can have temporary results, but lasting transformation occurs only when we honour ourselves as the source of wisdom and compassion. Pema Chodron

You are who you are, you were made to be this person, you are the only one that can fulfill your position here on this planet. You were not meant to be built like someone you admire and you were not meant to have anything other than what you were given. You are perfect as you are for being YOU.

"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde

I am in no way saying that you shouldn't improve your diet, exercise more, work on overcoming addiction, all the self-destructive 'stuff' that inhibits your true self from emerging, but, mainly you are here to honour who you are. 

You are enough, you are loved and you have all you need to become the best YOU. Don't try to change yourself for anyone or any cause. You are who you are for a reason and you are the only one that fits the profile. 

You are capable of amazing things. Celebrate YOU, wonderful YOU, and don't end your life as a copy. Remember... You don't have to justify your existence to anyone, it was made for you. 

"This above all, to thine own self be true" Shakespeare

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#656

The very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love is to be unhappy, and then ask them to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy.

Abraham-Hicks

Many find it difficult to understand that... nobody can make you do or be anything!!! If you are not happy, no one can make you so. You make yourself happy or not, you are the only one with that power. Don't ever put yourself in the position that your happiness depends on someone or something outside of yourself. This creates all those negative reactions ...... jealousy, rage, obsession, addiction etc. 

"Peace comes from within. Do not seek without" Buddha

If you feel someone is 'making you unhappy', you have been given a gift. This gift gets your attention and affords you the opportunity to take a look at things. There has been a button pushed, something needs some attention. Because of this person, you are able to figure out why you react as you do. 

It is about you, it's always about you. Everyone else is merely players on your stage, they are holding up mirrors so you can take a look at yourself.

Never expect anyone to change your mood for you. You feel what you feel and if it causes unhappiness, dig in and find out why. You are responsible for your feelings, reactions, moods and the energy you carry with you. 

Make yourself happy first and then you will emit the happy vibration to all the world.  

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#655

If you didn't hear it with your own ears or see it with your own eyes, don't invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouth.

This quote is very direct, brief and to the point, good advice. You never really know what is going on in someone else's story. It doesn't matter what it sounds like, it doesn't matter what you think .... it simply doesn't matter. You really have no idea, unless it happened to you.

We can surmise what went on, we can listen to witnesses, we can form an opinion based on what they said, but we still don't know. Witnesses see what they see, hear what they hear and no two of them have the same story. When someone is accused of something you can look at their background, their recent pertinent actions etc. and form your opinion, but that is what it is .... your opinion. 

We need to remember that no matter how justified we feel in our belief, that does not necessarily make it true.

Everyone sees something from their own perspective - (particular attitude toward or way of reading something; a point of view) Just as no two people are alike, neither are their points of view, similar maybe, but not the same. We all see things differently.

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as WE are." Anais Nin

With that being said, don't invent a story around whatever you see or believe you have seen. Accept that you really don't know. You may have an opinion on what took place, but you do not know for sure. So hold your tongue and let the situation unfold as it should. If someone of importance to you is involved, be supportive, that is all you can do. Keep your opinions to yourself, it'll make your life much easier.

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#654

"You get what you think about whether you want it or not" Abraham

"If you want something to dissipate, don't talk about it. Don't discuss it. Don't bring it up. Don't think about it."

Abraham-Hicks

You are what you think, definitely not what you eat, but that's another blog.

The thoughts that keep you up at night, robbing you of your beauty sleep, they are exactly what you are drawing to you. 

The disagreement with your brother, the critical performance review, the entire family dynamics of the moment, anything that you are constantly mulling over, obsessing about, and talking about is manifesting into the life you are living.

"You want to begin to pay attention to what you're saying yes to and say it more often, and what you're saying no to and say it less often because you get what you think about whether you want to or not." Abraham-Hicks

Don't allow your stressful thoughts to dominate your life, it is a waste of time to worry or stress and it will manifest into illness. Concentrate, instead, on whatever makes you happy, fills you with joy, and delete the thoughts that don't.

"Find something that makes you happy and think about that." AH

#653

All of your power is in your ability to see things in a way that keeps you feeling good. Abraham

Don't try to convince anybody of anything. This debating over conditions and the rightness and wrongness of things is such a waste of Your Life Experience. Abraham

You've got to get past caring what anybody else is thinking about you. AH

There is no need to prove anything to anyone with your words. Let that which you are, that which you are living by your clear example to uplift others. Abraham-Hicks

More good advice from Abraham-Hicks (www.abraham-hicks.com) about letting others be who they are, you being yourself, and learning not to care how others perceive you...very important life lessons.

"What other people think of you is none of your business." Regina Brett

Most of us tend to take on 'stuff' that is none of our concern and obsess about it ad nauseam.

'Other people' are just that... other people. They are not you, they don't look like you, they don't act like you and they don't think like you.  They will say what they say and do what they do... They speak their opinion from their experience, it doesn't mean it is true... it is an opinion... People talk - that' it. You can't let it bother you, your opinion of you is the only one that counts. 

YOU can't tell anybody anything either. No one really wants your opinion, unless solicited, and usually even then, so don't waste your time. Be an example. Mind your own business and live your own life.

#652

Imagine if we obsessed about the things we LOVED about ourselves.

What a novel idea!

We all spend a lot of time complaining about certain parts of ourselves, how they don't quite measure up to the norm, or to our expectations. We are our own worst critics. Not only are we displeased with our appearance, but we also put ourselves down concerning our personality, disposition, mentality, or anything at all. Are we just trying to beat everyone to it, making sure that no one gets to us first? It's very strange that we allow ourselves to beat ourselves up. If we don't love ourselves, how do we expect other to love us?

We have put ourselves down for long enough, what if we become our own cheerleaders? I'm not talking narcissistic, simply some self-love. Wouldn't you like to have the time you spent worrying about your fat thighs back and use it to compliment yourself on your lovely feet, your prowess at crosswords, your skill in the kitchen, or maybe even in the bedroom? 

You know you have many, many great qualities. You know people seek you out, just to be there when you laugh, you are amazing. I am not just saying that... take a look around you, how many people are there for you, love to be around you, seek you out? You are someone to love, so why don't you try it?

Try obsessing about everything you love about yourself, everything you are proud of until it becomes a habit. Then you can start to work on those things you find less than perfect. Eventually, all of you, mentally, physically and emotionally will be receiving love. Just imagine the difference it will make in your life when you obsess about the things you love about yourself instead of hating them.

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#651

"It's not reality that people struggle with. It's the beliefs and values they set up as a preferred substitute to reality that causes grief."

Most things are not what they seem..... 

When you perceive something as overwhelming, something that you simply cannot comprehend, your beliefs system will dispatch the standard response to the forefront, and you'll react to accordingly. You have been indoctrinated since birth with beliefs that may not be valid in your life today. You are automatically reacting to stimuli as you have been programmed, with no forethought whatsoever. You are accepting a preferred substitute to reality to avoid what is.

Also, there are times when it's not what is actually happening at this moment that you are avoiding, but, it's what you think should be happening or what you wish was happening. Either way, life is happening NOW, and whatever is happening IS, you can't change it because by the time you react you are in a new NOW.... acceptance is the only way.

#650

If you wake up every morning and think the thoughts you want to think then nothing can keep you from anything.  Abraham

You can choose the thought that makes you worry or the thought that makes you happy; the things that thrill you, or things that worry you. You have the choice. A.H.

Joy is The Ultimate Trophy Abraham

I know I keep on pounding this drum... but from the feedback I receive, many of you don't REALLY believe what is written here. It seems that a great number of you do not believe that you are in charge of your own lives, that you are really making things happen by your thoughts alone.

"You're picky about the car you drive

You're picky about what you wear

You're picky about what you put in your mouth

Be pickier about what you think."

Abraham-Hicks

If you are unsatisfied with your life, you might want to try monitoring the thoughts in your head. Most notions that consume you are just nonsense, unimportant, stress-causing invaders. Choose a happy thought to take their place and see if you don't find life a little easier!

"Choose your thoughts wisely for they are the energy that creates your life." Abraham-Hicks

#649

Aren't you willing to let go of the pettiness of physical life that has been bogging you down and holding you back?  Abraham

The best service that you could be to anyone is to "get in there and love life". Abraham

When you understand that you control the events of your personal experience by the power of your thought, then your focused attention to that which you want will always bring forth excited emotions. Abraham

Love is your Natural State of being if you are not pushing against something unwanted. Abraham

"When you understand that YOU control the events of your personal experience...." Isn't that a fabulous statement? You are in charge, not all those authority figures that you assumed had control, but YOU. 

If you don't like the life you have.... CHANGE IT. 

You can have whatever life you want. You don't have to live the life that was chosen for you. You don't have to do what is expected of you, AND you don't have to live someone else's life. You are here for a reason, and in order to fulfill your mission, you need to be yourself. This is your only chance to be YOU and there is no one more qualified for the job. 

"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde

  

#648

"Love is not possessiveness; many people think that's what love is" you possess somebody totally. To possess somebody is to destroy all possibility of love."

Osho

You don't own your husband or wife, they are not your property. Just because you marry someone does not obligate them to do whatever you want. This is a choice each person makes, to delight and/or please the other, it is not an expectation or obligation. You are not in charge of them, they are a partner in your life, you work through life together. 

Usually, there is a mutual love and respect with the other person in the union, but they are still a separate entity. Marriage may make you a family, but it does not make one person out of the two of you. It's quite presumptuous, isn't it, to think you can control or possess another adult?

If you think of your spouse as a possession, you may be surprised when you have a rebellion on your hands. No person can be considered as property, a chattel, owned or YOURS. This person has chosen to spend their life with you in a harmonious, loving way, and you will surely ruin it if you think of them as your property. This is not love.

Love is unconditional, there are no other requirements, it's freely given from the heart. Love is a gift.

Love is a Rose - Linda Ronstadt

"Love is a rose but you better not pick it
Only grows when it's on the vine
Handful of thorns and you'll know you've missed it

Lose your love when you say the word MINE."

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#647

You Did Not Come To Face Reality, You Came to Create Reality.....

"In optimism there is magic! Trust in the Well-Being. In optimism, there is magic, in pessimism there is Nothing." Abraham

"Be as Happy as you want to be.... Be as safe as you want to be... Be as healthy as you want to be... Don't let the statistics that someone else has created affect you. You get to choose." Abraham

"Anything that you give your attention to will be your 'truth.' Abraham

"Worrying is using your imagination to create something you didn't want."  Abraham

So, that about sums it up... it's all you ever needed to know. Most humans have no idea how powerful they are or that they have the control of their lives, their bodies, their thoughts, everything. You ARE the boss of you.

You are capable of creating whatever life you want. Anything in your wildest dreams can be yours. All it takes is a mindset, just believe it to be and it will be.

"If you want it and expect it, it will be yours very soon." Abraham

"Your work is to relax and allow. To relax and allow. No matter what." Abraham

#646      

Since the past is unreal and the future is unreal, ALL YOUR THOUGHTS ARE ABOUT NOTHING

When you are preoccupied, and your mind is wandering, what's it about? Where is your mind at these times? Is it worrying about something that you hope will never happen or about something that happened last week, last year or in your childhood? 

Look around you, everything is okay right now, isn't it? In this moment, you are safe, sitting at your computer, tablet, or phone, you are fine. Right?

And then, out of nowhere, the mind starts looking for something to 'think' about....it starts digging in all the cavities of the past, dredging up all the wrongs that you have suffered, all the people that inflicted pain, the liars, the cheaters, the betrayals, the resentment, the anger and you're off to the races! You can feel your stomach churning and your face burning. 

And if it isn't the past, there is always a trip to the future. You can start worrying about your parents, children, grandchildren, siblings etc. What will happen "if?" You can worry about so many things and so many people, it can keep you revved up for hours.

There is no story, it is only your thoughts about what took place that keeps it going. The past has already happened, you can't change it. The future hasn't happened yet, you can't foresee it. It is all unreal, all thoughts of either the past or the future are about nothing.  Your thoughts are what is causing you pain, don't listen to them.

"A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It's not our thoughts but our attachment to our thoughts that causes suffering." Byron Katie

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#645

It is natural for you to be absolutely well

It is natural for you to be abundant

It is natural for you to feel good.

It is natural for you to feel clarity

Abraham-Hicks

There is no reason for you to have anything 'wrong' with you and no reason you shouldn't have everything you have ever wanted. Absolutely!

Everything that is malfunctioning in your life, whether it is your health, your wealth, or your happiness, can be traced to your inner well-being. If you are carrying anger, resentment, or anything that contributes to stress, it will affect your health.

If you don't feel good, if you don't have enough money, nothing is going your way, and you're not exactly clear as to what the problem is or what you are to do about it, then.....

"You don't even have to know specifically what you are wanting. You can be so general you can say, 'I want magnificent success! I want abundance to flow unto me, and I want the process to come.' And if you will say that enthusiastically, and mean it, you cannot miss." 

Abraham-Hicks

"It's as easy to create a castle as a button. It's just a matter of whether you're focused on a castle ...... or a button." Abraham-Hicks

Go back to your natural state, be well, be abundant, feel good and feel clarity!

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#644

You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself.

Your inner voice is constant, a running commentary on every thought that enters your head. Sometimes it is taking place at this very moment, or it may be from last week or an incident from your childhood. They are all competing for recognition. The 'voices in your head' are very real, and often negative. It's as if you have stored every negative message you ever received or thought about yourself and they are on the repeat cycle. 

Make sure your worst enemy is not living between your own two ears.

Thankfully, you have the ability to choose one thought over the others. When you receive negative messaging, you are able to put a stop to it. It is not true, it is often the worst case scenario and just causes you stress. Your peace of mind is too important to allow these thoughts to take over your life. 

"It is not what you say our of your mouth that determines your life, it's what you whisper to yourself that has the most power." Robert Kovosaki

"Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image." 

Denis Waitley

If you pay attention, you'll become aware of the negative thoughts running through your mind, the ones that cause anxiety. You are not obligated to believe everything you think. Choose what you want to listen to and it could change your life.  Be kind to yourself!! 

The mind replays what the heart can't delete.

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#643

"Today I want you to ask yourself this one question. Why not you? Why not you to do something for work that you love? Why not you to have a healthy body? Why not you to have healthy love? Why not you to be, have, or do anything you have every dreamed? We are so quick to think others are deserving over ourselves. The truth is that we are all deserving, so why not you?" Jillian Michaels

So many people seem to walk around with a dark cloud over their heads, all 'doom, and gloom.' They seem to feel that nothing good ever happens to them and don't expect that anything ever will. Well, not with that attitude, that's for sure. You need to rein it in. 

You get what you give out! 

If you feel as though you don't deserve anything, you will find that that is exactly what you get .... nothing. If you don't think you deserve anything, no one else will either. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy... if you keep going around thinking and being less than, the rest of the populace will assume you are. You are the only one that can fix this malfunction. 

"Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change." Dr. Wayne Dyer  

So, change your attitude, start looking for the good in people, try thinking of someone else besides yourself, do something for someone else, get a rescue pet and take good care of it, practice gratitude. The world does not revolve around you. And, you are totally entitled to sit around and mope about your pathetic little life. But really where will that get you? You might just as well join the rest of the world and put in some effort. 

You are valuable too, you deserve everything the universe has to give you. "You is kind, you is smart, you is important" - THE HELP 

That is really all you need to know.

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#642

"Whether you pushed me or pulled me, drained me or fueled me, loved me or left me, hurt me or helped me, you are part of my growth and,

Thank you."

The people you meet in the street, the supermarket, the cafe, the people in your family, and even the people that claimed you as theirs after the adoption, are all with you by design. There are no accidents, nothing is random. Everyone in your life is in it for a reason. 

It's all orchestrated for you and by you.

As mentioned in the quote, the important people in your life are not only the ones that only showed you good times but all the others as well. You may not have fond memories of some, but their job was just as important. Everyone and everything is a teacher. 

You don't always get what you want, but you do always get what you need and eventually you will find that you are grateful for all of it.....the good and the bad.

It doesn't matter what your story is, how happy you have been or not been, you will learn what you need to learn. There are lessons to be learned every minute of every day. You WILL complete your assignment before you go home. 

#641

You're never in the wrong place.

Sometimes you're in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.

Abraham

You planned your life long before you returned to Earth this time. You set everything up to learn what you wanted to learn. You chose your family, your friends,  and every situation that you have been in..... it has all been for your growth. 

There are no accidents, everything happens for a reason.

Consequently, you can never be in the wrong place... it may appear that way if you're not happy with what has happened, but because of this particular event, you have learned something important, something you came here to learn.

If you work on this premise, you will find day to day life much easier... 

Just remember:

No one is out to get you. EVER! 

IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU! 

YOU have set this up for your own benefit.

Therefore, if something 'bad' happens, instead of reacting with 'why me,' look for the message. There is a reason for everything that takes place. There is no need for blame and/or shame. YOU arranged this exact situation long ago and it will be a tremendous help to you in your journey. There is a reason for you to be here at this time. Look for the signs, the whole Universe is here to guide you.

#640

Continuing to tell stories of shortage only continues to contradict your desire for abundance, and you cannot have it both ways.

You cannot focus upon unwanted and receive wanted.

Abraham-Hicks

When something is in your head, playing over and over like a broken record, when you have been wronged, received bad news, when you feel hurt, unloved, depressed or lonely, anytime you are living with a dark cloud hanging over your head, is when you need to dig deep in your happiness reserves and put them to work. Being in this state does not serve you well.

Everyone, even the most positive person, will be a victim of negativity sometime in their lives. You want to eliminate it as soon as possible.... train your mind to skip to a positive thought instead. You are in charge of all you think, as well as what you say and do. Think happy thoughts. You don't have to dwell on what disturbs you. 

You will keep perpetuating the negativity not only by focusing your thoughts on it but by discussing it with everyone you talk to. It doesn't matter what has taken place, what matters is that the more you focus on negativity, the more you bring into your life. You are not allowing the good in if you focus on the 'bad.' You want to let it go....post-haste!

"Negative emotion always means the same thing, every single time.....My thoughts or behaviour is moving in opposition with who I really am and what I really want." Abraham-Hicks

#639

The secret of the Universe really is minding your own business. What we mean by that is: don't get so involved in the desires or beliefs of others that you cause confusion or chatter in your own vibrational and compromise your own alignment.

Abraham Hicks

“A belief is only a thought you continue to think; and when your beliefs match your desires, then your desires must become your reality.” Abraham Hicks

M.Y.O.B... You've heard it before, MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. Seriously, it is easier said than done. Often, you don't even realize that you are involved until you are totally immersed in someone else's life. Or you may be managing your life on the advice of others. This is your life, your responsibility, you need to be the one making the decisions. No one else knows what you truly think, need, and want, except you.

“The greatest thing you can give yourself is freedom from what others think.” Abraham Hicks

You want to be in alignment at all times, and that means being happy and grateful with all you have and all you are.  Allow life to flow. If you are feeling bad you are resisting, whereas, if you are feeling good you are aligned with the source. It is your choice and your choice alone, how you want to feel. There is always a reason to be grateful, no one can afford even one negative moment. Choose to be happy! 

 “Be as happy as you want to be.” Abraham Hicks