Thursday, 29 October 2015

You don't ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn't matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance. You don't have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It's one thing if a person owns up to their behaviour and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go. Danielle Koepke

Sometimes there is just no other way, you can only take so much. You have given the benefit of the doubt, the second change, all your boundaries have been crossed and nothing has changed. It is time.

This is far from the easiest thing you will ever do. You may be annoyed at this person, but you probably still love them. This is what makes it so hard. But believe me, you will feel much better once you have removed yourself. You need to be upfront and tell the person, there is no beating around the bush. Just a short conversation, don't get caught up in an argument, brief and to the point is best. BE KIND. If they don't choose to listen, or get belligerent, you need to take a deep breath, square your shoulders and walk away. Nothing is a better self-esteem builder than standing up for yourself.

This is about you, you don't need this kind of attention, you deserve people around you that respect your feelings and treat you kindly. Don't settle for less, you are worth more than that.