Much of the pain in life comes from having a life plan that you've fallen in love with and when it doesn't work out, you become angry that you now have to pursue a new life plan. If you want to tame your inner demons, you must not become too attached to any particular life plan, and remain open to there being an even better, happier life plan.
Expectations: noun - a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.
- a belief that someone will or should achieve something.
Expectations are the root of all heartache." William Shakespeare
Many people put expectations on their relationships, but even worse, they often put them on themselves. This can be much harder to accept when you feel that you have let yourself down. Projecting into the future often creates suffering in one form or another. If you have the belief that you should accomplish certain goals or positions within a designated time period (ie. a life plan) you may be setting yourself up for disappointment.
You have no way of foretelling the future. You are simply adding extra stress to your life trying to keep up with your self-imposed goals. It doesn't hurt to move outside your comfort zone or strive for the next rung on the ladder, but if you are to are too attached to the goal, it could harm your health and/or relationships.
"Doing your best is more important than being the best." Zig Ziglar
You don't want to become too attached to future results, life is about living in the moment...it is all you really have. Everything in moderation. Don't be so hard on yourself, try to enjoy the life you have, be open to there being a better, happier life plan.