Isn't it amazing how the Beatles' lyrics make so much sense... who knew? We sang all the songs, knew all the words, but how many did we actually process? Maybe it was just me, I think I went with the tune and the refrain, all wrapped up in my teen years. But now I am finding the words to those old songs quite profound.
Sorry, rambling....the point is that this is really all you need to know. Love is all you need. Love is the answer, it doesn't matter what the question is.
Everything needs to be approachd with love. All those times that someone irritates you, handle it with love. When you feel the anger rising over some minor offense, handle it with love, when an apology is required, give it with love, and when the kids are driving you up the wall, handle them with love.
You have such a short amount of time with your children, and they need to be sent off knowing their parents love them. That is actually your only job, besides keeping them alive. Love gives them a base, a "go to" point when things get tough, they have confidence and feel safe, because they are loved.
All it takes is awareness, you need to stop and think before you start to reply to any explosive situation, and then calmly state your case. Be the first to apologize, it is not always important to be right, it's more important to be loving, considerate and kind. Treat the people in your life with love and respect and they will return the behavior in kind.
If you love someone tell them, everyone likes to hear that they are loved. No one ever complained that their husband/wife says I love you too often. Spread it around, your kids, your parents, your friends, it's good to hear, and extremely therapeutic to say. Appreciate that loving feeling, it's good for the soul.
LOVE is ALWAYS the answer