Monday, 9 November 2015

#340


It's easy to feel uncared for when people aren't able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need. And it's so hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection on your worth. But the truth is that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles and anxiety that the thought of asking someone else how they're doing doesn't even cross their mind. They aren't inherently bad or uncaring, they're just busy and self-focused. And that's okay. It's not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part. It doesn't make you unloveable or invisible. It just means that those people aren't very good at looking beyond their own world. But the fact that you are - that despite the darkness you feel, you have the ability to share your love and light with others - is a strength. Your work isn't to change who you are; it's to find people who are able to give you the connection you need. Because despite what you feel, you are not too much. You are not too sensitive or too needy. You are thoughtful and empathetic. You are compassionate and kind. And with or without anyone's acknowledgment or affection you are enough. Daniell Koepke

Your feelings are your feelings, no one can make you feel anything. Feelings are your choice as well as your responsibility. You cannot be dependent on others to decide how you feel. Nor can you base how you feel on someone's reaction. That being said, it's not always easy to control your feelings when you are blindsided by someone you trust. It's a learning process, it's about learning to love and accept yourself until you are strong enough to let others feel as they do; and still KNOW that you are okay, no matter what is thrown at you. "And with or without anyone's acknowledgment or affection YOU ARE ENOUGH!"