Thursday, 28 May 2015


"But love doesn't make things nice. It ruins everything. It breaks your heart. It makes things a mess. We aren't here to make things perfect. The snowflake is perfect. The stars are perfect. Not us. Not us. We are here to ruin ourselves and to break our hearts and love the wrong people and die." Moonstruck

This crazy thing called love ... I certainly do not claim to be an expert on love, but in my time I have come up with a few insights. 

I am only able to speak from a women's point of view, coupled with my own research and experience. Women, generally, seem to think that when they find the perfect partner, everything will be ideal. Seeking perfection is a waste of time, it doesn't exist... nobody's perfect. Are you? I know, I know.. what about your soulmate, your other half, the person that will complete you? 

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake." 
excerpts from Eat, Pray, Love - Elizabeth Gilbert 

Love is not a bed of roses, it is messy, heart rending, and often frustrating. It should not be entered into lightly. You, yourself, need to be a complete person, before anyone will ever fit into your life. Just think about it, you are taking two people, usually of different sexes, different backgrounds, often opposing ideals and expecting them to compromise on major life issues. What you see is what you get, you cannot change anyone, so acceptance is critical.

Of course there is the love thing. If, indeed, you truly love each other, you may be able to work things out.  Realistically, you need to let go of expectations, be patient and kind, treat your loved one as you wish to be treated and be honest. Talk to each other, confide your thoughts and fears. Make time for each other, pay attention, and don't take love for granted. Count your blessings, and realize what an honour it is to share your life with someone you love and who truly loves you... warts and all.