#117

Problem: a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome -Internet

A problem, by definition, is unwelcome or harmful and needs to be dealt with. If you have a problem and you go over and over it and are unable to come up with any sort of solution; it is most likely because the problem was created in fear. You are responding in fear and therefore there will be no solution. It will continue to get worse.  

If the problem was not created in fear, just bad luck, but fear was the result of the problem, it is the same scenario.

So it's back to .... "change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change" Wayne Dyer

If you find yourself in someone else's problem, you need to drop it, it is not your business. BUT if you find yourself with your own unsolvable problem, you need to change the way you are approaching it. 

When something is important, you are the one to take care of it, and there seems to be no solution; it becomes an obsession. Obsession creates fear, or fear creates obsession, either way, fear is the winner; it is running the show. Everything worsens, the problem is taking on a life of it's own, and you no longer have any idea of what to do. You find you can't even think of anything but the problem, and have no insight into any way to solve it. You have landed head first into a 'Catch 22' (unsolvable logic puzzle) situation. No solution. 

So the problem is the elephant in the room, that you can't figure out how to fix. Is there another way to look at it?  Are you attacking the problem, rather than approaching it? First of all, you will have to calm yourself, breathe  and look at it differently. Change your attitude and your outlook and come at it from a different angle. What you have been doing, is not working. So go in a different direction.  If nothing is going right, go left.