#610

I will never apologize for being me.

You should apologize for asking me to be anything else.

This is a very important statement. You never need to apologize for who you are. You never need to even "think" you should apologize. You are perfect, just the way you are. If people don't understand you or just don't seem to 'get' you, that is their issue. If you are kind and considerate, that is all that is required. You don't have to dance any faster, and most importantly not for anyone else's approval.

This is more common than we would like to believe; that someone actually would have the audacity to ask you to change who you are. You are not fitting into their idea of what you should be. This is a huge red flag. 

Do you have someone in your life that thinks he/she knows what is best for you? Are they trying to change the way you act or simply change the way you are? 

There are people that actually think they can change you or that you will want to change in order to please them. If someone has chosen you, and then attempts to change you, the relationship IS NOT viable. Nobody has the power to change anyone. You are setting yourself up to be a victim of someone else's behaviour, and you will end up sabotaging the relationship. What you need to do is stop choosing people that are wrong for you so that you can try and fix them. 

Then, and only then, will you be strong enough to demand an apology from anyone asking you to be anything but your wonderful self. You need to be loved for who you are, not who someone wants you to be. And you will be. 

reprint of #124