#660

Stop setting yourself

on fire for someone who

stays to watch you burn.

Haiku on Perspective

(Haiku is a Japanese verse in 3 lines. Line one has 5 syllables, line 2 has 7 syllables and line three has 5 syllables. Haiku is a mood poem and it doesn't use any metaphors or similes.)

The message is enduring... Stop trying so hard, especially if the other person involved is not trying at all.

Stop trying so hard when trying so hard is the problem!

Have you been in a relationship where unhappiness is the key ingredient? You may be wanting to work on the issues while your partner seems ambivalent or actually refuses to do anything. Nothing changes, nothing happens at all. You want the relationship to continue, and you're doing everything in your power to make that happen. To what end? You cannot have a relationship all by yourself, and why would you want to? This is about you. What do you want? Really want? If there is no cooperation, consideration and you're not working together for the greater good, there isn't much point, is there? You can't force someone to care.

If there is any form of abuse or even lying and cheating, then there is no point whatsoever. Do not put your life in someone else's hands. If you are unhappy, only you can fix it. If someone is giving you a hard time, or ignoring your needs, disrespecting you, or simply doesn't care, you need to decide what is in your best interests. You deserve at least what you are giving out. 

Check your self-esteem levels, they may be a little low. Stop turning yourself inside out for someone that would not do the same for you. You are worth so much more than that. 

reprint of #408