Don't worry about what I'm doing, worry about why you're worried about what I'm doing.
Exactly! Worry about WHY you're worried about what I'm doing.
If you have ever wondered why someone is concerned about your day to day activities, why they think it is their business, or why criticism must go along with their worry. Here is the answer...
The answer is twofold
1. The people that think they know what is best for you are living their own fears. These people seem driven to 'take care' of you, but they are usually doing it because you are doing something that scares them, something they are afraid to do themselves. The only other reason might be that they are control freaks and like to run everybody's life.
2. The fact that you are worried about someone else's opinion, or that you allow someone to dominate you, shows that you have self-esteem issues of your own.
The rule of thumb is... 'if I didn't ask for your opinion/advice, it's because I don't want/need it.' You don't have to explain yourself, you are fully entitled to run your own life, your way. It is nobody's business what you do or how, or even when.
Don't complain and don't explain! You need to let anyone trying to run your life know that it's unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Simply state your case and expect to be heard, don't argue, it is your life. Your self-esteem will grow each time you take care of YOU.
reprint of #293
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