#460

How many chances.....
Do you give someone who's
not making any changes? Their
mouth keeps saying one thing
but their actions are saying
something different. You have
to forgive them for wasting 
your time and move on!

Tony A. Gaskings Jr.

Rather blunt delivery, but really, there isn't anything else to do. You have tried being understanding, you've proven that you are loyal, you have danced as fast as you can, and yet nothing has changed. 

If there is something that you feel strongly about, and the other person in this relationship isn't willing to change their pattern, you have the same two choices that you have in every scenario you will encounter in this life.

1. Find a way to accept the way things are

2. Move on

That's it! Whatever it is...your job, your family, your significant other, anyone or any situation that you cannot accept, your choices are the same. 

While compromise is a staple in a relationship, if you have stated your opinion on a subject, asked for a particular result and you both have agreed on a change, then there must be change. If everything remains the same, giving another chance will only declare that you were not really serious, it's okay, you didn't mean it and you are willing to allow the behaviour to continue. They have to walk the walk as well as talk the talk. Don't be fooled.

If something or someone is offensive to you, you don't have to put up with it, you need to walk away.  It is important for your self-esteem to honour your true feelings and stand up for your truth . 

Forgive them for wasting your time and move on.