#398

I can't control your behaviour; nor do I want that burden....

but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.

Steve Maraboli

If you have gotten to the point that you understand that you can't control the behaviour of other people, you are on your way. That is the first step. 

You can't control anyone, they will do what they want to do, because they are who they are. We are a compilation of all our life experiences. Therefore, when you are wondering 'how could he/she do/say that to me?', the answer to that is: they did it because that's what they do. How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.

"Thinking that people are supposed to do or be anything other than what they are is like saying that the tree over there should be the sky."

Byron Katie

So don't waste your time trying to 'fix' these people, not matter how much you have invested in them. Never put yourself down by accepting their behaviour. At the first sign of disrespect, you need to 'cut your losses' and move on. Never allow negativity to step all over your self-esteem.

By moving on, you will be in control of your next step. There can be no blame, no judgement, and you cannot be a victim; because it was your choice; you chose not to be lied to, disrespected or mistreated... you have regained, or perhaps retained, your power. Well done! 

YOU are just the person YOU need to step up.