In order to live a happy, healthy  life we need to revisit the past and find out what is holding us back. You will really need to "look" at whatever you have buried there. Then work on your "stuff" if you plan on moving forward. 

So many people block out sections of their lives, because they feel they are too painful to look at. Although this certainly seems logical, "why bring all that stuff up, you can't change it anyhow", but the fact is if you do not look at it, it will manifest into something, like disease. 

We come to this planet perfect, and of course we remain perfect, but we pick up "stuff" - hurts, pain, resentments,  and issues, as we grow. Buttons are installed and we find ourselves reacting to all kinds of stimuli. You may not even be aware of any issues holding you back, they are buried so deep. But the fact remains, if you don't dive into that deep well where all the pain resides, you will find yourself dealing with something else.  

Emotional issues will manifest themselves into physical problems, accidents, financial issues, divorce, a variety of things that just appear to go wrong. This is a way of getting your attention. If this is happening to you, think back to all the little hints, nudges you have received, trying to get you to look at what you do not want to look at. This is the reason for us being here... we are dealt negative situations in order to have that experience, heal it and grow.

Now that being said, the idea is to dig down into the hole where the issues are buried, bring them up, deal with them, and let them go. It is not to dive in and inhabit the hole. This isn't healthy either, to become a victim for the cause, to get caught up in the sadness and emotion of all of it. 

Everyone has something, no one has gotten a free pass, and in order to live your best life you need to let it go. Now, as an adult, you can look at it honestly, admit what actually happened, be responsible for your part in it, and give it a loving send off. Get free from the pain of the past. Write down the issues and go back in time for each one, face them, and forget them. They are no longer valid in your life. You will feel so much lighter without them.