#334

You cannot control much of what happens in your life, but you can control if you let it affect your mood and beliefs. If during tough times you remain confident that what you want is very possible then what you want IS very possible. Life is constantly testing your commitment to snagging your desires. And life's greatest prizes go to those most capable of keeping their eye on the prize!

Are you snagging your desires? 

In order to get what you want, you need to believe in yourself, in your power and be 100% responsible for every aspect of your own life. 

You need to KNOW that living in a state of joy raises your vibration, and therefore, brings you more joy. 

You want to follow your dreams, passions, your heart and believe that anything is possible with you at the helm. It is all up to you, you can be/do whatever you want with your life, you are in charge of your own destiny. 

"If you are confident that what you want will be very possible, then what you want will be very possible."

Just walk your path, pick yourself up when you fall, and keep going. You never know what is around the next corner. Don't let the world or the people in it, get you down. You are your own life partner and you have the power to make your life as wonderful as you want it to be.

Even your darkest hour is only 60 minutes.

#333

You don't ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn't matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance. You don't have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It's one thing if a person owns up to their behaviour and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go. Danielle Koepke

Sometimes there is just no other way, you can only take so much. You have given the benefit of the doubt, the second change, all your boundaries have been crossed and nothing has changed. It is time.

This is far from the easiest thing you will ever do. You may be annoyed at this person, but you probably still love them. This is what makes it so hard. But believe me, you will feel much better once you have removed yourself. You need to be upfront and tell the person, there is no beating around the bush. Just a short conversation, don't get caught up in an argument, brief and to the point is best. BE KIND. If they don't choose to listen, or get belligerent, you need to take a deep breath, square your shoulders and walk away. Nothing is a better self-esteem builder than standing up for yourself.

This is about you, you don't need this kind of attention, you deserve people around you that respect your feelings and treat you kindly. Don't settle for less, you are worth more than that.

#332

Your job is not to judge.

Your job is not to figure out if someone deserves something.

Your job is to lift the fallen, to restore the broken and to heal the hurting.

Your job is not to judge.... Oh, I know, you don't do that. Really, is that true? Have you ever commented negatively on a style of clothing, or body piercing, tattoos, hairstyle? We all know that you can't judge a book by its cover, and simply looking at someone cannot give you any indication of their character. There appears to be something derogatory to say about everyone and everything.  Snap judgements are made constantly by outward appearance alone, that have no basis whatsoever in fact.

Judgement is a learned response, just as any kind of intolerance; you are not born with this inclination. What you need to do is recognize the tendency and try to avoid voicing your opinion. Although the most damaging, to you, is having the thought in the first place. You are what you think. No one is superior to anyone else. No one has the right to judge someone's appearance, behaviour or choices in life. 

Deciding that someone does or does not deserve something is another attack on their character. It is simply not up to you, you don't know, you cannot decide if someone is worthy. This is another instance of tending to your own business and not worrying about what others are doing, it is not up to you.

There are many other ways to express yourself that will benefit you and anyone you come in contact with. BE KIND. You have a message, you can be an example, you can lift, restore and heal.

Judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are

#331

You don't attract well being
It's continuously flowing
You are either letting it in or resisting
Abraham Hicks

Resisting: When you feel there is something you 'should' do, someone else is telling you what you need to do or perhaps it is just something you do not want to do... whether it is good for you or not; you find yourself fighting it tooth and nail... this is resistance. 

There are challenges in every life. There are times when you have no idea what to do with your current situation. Usually, the unsolicited advice givers are following you around with the doom and gloom scenario. Instead of fighting it, it may be the time to simply give it up. You don't know what to do with it anyway, so it should be easy to just hand it over. 

Give it to the Universe and move on with your life. If you really let it go, (I mean, truly let it go, and not take it back) you will be amazed how the situation will right itself quite unexpectedly. We get overwhelmed at times with the number of issues we have on our plate and spend far too much of our precious time worrying about what might happen. Worrying is a waste of your time, just give it time, stand back, and trust.

You are meant to be in the flow, not fighting against it. Let go of the struggle and allow the Universe unfold as it should.

#330

Tell everyone you know; "My happiness depends on me, so you're off the hook."  And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they're doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel - and then, you'll love them all. Because the only reason you don't love them, is because you're using them as your excuse to not feel good. Abraham-Hicks

It really is all up to you, no one has the power to decide your feelings, only you can do that. Sometimes you may have to fake it until you make it. 

It may come as a surprise to you that you have given up control of your feelings and allowed someone else to dictate your life. You may not have realized that you left yourself out of the equation. BUT, once you realize that you and you alone are responsible for your own happiness, that is the day you set yourself free. 

Happiness is a choice, one you have to make every single day. It doesn't matter what is going on around you, if you decide to be happy, you will be happy. You don't need or want to give anyone else responsibility for how you feel, you don't want to use others as an excuse for your unhappiness. Make a decision that's good for you for a change. Decide to be happy, for you.

For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.

Happiness starts with you, not your relationships, not your job, not your money, but with YOU.

#329

Refuse to be that person that, like so many others is still driving down the same road, years down the line, mournfully longing to go back in time to be given just one more chance to take the road that they know they should have taken because they dismissed all possible, extraordinary signs. It'll never get easier to make the leap and this is your chance, so make the change. Take the road now. - Victoria Erickson

Does this quote resonate with you? Is there a missed opportunity in your past that you regret? Was there a point in time, a small window, that you hesitated and lost? Are you still in the same place you started, driving down the same road? 

There are many reasons why people stay in the safety of their bubble, but it usually comes down to fear. If your safety net was whipped out from under you, what would you do? 

It is never easy to break long-standing patterns, familiarity feels safe. You depend more and more on the limits of your comfort zone as time goes on, which makes it even harder to think about extending your boundaries. 

"It will never get easier to make the leap and this is your chance."

"If you are mournfully longing to go back in time to be given just one more chance to take the road that you knew you should have taken," then it really is time to remedy the situation. No regrets! Face the fear and do it anyway. Fear is only temporary, regret lasts forever.

In the end, we only regret the chances we did not take.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

#328

Bringing mindfulness into my day is easy. All I have to do is watch myself breathe in and breathe out. To be present in what I do. To taste and savour when I eat, to see what I look at and to hear the noises that surround me. All I need to do is to let go. To release everything that is not me, so I am one with the moment.

Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now without wishing it were different. 

Enjoying the pleasant without holding on when it changes. (which it will)

Being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way. (which it won't) James Baraz

Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience. www.psychologytoday.com

Being mindful is allowing life to be as it is, not something to change or control. It will help you to see clearly the difference between what is actually happening and the stories you tell yourself. Rather than beating something into submission, it enables you to be more accommodating. 

"Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment with intention while letting go of judgement as if your life depends on it." 

Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn

If you are not fully in the present moment you miss everything.