#180

You're not here to save the world..

I think many people dream of saving the world. It is an honourable thought, but slightly unrealistic. 

Saving the world is not what you are here for, fortunately, but you will affect people and change lives, nonetheless. This is your mission, to touch those within your reach.

You will change more lives than you can imagine, simply by being yourself. You job is to be YOU! That's it. You make a difference, everywhere you go and in everything you do. You will be an inspiration to some and a warning to others, but a difference you will make. Some people will never be the same because they came in contact with you

Many of you will be skeptical concerning people noticing your existence, and others hope that no one will. But you do have an effect; it may be the way you choose to dress, do your hair, the way you talk, or simply that you smiled at them. It may be that random act of kindness, you so graciously kept to yourself, or the way you were impatient with the clerk at the store. Whatever you may have done or said, you were noticed and it had a lasting effect on someone. We all hope it is our positive attributes that are noticed, but either way, the fact is that you do affect change.

“You are here to make a difference, to either improve the world or worsen it. And whether or not you consciously choose to, you will accomplish one or the other.”  Richelle E. Goodrich

Do the best you can with what you have to give. Rest assured that you are touching souls, you are helping to make the world a better place.

#179

Some of the things you believe were never true....

Yes, as hard as it is to believe, a lot of your convictions, the ones you fought so hard for, are not true. They never were. You have been directing the course of your life by beliefs that were downloaded in childhood.

These beliefs were implanted throughout your life from a variety of sources; your parents, teachers, religious teachings, anyone that you felt had any authority over you. 

Some of their advice may have been contaminated with their own fears, and you assimilated it into your psyche. Once you understand that you are reacting to situations with a tainted belief system, you can start to examine your reactions. 

There is a solution ... thoughts and reactions can be altered. If you are reacting negatively to life, you can start working toward changing the beliefs that cause negativity. If it is anger, shutting down, or running away, it can all be refined into a gentler, more loving response; both for the person in question and yourself. It is hard on you to be in 'fight or flight' mode all the time. 

Don't be concerned with where these reactions originated, who 'gave' them to you. That will only result in finger pointing and blame, which will manifest into greater issues. Simply know that you have a belief system that is no longer valid, pinpoint the culprit, and surrender it surrounded with love. 

The old adage 'you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar' is true, conflict and confrontation rarely settles anything. 

You deserve to know who YOU are, what YOU believe, and the ability to handle your life on YOUR terms.   

#178

 Be Yourself....

This seems a ridiculous thing to say ...who else could you possibly be? Everyone else is already taken. 

But of course it is all about: not being a copy or parroting someone else, trying to please everyone, or wearing a mask in order to be in the world.

This is not accepting or loving yourself. It is dancing to someone else's tune, or avoiding life.  

When using the expression, 'be yourself', this is what is required: Accepting, Valuing, Forgiving, Blessing, Expressing, Trusting, Loving and Empowering YOURSELF! 

It is putting yourself first, making sure that your feelings are considered and respected. You teach people how to treat you, so you need to make sure that you are honouring yourself in order for others to do the same.

You can always tell when someone cares about themselves, they stand tall and exude confidence. They have accepted themselves, just as they are, warts and all.  

It's a process, it takes time to get to the bottom of all the hurts, anger and resentment we carry with us, but it is worth the work. To try and find out why you live in survival mode and are not truly happy will be the greatest work you will ever do, and have the best results. You are worth it. 

"If you make friends with yourself you'll never be alone." Maxwell Maltz

#177

Today will be what it is....

You cannot control your life, or even your day. You may think you have things planned down to the minute with your job, your child's birthday party, your move to the new house, your vacation or whatever upcoming event is next on your agenda. But just one thing goes awry and the plan has to be revised. 

You have to be prepared for any eventuality in order to even attempt to control your day; and that is a pipe dream. It cannot be done. It's OK to plan and prepare, but you cannot predict the future, and you have no way of knowing what will take place during any given day. 

You cannot be too attached to everything being perfect, because there is no such thing, and you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. 

There is also the reaction that seems to be inevitable when your plans are dashed. Frustration, coupled with panic that you won't get things done in time. This quote, therefore, you may consider as your mantra...Today will what it is. I will be who I am. And there will be beauty in both.

The quote is not saying that your day didn't go as planned and hence you are frustrated, angry, having a meltdown and taking it out on everyone else. 

It is saying that today will unfold as it does, you will be accepting of what is offered and there is beauty in that. You are saying that no matter what takes place, you are OK, you will handle anything thrown your way with grace and dignity.  And that is the beauty of it all.

#176

Quit making excuses....

Isn't this how it is done? You will make any excuse possible to avoid doing something. It may be something you DO NOT want to do, but the strange fact is that sometimes it is what you want most in the world. 

But procrastination is the name of the game. You fret and worry about it, you dream about, whine and complain about having it or not having it. Isn't it amazing! You are so afraid to fail or conversely to succeed, that you do nothing, except make excuses.

Fear is running the show, fear is holding you back, fear is in control of your life. You cannot allow fear to chain you down. 

Feel the fear and do it anyway. 

You may fail but, my darling, you may succeed.

The first step to eliminate fear is to do something that you are afraid to do. It may be flying, or learning to drive. It may be speaking up for yourself, public speaking or snakes. It doesn't matter, gird you loins and do it. What is the worst that can happen? You will survive, no matter what happens, so why not just try it out? There is nothing more affirming than accomplishing something that you have previously been afraid to even attempt.

Whatever your fear, it is holding you hostage. You are giving your power to it, giving it a much bigger presence than it deserves. Kick it to the curb. 

"Everything you want is on the other side of fear." Jack Canfield

So, suck it up. Hold on tight. Say a prayer. Make a plan. AND just do it!

#175

Breathe....

Although it may be hard to believe, just breathing is all you need to do. 

Breathe and trust. 

We all get ourselves caught up in trying to run the show, and guess what, you don't have to. 

You do, however have to take care of yourself, of how you act and react to situations, how you treat people etc. BUT, when things get out of hand, when you are overwhelmed or simply do not know what to do next; then BREATHE, the universe is taking care of everything else.

You can call it, 'letting the universe handle it,' or maybe 'let go and letting God.' The bottom line is, if you are trying to control the way things look, you may end up doing yourself more harm than good. This is how things got out of hand, you were trying in every way you knew how to fix the situation, and it continued to get worse. There was nothing left to do, but get out of the way and let the universe take over. 

This is the reason, you don't know what to do next, because what you need to do next is not up to you, you need to let it go. Turn it over to the universe with love and gratitude, and breathe again. Now your problems are under new management, they will be handled, you will get what you need. The universe knows exactly what you want and where you need to go from here. You, on the other hand, do not. This is not an insult, this is a fact. You have been trying everything you could think of and were unable to come up with a solution ... and that is when it is best to surrender. Surrender the challenge, surrender the sleepless nights, the stress and worry and just be open to what will come next. You will be surprised at how the solution to your problem will just come out of nowhere, totally unexpectedly and completely handled. Breathe, the universe has your back! 

 

#174

I fall, I rise, I make mistakes....

This is life. This is what we do, we

stumble, we fall and eventually we get up... life goes on. We live and learn. We get hurt and yet we end up being grateful for everything that happens.

There are good times and bad, highs and lows, life is in constant motion. 

We can ride the waves or lie on the beach, either way we can enjoy the sun.

Whether or not you enjoy your life, depends solely on you and your attitude. It is a choice. You decide how to greet each day, and how to handle whatever comes at you during that day. 

It is of major importance to accept life as it is, not as you want it to be. Accepting what is being dealt will ease the stress in your life. Let go of expectations, and practice acceptance instead.  Expectations or  attachment will only lead to disappointment.  

"Expectations are the root of all heartache" William Shakespeare

So accept life as it is, whatever comes your way and find a way to truly enjoy your time here. Develop an attitude of gratitude. Do random acts of kindness, help someone in need, and you will find the joy within yourself. The greatest way to feel gratitude is to do something for someone else.

You have fallen, you have been hurt, but you are still alive. You are still here, why not go out and do something remarkable? Celebrate the fact that you have made it so far and life is good! Believe in YOU!