#439

5 THINGS YOU CAN'T CONTROL

1. What other people think of you.

2. What other people do.

3. What happens around you.

4. The outcome of your efforts

5. The passage of time.

So let go and focus on what you
can control - what you do today.

Now doesn't that make sense? 

It really isn't up to you to manage anything other than your own life. The rest is someone else's business. You just do your best and the rest is going to be the way it is going to be.  "Que Sera Sera, What will be, will be"  

I'm sure you've been told since you were a child to mind your own business. And as it turns out that is exactly what needs to be done. You really have no control over others or what will happen in the future. You don't know how anything will turn out, once set in motion. And no one can stop time. You may not be able to control what happens to you, but you can always control your reactions. So, that leaves you managing you and you alone. Put all your efforts into controlling your actions and reactions and leave others to do the same.

"Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life." Marilu Henner

"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." Maya Angelou

Let go of what you can't control, put your best foot forward, take care of your own business and leave everything else alone; you have enough to handle. 

#438

these mountains
that you are
carrying, you were
only supposed to
climb.

Life was never meant to be a struggle, but we certainly dive in head first don't we? We take a fairly simple scenario and create huge complications. It's as if we WANT to have something to worry about. 

We take a trip down memory lane and sadness envelopes us. We wonder how on earth we will ever manage to buy a house in this economy and find ourselves obsessing about finances. The kids are not home on time and off we go on a tangent regarding all the terrible things that must have happened to them. 

All of this negative messaging is making mountains out of molehills, it's creating problems where none existed in the first place.

You are not living in the present.....
“If you are depressed you are living in the past. 

If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.” - Lao Tzu

You are making your life a struggle, it's not necessary. The present, right now, this moment, is all you have. In order to be at peace, to feel safe and secure you need to live in the now. You were never meant to carry all the burdens of the world on your shoulders. Put them down, decide if they are real, imagined or even if they are yours to carry. Then work on letting them go. You don't want or need the stress. You are here to learn and grow, but also to enjoy your life. 

Climb the mountain, don't carry it around.

#437

"There is no one 'right' way to grow.... See what is beautiful in every person's path, in every religion, and in every belief system. honour other people's paths even if they are different from yours. Be inclusive and loving, and look beyond the form of people's beliefs to the essence. There is no right way; there is only the way that is right for you."

Sanaya Roman

Each of us is on our own journey, we intermingle for the lessons, then continue on our own.  We have tribes that we connect with but eventually, we must continue on our own path. No one is actually on the same journey as you, there may be similarities with certain connections, but all are different in some way. 

We form our own opinions and beliefs, as we travel down the road. We will locate humans that appear to be of the same mind, but after some time, we find they're not. Although we need to honour their systems, we may also have to accept the differences. We all need to learn to love and accept each individual for who he is, not who we want him to be.

There is no right way to navigate your path, but for you, there is only your way.

Your mission in this lifetime is to be yourself. There is only one YOU, and if you are true to who you are, you will be a messenger to others. You don't have to try to control them or badger them to accept your thinking, there is no need. You, being yourself, is what makes you unique and your message distinct. Honour yourself by continuing to be unique, and at the same time, honour the rest of the world's inhabitants by accepting their uniqueness. 

#436

Anytime you're gonna grow, you're gonna lose something. 

You're losing what you're hanging onto to keep safe.

You're losing habits that you're comfortable with, you're losing familiarity.

James Hillman

As you travel your path, you encounter many challenges. Each time you overcome one of these, you change somewhat. Nothing looks exactly the same. This may encourage you to dig deeper on certain issues and, consequently, you change even more. Your ideas adjust, your mind expands, allowing other concepts to enter. Therefore, you start to navigate your life in a different fashion. 

Not everyone will be happy about this, they liked you the way you were or maybe they aren't thrilled with the new attitude. You choose certain people at different stages in your life to fulfill a need in you, they do the same. When you change, this throws everything out of balance, they don't feel they can trust you to act as expected, and hence they are uncomfortable around you. You will have a lot of people step away, and you will eliminate even more that no longer fit your situation.

You will notice that you have a different focus. What used to be comfortable and familiar, no longer has the same feel or importance. You may want to spend more time by yourself, contemplating this newly discovered dimension you are discovering. This is what you are here for, to discover, to remove old obstacles, and continue to learn and grow.

The world opens up when you do.

#435

If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you.

If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.

When the time comes, when there is an awakening, each sign is a symbol of something spiritual. 

You are on the path, and nothing can stop you now. In fact, day to day life begins to get in the way, you're finding yourself unwilling to deal with mundane details; you are only wanting to immerse yourself in this new found adventure. You would rather spend your time talking the talk with people of like-mind than do anything else. Everything is extremely meaningful. You are tuned in, with a new respect for all the little nuances involved in this journey. 

You want to know everything! This is the time you seek out the teachers, the healers, the modalities, the books, anything you can find that will give you more information about what is creeping into your awareness. You feel a lightness of step, with a feeling of joy bubbling up from deep within. There is absolutely no way to stop you from your quest. You have found out your 'raison d'etre' (reason for existence). Once you have a taste of what it is all about, there is no turning back.

And on the other side of the coin: 

If you are not open, aware or had any awakening of any sort, none of the above-mentioned joy will have the slightest bit of an effect on you. If a person is determined that black is white, and is willing to defend it to the death, there is nothing you or anyone else can say or do to make them hear. They are not ready, yet, to move beyond the fear.

This is what this quote says to me. 

OR.... the quote could simply mean... if you are determined, driven,  or feel called upon to study guitar; then, by any means possible, you will. If you don't want to you won't. It is your perception, once again. You will see whatever you are meant to see in everything.

(This is a repeat from 2014, that I felt it warranted a comeback. D.)

#434

Over-thinking ruins you.
Ruins the situation,
twists things around,
makes you worry and
just makes everything
much worse than it
actually is.

Being in your head .... obsessing, fantasizing imagining, expecting, worrying, doubting, etc. will certainly maintain a maximum stress level for you. Spending your time allowing your fears to occupy your mind and worrying about things that MIGHT happen, you are creating problems that weren't there in the first place.

When you are projecting to the future in this way, it causes stress that will eventually manifest into illness. This is the main point here.... If you are continually worrying about what may happen, you are creating illness. Worry causes stress and stress kills. 

Thoughts can quickly get out of hand.... your imagination runs wild and suddenly you are mistrustful and suspicious, meanwhile, conjuring up a dubious situation that is NOT real. You have no way of knowing what the future will bring and WORRYING ABOUT THINGS THAT MIGHT GO WRONG, DOESN'T MAKE THEM GO RIGHT!

You need to give up thinking that you have control of things you cannot change. Control is an illusion. There is no point in worrying about anything, the world will continue to spin on its axis without your help. What will be, will be. Seriously! 

Don't let yourself get caught up in the fantasy, quit assuming that something will go wrong. Expect only good things and learn to accept the hiccups in life. This is your path... any bumps in the road are to help you and you WILL deal with them. You don't need to manufacture a bigger story. Your story was meant for you and it is exactly the right size.

#433

"Everything
we judge in
others is
something
within
ourselves we
don't want
to face."

We attract people into our lives to mirror the 'less than perfect' fragments of ourselves back at us. This way we can learn to see ourselves, in the reflection of those with whom we interact.

If we choose not to look at what is being shown to us, it will continue to 'show up' in our lives; because the purpose is to reveal the issues within ourselves that we don't want to face. 

So when you get angry, hurt or take offense to what is happening, when someone's actions cause a reaction for you, there is an issue still buried within. There is something you need to look at. Once recognized, this person may have completed his mission with you, this being the sole purpose, or it may be an ongoing awakening. 

It is up to you whether or not you take it any further, work on it, release it, or ignore it. If ignored, it will show up later with this person or someone else, until you 'get it.' This person can be your partner, friend, work colleague, your boss, a parent or anyone you have contact with. Often the person that you have the hardest time with will contribute the most to your growth. In the end...

You WILL be grateful.

When you are judging something about someone, you are actually judging yourself.