#432

And then man created Satan....

because owning up to your own
bullshit is just too damn hard.

Many of the major religions have a dark side character that can lead you astray. If you are not following the rules, it's possible that the 'devil made you do it', so that whatever sin you have committed has an outside force to shoulder the blame. 

Why is it necessary to have someone to blame for everything? When a person does something 'wrong' this attitude is what keeps them from admitting the wrongdoing and accepting the consequences? They know that they can incriminate someone or something outside themselves, and avoid any repercussions.

Seriously, no one can make you do anything, it is ALWAYS a choice, and you are ALWAYS responsible for the choices you make.

You are 100% responsible for your life and everything you choose to say or do. There will be times you wish you could retract the whole thing or shrug it off on someone else but you're still culpable. Even if you get away with it for a time it will haunt you, or you'll be found out. There is really no point in running from the truth, you are only postponing the inevitable, and  allowing  the obsession to continue. You can make it as easy or as hard on yourself as you please.

Owning up to your own bullshit is the only way you will ever find peace.

#431

Life has taught me that you can't control someone's loyalty. 

No matter how good you are to them, doesn't mean they'll treat you the same. 

No matter how much they mean to you, doesn't mean they'll value you the same. 

Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be the people you can trust the least.

-Trent Shelton

It's heartbreaking when you come to the realization that the person that was so important to you, that you trusted with your life, was not the person you thought they were. This is a difficult lesson to learn.

Everyone does not have the same beliefs, ethics or principles. There is a multitude of reasons you might find your beliefs clashing, from cultural to behavioral. The fact is you felt that you could trust someone, they were very important in your life and you found that your feelings were not reciprocated. They have not valued you or treated you with the respect you deserve.

Usually, it's expectations that create the problem, you decide how the person will be and how he will act and then experience deep disappointment when it's not the case. "Expectation is the root of all heartache." Shakespeare. You may have given him your heart but there's no guarantee that he will cherish it. You only wanted what you deserve, but you were expecting it from the wrong person. Not everyone can live up to your expectations. 

All you can do is accept people for who they are and determine if they can fit into your life or not.  Sometimes you get hurt, not everyone will know how to treat you, but that's how you learn what you deserve and what you really want. 

#430

You need to see that life is not always perfect. We will not always get what we want. And though it hurts a lot, what should've  happened, happened. Who should've left, left, and whatever's thrown you off course will always bring you to where it is you need to be.

WHAT WILL BE, WILL BE

There is a flow to life, a natural, organic current that runs through every living thing on the planet creating our movements from one stage to another. 

The flowers bloom in the spring without any fanfare or encouragement, they just explode onto the scene and there they are in all their radiant beauty. They are in the flow, they are not worrying about what the flower next to them is doing or if they should bloom before the trees do, they just burst forth and do what they are meant to do.

We, of course, are meant to do the same, but we get caught up in what the others are doing or what is socially acceptable. This is about us, as humans, we are much more than we give ourselves credit for. We are in control of our own lives and how we act them out. 'Stuff' happens, all the way along the road, little obstacles, that if we learn from them, will not grow into huge mountains that can stop us in our path. We are fully equipped to take care of ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally, we just need to be aware of the power of us. You have planned this course, you know what you need to do... Tune in. 

"Like a wildflower, she spent her days allowing herself to grow. Not many knew of her struggle, but eventually, all knew of her light." Nikki Rowe

#429

You're going to meet people who are intimidated by you. 

You're different.

People don't know how to react or how to accept people who don't follow the crowd....

They are not used to someone who doesn't fit in - so instead of bolstering your uniqueness, they'll try and make you feel like you're weird or damaged.

I'm here to offer some well-earned advice: 

Screw them.

Alfa

You have to know that each of us is unique, we all have our own journey and are loved beyond anything we know.  

Not everyone will understand you, just as you don't understand everyone else. We all have different beliefs according to our environments, upbringing, and exposure to the world. Don't fall into believing or hoping that everyone has the same thoughts or feelings that you do, nothing can be further from the truth. No two people react in exactly the same way, and you will be hurt if you assume that because you care about someone that they are totally on the same wave-length. They have their own thoughts and feelings which may or may not meld with yours. 

Don't ever put yourself in a position where you are being made to feel bad about yourself for just being you. It is our differences that make us unique. Celebrate the fact that you don't follow the crowd, that you have your own thoughts and dreams and see the world in your own original way. You will find others that you will 'fit' with. We all emit a frequency that attracts those of like mind. You attract what you put out.

Let's stop believing that our differences make us superior or inferior to one another.

#428

You either get bitter or you get better. It's that simple. 

You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down.

The choice does not belong to fate.

It belongs to you.

Josh Shipp

So... your worst case scenario has actually happened. The one thing you have spent your life making sure would never happen to you.... happened. NOW WHAT?  You have always been hyper-vigilant in your quest to keep this particular scenario at bay, not once did you think of how you would handle it if it DID happen. It was always just the fear and dread of it happening that took precedence.  It doesn't really matter, you can't prepare for something as devastating as your worst-case scenario. You don't know how you will react until it happens. 

As always there is a reason why these things happen, this is a message. The message is: you need to take a look at your life. You have a lesson, my friend, something needs to be re-examined. You now have the opportunity to take a look at your beliefs and your actions and see what needs some fine tuning.  

The key word here is 'happened', it has already taken place, you can't change it. In fact, it probably happened because you worried about it so intently. What you think about you create. You will find that it is a relief now that it has actually happened, you can stop worrying about it. You manifested this for your own growth. There is no room here for bitterness, or self-recrimination, no one is out to 'get you' quite the opposite, this is to help you become a better person; and believe me, you will. 

Your worst-case scenario is a blessing in disguise.

#427

Once lived, the past has very little value. And yet we carry its lifeless body into all future moments, allowing it to crush us with its weight, to identify us, and to speak for us.

Don Miguel Ruiz

The PAST... it's a very big word, it's all the time spent, the memories, good or bad. It formed us, created our belief system, showed us how to 'BE'. You don't know anything that you didn't learn in your past.

Once you become an adult and start navigating your own life, you can reflect on all that has taken place and decide what serves you now and what doesn't. The problems arise when this isn't done when you continue to function in the past., managing your life with the belief system of yesteryear. 

Are you finding that you are having issues.... does everything make you angry, sad/depressed, lonely, or just plain scared?  Are you finding you have no 'joi de vivre',  that it's too hard to drag yourself out of bed in the morning, just to do the same thing AGAIN? Your family has abandoned you, your friendships have dwindled and your dog has run away from home? (You have all the makings of a country song) 

This is you, trying so hard to live up to your past, to follow all the rules, be a good citizen and carry on. Is this working for you?  Take some time and spend your energy on YOU. 

All the information you downloaded as a child needs to be re-examined. You can re-work what is workable and let go of what doesn't serve you,  but don't just allow your past to speak for you. 

Go with your new updated version.

#426

"We must be willing to let go of the life we've planned, to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell

Let go of the illusion of control. You cannot control everything and everybody around you, and certainly not the future. You have no control over anything, except yourself.

It's okay to have aspirations and dreams, but you really have no idea what's going to happen in an hour let alone in 10 years. 

Your life has been given to you to live each day, not to wait until the time is right to do what you want to do. The time is NOW, that is all there is, nothing else is guaranteed.

If your life is too regimented, if you are too rigid in your approach to life, goal-setting, excelling, advancing, and maintaining,  you are only creating a stressful environment. You are also quite possibly setting yourself up for disappointment. 

Life will flow at its own speed, you will go where you are meant to go when the time is right for you to be there.

You could say it is not in your control, and you'd be right. Let go of the life you have planned, let life happen as it is meant to. There is a life waiting, that couldn't possibly get through all the chaos surrounding you. We create the obstacles in our path, they may be blocking the way to slow us down, to enable us to refocus, regroup, accept and allow life to go on at its own pace. 

We will get to where we need to go exactly when we are meant to be there.