Monday, 20 June 2016


You have to be willing to lose them to keep them. If they feel like you'll stay no matter what, they will never respect you. But as soon as they realize that you're strong enough to live without them, that's when they see your true value.

Tony A. Gaskins Jr.

If you are trying to prove your love and loyalty to someone, assuring them that you'll always be there, that you'll never leave them, no matter what, you are sending the wrong message. Although you may feel that they need the commitment, it's possibly you that actually needs it. 

Where are you in this equation? You are telling them that they are more important than you are. This is about you, your worth, and what you want.

Don't give your life to someone else to manipulate. You need to do what you want/need to do. In a relationship, there is always some compromise, but it needs to be an equal playing field. If you are giving up your needs to accommodate someone else and not receiving the same respect from them, you need to re-think what you are doing and why you are doing it.

It is okay to want someone, to enjoy their company, share interests etc. but if you feel you need them, you are stating that you couldn't survive without them. They are not water or air, but simply someone you have an affinity with. 

The only person you need is YOU. Have a love interest, enjoy them, desire them, let them enhance your life, but don't lose yourself. You are a strong capable human with plenty to offer, make sure that you are on the receiving end of some of it as well. Love yourself first and foremost and know that you are whole, with or without someone else.