we judge in
We attract people into our lives to mirror the 'less than perfect' fragments of ourselves back at us. This way we can learn to see ourselves, in the reflection of those with whom we interact.
If we choose not to look at what is being shown to us, it will continue to 'show up' in our lives; because the purpose is to reveal the issues within ourselves that we don't want to face.
So when you get angry, hurt or take offense to what is happening, when someone's actions cause a reaction for you, there is an issue still buried within. There is something you need to look at. Once recognized, this person may have completed his mission with you, this being the sole purpose, or it may be an ongoing awakening.
It is up to you whether or not you take it any further, work on it, release it, or ignore it. If ignored, it will show up later with this person or someone else, until you 'get it.' This person can be your partner, friend, work colleague, your boss, a parent or anyone you have contact with. Often the person that you have the hardest time with will contribute the most to your growth. In the end...
You WILL be grateful.
When you are judging something about someone, you are actually judging yourself.