"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards. They try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first, be who you really are, then do what you really need to do in order to have what you want." Margaret Young
First you need to be who you really are.... I think a large majority of us have had this backwards. Most of us hopped right to it, immediately school was finished and started our lives of accumulation. This seemed to be the symbol that we were successful, that we were OK. There was no time to think about who we were, we were working with the program that had been installed.
I remember all the kids in the 60's that went off to find themselves; and the negative comments of the adults concerning their laziness, how they were drop outs and a burden on society. Well, I think those words can now be eaten, it appears that they were the ones that knew what they were doing.
Comments such as these are only showing the fear of the adults of the time. Their trepidation was that their children would not make it in the world, that they were not following the rules and that maybe they would end up having to support them. These are common reactions when when a person outwardly expresses a desire to be who they are. People find this hard to cope with. They have expectations of their children, and probably haven't given much thought to what that child wants.... such was the thinking of that generation.
I think we now know that inner exploration could be the most important thing you do. If you don't do it when you are young, you will, at some point, feel the urge to find out who you really are. What a wondrous journey!