Monday, 13 July 2015


#264


You don't have to disrespect and insult others simply to hold your own ground. If you do, that shows how shaky your own position is. Red Haircrow 

You don't need to knock others down to build yourself up.

If you are feeling 'less than', the onus is on you, don't take it out on others. No one has to, or wants to put up with temper tantrums, bad moods, excuses, name calling or belittling. That's what bullies are made of. There is something within that needs work.

If your main objective is to 'win' at all costs, if you would rather be right than be happy or if you are frequently creating an angry scene (with all that entails); it is a signal to take a look at these issues. 

If you jump up and down trying to prove that you are right, or demand that everyone accept that you are right, or display angry, aggressive, or threatening behaviour to ensure that you are right, there is a problem.

So with all that on the table, how do you handle a crisis, a major incident or a simple situation? Take a deep breathe. This is about you, if you are still blaming someone else, you are the problem, not the solution. You need to buck up and be accountable for whatever 'stuff' you are hanging onto, whatever 'stuff' you are blaming and whatever disrespect and insults you are slinging. 

Disrespect and insults are not OK, there is no justification for either. It is never the way to make yourself look or feel better. You have to love yourself, then you have no reason to 'look down' on other people. When you feel good about yourself, you will feel good about others.

Never look down on someone, unless you are helping them up.