Monday, 30 March 2015


There are two sides to every story....

We have heard this expression throughout our lives many times. But it really comes into focus, concerning judgement. 

I think most people experience judgement and find themselves criticizing others. We form an opinion about some person or action. Our viewpoint is derived from our own experiences and may or may not be 'on the money.' 

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as WE are." Anais Nin

There is no way we have any idea what is going on in anyone else's brain; and therefore we have no business coming up with any opinion whatsoever as to why the situation is what it is. But that doesn't stop our beliefs from rising to the surface and usually out of our mouths; no doubt to insert our foot. 

The same principle can be applied to other circumstances where you might make a judgement call, judge a book by it's cover or perhaps make a snap judgement concerning some situation. Perhaps two people witness a car accident and come up with different accounts of the same  event. You may assume that one of them has ulterior motives or is simply lying, because he didn't see things as you thought they were. Not necessarily true, they saw what they saw, and you saw what you saw.

We can give our opinion, but what others are doing is none of our business. Judgement is the bottom feeder of the negativity pool and always reflects on you. It makes you look bad and often feel bad, as well. Everyone has their story, and no one person is better than another. We are just different. Everyone has special talents and things they don't excel at.

There are always two sides to every story, don't jump to conclusions no matter what you think you see or hear. Everyone is entitled to their own truth without any judgement from anyone.