Tuesday, 10 March 2015


Draw a circle around yourself....

To live your best life, it's best to surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you; and hopefully you can do the same for them. Therefore, only associate with people that are positive, loving and caring. 

Because you are in charge of your life, you would think this would be easy. But some of the people in your circle came with the territory ... your family or co-workers, for example. You may have issues with some of these people and have no way of distancing yourself from them. They may have already crossed all your boundaries and don't seem to know when to quit or that 'no' means 'no'. 

Ask yourself, 'What is in this for me?' 'Am I giving more than I am receiving?' 'Do these people encourage, inspire, or make your life better in any way?' 

The time comes where you need to take care of you. You need to draw the circle and only invite in the people that are 'there' for you. It may be time to let some of these people go, in order to allow new relationships and opportunities to take their place. You will not be open to anything new if you continue to hang around people that suck the life out of you. 

It is never easy to break off long standing associations, but sometimes it is necessary. It is one thing to be forgiving and understanding and quite another to be shouldering the entire burden. If the person in question is too much to bear, then simply end it. It is OK to end something that is of no benefit to you. There is no reason to feel guilty, it is just no longer viable.

You want to have people in your circle that are participating with you, that are sympathetic, trustworthy, helpful and kind. People that you can trust to be 'there' for you. And remember, it is a two way street. You will also need to 'step up' for them in return.